loneliness

[rushts]

Thanks for the replies everyone. Genuinely appreciated. I think lying in bed, trapped in my own thoughts got the better of me last night.

Try a different username on them date sites mate. I think it may be putting the girls off.

 

[BimboBob]

Thanks for the replies everyone. Genuinely appreciated. I think lying in bed, trapped in my own thoughts got the better of me last night.

Try a different username on them date sites mate. I think it may be putting the girls off.

Good with Goths though. Are you keen on Goths foetus? They like to be miserable at parties as well.

 

[dronefromsector7g]

Thanks for the replies everyone. Genuinely appreciated. I think lying in bed, trapped in my own thoughts got the better of me last night.

Try a different username on them date sites mate. I think it may be putting the girls off.

Probably popular with the paedos though.

 

[foetus]

Anyone else suffer it?

Been struggling with it for a while. I'm generally a pretty happy go lucky kinda guy but I feel like I'll never find a missus. My confidence seems to be getting worse and worse. I'm only 24 but pretty much all my mates are in long term relationships I feel left out and I don't have that best mate who relies on me anymore.

Gets me down when nothing's around to take my mind off it. Anyway, advice would be welcome. Please don't take the piss too hard.

A relationship isn't the be all and end all to life. Nowhere near. For me, love is a more dangerous emotion than hate. I'm happy hating the odd c**t (bullies, people who hold prejudice, U****d) but love has seen me make some truly irrational and, on occasions, dangerous decisions. Thankfully I've lived to tell the tale. People who are only ever in relationships or need a relationship to function need to take a look in the mirror.

Why do you want a best mate to rely on you? The only person you can truly rely on is yourself. Everyone else will come and go throughout life. I have a handful of wonderful friends from all walks of life but I know full well it's largely about me to get stuff done. I just pull in help when I need it.

Loneliness is a killer. I was truly miserable for about two years in my mid 20's when I moved away from everyone for work. I only put my finger on it when I had a great night out with awesome people. I'd needed company. No man is an island.

Hope this helps.

I'm fine during the day. Just get down in the evening when lying in bed at night, usually bored, wishing I had someone to bounce ideas/thoughts off.

The thing that gets me with my mates is that they don't seem to put in the effort anymore. The usual excuses not to come out are "hanging with the gf" or "not enough money" (even though they've just gone on a weekend trip with the missus the weekend before). Even when I plan things a few weeks in advance I always get replied with a "maybe" or some other reply which hints they're not interested in the slightest.

I'm in that awkward stage where it's a transition between going out partying every weekend or settling down with a missus. I guess I'm still keen for the party side but my mates aren't. I find myself getting very bored, which in turn gives me too much time to ponder on negative thoughts.

 

[IanBishopsHaircut]

Anyone else suffer it?

Been struggling with it for a while. I'm generally a pretty happy go lucky kinda guy but I feel like I'll never find a missus. My confidence seems to be getting worse and worse. I'm only 24 but pretty much all my mates are in long term relationships I feel left out and I don't have that best mate who relies on me anymore.

Gets me down when nothing's around to take my mind off it. Anyway, advice would be welcome. Please don't take the piss too hard.

A relationship isn't the be all and end all to life. Nowhere near. For me, love is a more dangerous emotion than hate. I'm happy hating the odd c**t (bullies, people who hold prejudice, U****d) but love has seen me make some truly irrational and, on occasions, dangerous decisions. Thankfully I've lived to tell the tale. People who are only ever in relationships or need a relationship to function need to take a look in the mirror.

Why do you want a best mate to rely on you? The only person you can truly rely on is yourself. Everyone else will come and go throughout life. I have a handful of wonderful friends from all walks of life but I know full well it's largely about me to get stuff done. I just pull in help when I need it.

Loneliness is a killer. I was truly miserable for about two years in my mid 20's when I moved away from everyone for work. I only put my finger on it when I had a great night out with awesome people. I'd needed company. No man is an island.

Hope this helps.

I'm fine during the day. Just get down in the evening when lying in bed at night, usually bored, wishing I had someone to bounce ideas/thoughts off.

The thing that gets me with my mates is that they don't seem to put in the effort anymore. The usual excuses not to come out are "hanging with the gf" or "not enough money" (even though they've just gone on a weekend trip with the missus the weekend before). Even when I plan things a few weeks in advance I always get replied with a "maybe" or some other reply which hints they're not interested in the slightest.

I'm in that awkward stage where it's a transition between going out partying every weekend or settling down with a missus. I guess I'm still keen for the party side but my mates aren't. I find myself getting very bored, which in turn gives me too much time to ponder on negative thoughts.

Do you not go to the game kid?

Only time I ever get to socialise with my mates these days

 

[foetus]

Do you not go to the game kid?

Only time I ever get to socialise with my mates these days

I don't live in England. My mates aren't into football anyway.

 

[Phil Meup]

Thanks for the replies everyone. Genuinely appreciated. I think lying in bed, trapped in my own thoughts got the better of me last night.

Try a different username on them date sites mate. I think it may be putting the girls off.

Lol

Great thread this OP. I often feel crippled by loneliness - it's horrible.
You are young tho & needn't worry - but you may be depressed as others have said (I wouldn't go down the happy pills route tho'). There are other things you could try.
Have you had a look at meet-up.com? You might find something interesting on there.
Other than that, just try & get through it - it's always darkest before the dawn (apparently).
Re internet dating: this is fkin soul-destroying. It's certainly not the answer to all your dreams, although maybe some get lucky!
You're not alone mate!

 

[johnny on the spot]

I miss Manchester like fuck. I even miss Stalybridge and leap gleefully off the train and speed luggage-laden up to my mum's house. I miss the hills, which to me have always given that feeling like sleeping on the wall side of the bed. I miss our cats, the pony, the collie. I miss my brother and sister and my friends. I miss my childhood haunts. It's shit coming back from there. You really don't know what you've got til it's gone.

 

[ColinBellsjockstrap]

Really, nobody has any excuse to be lonely these days.

With modern technology you have facebook, Skype, internet dating sites, forums to chat to like minded people like this one, you are obviously in a bit of a rut and need to drag yourself out of it.

Good luck, take each day as it comes and try not to dwell on things, that never does any good, just compounds the problem.

 

[johnny on the spot]

I see it differently to CBJS.

Loneliness isn't a disease of the trepid, more an affliction of the distant loved.