trotsky
Well-Known Member
I can answer that using how i was brought up as my basis for reasoning...
It is neglect plain and simple. There are no mitigating circumstances here at all. You go on holiday with the kids, it is for the kids. Any parent putting anything above that are neglectful so and so's who deserve all the scorn poured upon them. My mum would have sun cream an inch thick on me along with the regulatory t-shirt over the top of that. Everything involved me, the young kid totally reliant on my mothers ability to protect and raise me. If i went out of her sight she made sure the world stopped until i was safe and sound.
The word is full of danger and i was brought up to understand your child is beyond paramount, literally nothing comes before them, not even your next lung full of air. My mother was at the time a functioning middle class alcoholic type but even that was not strong enough to stop her seeing me as the absolute priority in her life. If i had the flu, i'd wake up and mum was sat there watching me, all night!
Now if we take the view they were not involved they are at least guilty of leaving a kid, barely out of being a toddler alone whilst they enjoyed a lovely evening with other adults. For myself i find them absolutely guilty of the childs death/kidnap. I say this because the child has no awareness or understanding where they can take matters into their own hands. That child was at the mercy of their parents and they failed her on a large level.
My mum is absolute about this and it has rubbed off on me. Others may differ but personally i have nothing but anger and disdain for the parents. They failed a child totally reliant on them for what? a good old chat and glass of wine? They deserve the heartache as cold as it sounds because it was their choice to leave a young child alone.
The pandering to their heartache makes me angry to be honest. YOU are the adult and had a huge responsibility, YOU failed that child. Nothing anyone says can negate that.
It's hard to argue with that - our family parties the coats got put under the table for the kids to kip on. Those children were so small they should have fell asleep in their parents arms; if the parents wanted a few more drinks then why not go back to the apartment with kids?