OB1
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It's not patronising: it's nature and I have seen it happen multiple times.
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Life without kids??
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It's not patronising: it's nature and I have seen it happen multiple times.
Bigga
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I have two boys, nearly seven and almost five, the youngest being autistic with very basic verbal communication.
That was hard, learning to learn a different way of knowing your child.
As he's only five he's still learning himself, of course, but the moments of receiving a kiss from the eldest, out of the blue as I lay on the couch, to my little 'un draping himself around me and pulling my arms over him is untold joy. I never take anything like this for granted as I never learned it as a child.
Far far outweighs the irritating times they can bring!
That was hard, learning to learn a different way of knowing your child.
As he's only five he's still learning himself, of course, but the moments of receiving a kiss from the eldest, out of the blue as I lay on the couch, to my little 'un draping himself around me and pulling my arms over him is untold joy. I never take anything like this for granted as I never learned it as a child.
Far far outweighs the irritating times they can bring!
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Times were hard in my village...Christ, at least my mum and dad waited till they were 32 and 36 respectively
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I dunno if I want kids and while I'm thinking that I won't have any as once you do there is no going back. Heard way too many stories of people who regret having kids and what their life has become and there being no escape from it. Maybe I'll change my mind, maybe I won't. But I do think it's something you have to be 100% on board with. Even if you have the smallest doubt you shouldn't take the risk.
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Millwallawayveteran1988
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Other things I have found after going through it twice is that they are incredibly messy! If you like neat and tidy you will not sit down ever!
Oh and your partner will probably change too. I have seen this loads including mine. Being a mum is the most important thing! It's something that you have to adapt to and grow with.
Kids are good fun but hard work. It doesn't get any easier when they hit 17/18 onwards either. The worry of them coming home at night and not getting into fights is a problem. Their emotional pain can hurt you and they never stop expecting money off you!
Oh and your partner will probably change too. I have seen this loads including mine. Being a mum is the most important thing! It's something that you have to adapt to and grow with.
Kids are good fun but hard work. It doesn't get any easier when they hit 17/18 onwards either. The worry of them coming home at night and not getting into fights is a problem. Their emotional pain can hurt you and they never stop expecting money off you!
kaz7
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I was told by countless people i would change my mind when i got married and got older,used to really piss me off, now i get i bet you regret not having them,NO I DON'T,don't put constant pressure on women who don't want them please
Rant over lol
Rant over lol
quiet_riot
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You will change your mind.
First I want to say that this reply isn't meant to be any offence to you personally.
Having said that "oh you'll change your mind" is the most patronising thing that people with children can say.
I really won't, I have zero interest in having children and I speak for all childless couples when I say that we really couldn't give a shit for hearing about what little Johnny is up to now either.
THANK YOU.
I am sick of people saying that i will change my mind, or "it'll just happen" - it just happening is why we have so many little scrotes producing even littler scrotes. Some of us are able to control pregnancy, and will do, because we just don't want it.
hilts
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I think if both people don't want children it is pretty straightforward really but in the ops case if she does and he doesn't there are only two options, he should relent or they should go there separate ways. It really does depend on how strongly he feels really.
I was told by countless people i would change my mind when i got married and got older,used to really piss me off, now i get i bet you regret not having them,NO I DON'T,don't put constant pressure on women who don't want them please
Rant over lol
Ditto (except for the being a woman bit!). I do have a stepson though.
Never wanted my own kids for one bloody good reason. I don't fucking like them.