loneliness

[foetus]

Really, nobody has any excuse to be lonely these days.

With modern technology you have facebook, Skype, internet dating sites, forums to chat to like minded people like this one, you are obviously in a bit of a rut and need to drag yourself out of it.

Good luck, take each day as it comes and try not to dwell on things, that never does any good, just compounds the problem.

How though?

Facebook and forums can only stimulate you so much.

Traveling is fun but I find I get homesick quite easily. I've never really traveled with a group of friends because they are in relationships or have other excuses not to travel. I actually have a NZ trip booked for July with a couple of mates..but they're taking their gf's so I'm gonna be 5th wheel. I'm still looking forward to it.

Dating sites/apps are quite daunting as I'm pretty low on confidence at the moment. Whenever I'm around girls I've just met I assume they won't see anything in me and doubt myself too much. I've never been confident with girls but my confidence has seemed to nosedive in the last year. It doesn't help that people compare me to my brother (who got all the good genes, is rich, good with girls etc).

I wouldn't classify myself as depressed. I generally enjoy life, don't mind my job, have enough money to go to concerts and nightclubs etc. Just feel lonely when I see all the posts of people on my facebook happy in a relationship and getting married and all that stuff.

 

[johnny on the spot]

Foetus, if it you're not right , you're not right mate.

Listen to this.

[video]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-iRAQWvem8[/video]

And if you're still not alright, you look me up on PMs. Because I'll stick my short pommy arm around you and we will work this out.

Chin up, because the Black Dog's a ****.

 

[BlueHammer85]

I've been like you in recent months. It's crap seeing mates all having kids and getting married - all I can guarentee and especially at your age, you will find someone. It might be next week, next year or another 5 years. It will happen.

Until then ... Keep up exercising , gym, football, whatever. Eat well, focus on your job, listen to your music and be yourself - don't give a f*ck what people think of you but be nice to everyone.

When the day comes that your with somebody - I want you to start a new thread and post 'Rock n Roll Star' - I will crack open a beer for you my friend.

You have all the time in the world. Enjoy your single life whilst you can. It may be the last time. Up the hammers.

 

[ChicagoBlue]

Anyone else suffer it?

Been struggling with it for a while. I'm generally a pretty happy go lucky kinda guy but I feel like I'll never find a missus. My confidence seems to be getting worse and worse. I'm only 24 but pretty much all my mates are in long term relationships I feel left out and I don't have that best mate who relies on me anymore.

Gets me down when nothing's around to take my mind off it. Anyway, advice would be welcome. Please don't take the piss too hard.

You're 24 mate...you have plenty of time to find the right woman for you...shit...I'm 42 on Friday and still not found her (Albeit i've been through half the female population of the world looking for her)

You'll be fine honest...there is somebody for everyone out there...try online dating if you're having no luck when out on the town

I'm 46 and about to dump the current nag. Count your blessings son.

Only 46? Must be getting out while the FAs still think of you as Captain Catch! ;-)
Also, does the term "current" imply she is already #2?!

 

[Le Havre Oswald]

I miss Manchester like fuck. I even miss Stalybridge and leap gleefully off the train and speed luggage-laden up to my mum's house. I miss the hills, which to me have always given that feeling like sleeping on the wall side of the bed. I miss our cats, the pony, the collie. I miss my brother and sister and my friends. I miss my childhood haunts. It's shit coming back from there. You really don't know what you've got til it's gone.

Where do you live now and when was the last time you was in bridge?

Its gone down hill now. Full of methheads and snaps

 

[idahoblues]

Mate, at 24 you've got a lot of hairy pie in your future and great friends you can't even imagine exist. You're just feeling a little punk, forget all this bullshit about being clinically depressed.......

ever read Jonathan Livingstone Seagull or Oh the places you'll go(Dr Seuss).....go with the flow bro

 

[ob]

OP it's a horrible feeling thought you have plenty of time to find her. I'm 53 and think I let mine slip through my fingers because it wasn't meant to be at the time (I thought).

Living on my own in south London and only person I know is my ex so can at times be very very lonely but I try and make most of it. I do stuff on my own, go to gigs, exhibitions, museums etc

Even people I work with live over hour and half away.

Sometimes like the fact no one to answer to but other times get lonely. I remember one New Years Eve in pub at end of my road on way home from work drinking on my own and realised didn't know one other person in my area.

If you need to chat OP send me PM

would it be inappropriate to ask for pics at this stage?

(p.s - get on the internet old chum! - times online)

lol mate no pics unfortunately, might give it a go during summer with no city, cheers

 

[ob]

Living on my own in south London and only person I know is my ex so can at times be very very lonely but I try and make most of it. I do stuff on my own, go to gigs, exhibitions, museums etc

I'm fairly sure I saw you for curry on my 35th... Everyone there liked you. We're looking at a regular pub for next season too so things will pick up in that respect.

Had good night that night cheers mate, usually I'm fine just sometimes something triggers off that old black cloud

 

[bgblue]

One of the most lonely times I've ever felt, is laying in bed next to a girl I didn't want to be with. The grass isn't always greener

 

[TangerineSteve17]

Take it easy OP. I'll just reiterate what others have said, that you're young and there is plenty of time to meet someone if that's what you want and if you think that's the cure.

If you do get very down though try to think of something you have a passion in and do that. It's when you become passionless things get more serious.

All the best