Life without kids??

Ric said:
Must admit I'm looking forward to the day where I have to wake them up.
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Ha, it's a strange one as you think the day will never come where you don't have to get up early. Then suddenly, it's happened and you can't remember when. I still get up early but it's nice getting up of your own accord.
 
Millwallawayveteran1988 said:
I love em but find it hard work, especially the early years which are brutal at times. I found it a bit easier from about 6 onwards!
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I've a 2 year old boy, and a 3month old girl, And it is hard work, I'm a year into running my own business too... Put it this way, I've slept more in my life! But I would not change a thing - In fact I'd take 10times more strife if I had to. "They change your life" doesn't quite explain it, they change the depth you experience everything; love, worry, pride, excitement... They are fuckin mint!!!

Sayin that I can't stay off bluemoon during transfer time for more than an hour at most! City losing still puts me in a mood that I end up feeling guilty for, incase its impacting on the kids without me knowing! And I had to give up my season ticket till the little mans old enough... But I can't wait to share City with em - god I hope they love it like I have
 
I'm 43, I got engaged in 2000 and married my girl in 2005. We never had any children. I made a decision if I didn't have one at 40 I was never going to. My wife who is younger wanted one, so we did. One shot! Lethal like Aguero :) Anyway. After years of doing what we wanted, incredible hols, Hawaii, Miami were destinations. Nights out an meals every weekend, short breaks away, we had our son. He's now 2. It turned my life upside down. I stopped doing everything I liked and my wife changed completely. Life for us both is now all about our son. I miss some of the things I did before, in fact I miss a lot! But I created something with my wife that I now could not be more proud of. Everything he does amazes me. I have established a deeper love than I have ever known. It's been hard, would I have had a child younger? maybe, was I happy with my life before? I had a great life, but somehow it felt empty! One thing I know now, its harder , I had to grow up and been responsible, I know now my life will never, ever, again be empty! And that I will be very proud, not just now, but always. for that I'm incredibly thankful. Good luck with the decision.
 
RACHACE said:
A bit of a spin off from the too old thread but has anybody on here decided against having children?

Do you feel fulfilled?
Was it a joint decision with your partner?
Do you regret it?

I'm in a situation where in general I've always said that I don't want to have children. On the odd occasion my missus and I have "romanticised" about the prospect but in the end always decided that they are not for us.

Been with my missus over 10 years and in that time the subject has come up id say no mote than 3-4 times and never seriously either until now.

My wife wants us to try but I'm still seeing my future without children and looking forward to it too. However, I love her to bits and want get to be happy and it's very hard to basically tell her that she won't be a mother married to me.

Bit of a dilemma but I believe that if you both don't want children then you shouldn't have them.

In her defence she's never once demanded we try but I know she's feeling sad at the moment because I'm not willing to try.

So are kids really all that?
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If you love the woman which you clearly do have a kid with her, I can't imagine how bad you will both feel when you pass the shit it's too late point, imagine in your 50's her feeling a bit resentful and you feeling a bit selfish. In a relationship your partners happiness is the most important thing.
If it doesn't work out I will adopt them for you.

* the last sentence is not a legal obligation
 
I've never been desperate for kids and I got lucky in the fact the girl I married is even more sure that she never wants kids than I am.

She's also a teacher, so gets her fill of the little fuckers every day at work.

I have noticed a running theme on this thread and amongst our friends that have had kids. The parents completely change, it's like a scary zombie/epidemic film where everyone infected suddenly can't hear their little sweethearts screaming in restaurants and think the rest of us need several pictoral updates of how their slug looks everyday on Facebook.

Big nope.
 
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r.soleofsalford said:
just saying, sometimes the pull to have children is stronger than the love between man and wife
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Make no mistake about it. The relationship between man and woman is always weaker than the relationship between a woman and her children. In other words once you have children you are going to be the weakest member of the family.
 
SWP's back said:
I've never been desperate for kids and I got lucky in the fact the girl I married is even more sure that she never wants kids than I am.

She's also a teacher, so gets her fill of the little fuckers every day at work.

I have noticed a running theme on this thread and amongst our friends that have had kids. The parents completely change, it's like a scary zombie/epidemic film where everyone infected suddenly can't hear their little sweethearts screaming in restaurants and think the rest of us need several pictoral updates of how their slug looks everyday on Facebook.

Big nope.
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You will change your mind.
 
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