My wife is crazy and it's getting to be a problem.

[Mazzarelli's Swiss Cheese]

My first marriage lasted 11 months (way back in 1971) and I started seeing an old girlfriend from school. We`ve now been married 48 years come 19th July. (seriously)

That first one doesn't count mate. That lad that has been in the doghouse for going to Istanbul has suffered more.

 

[Le Havre Oswald]

Dad?

 

[mancboy]

…..and buy a red sports car or a noisy motorbike.

a RED sportscar , no crisis in the world is making me buy a red car

 

[metalblue]

Should have gone to Istanbul.
Has soon as I booked after the Madrid game mine stopped talking to me,i was only away 5 days,3 full days . Its about 8 weeks now she has totally blanked me for now

Do you know what’s upset her? It obviously wasn’t you as you weren’t there.

 

[Sir peace frog]

we are only hearing one side to this, for all we know the op is fucking crazy and his missus is right to fuck him off

 

[madloaf]

Should have gone to Istanbul.
Has soon as I booked after the Madrid game mine stopped talking to me,i was only away 5 days,3 full days . Its about 8 weeks now she has totally blanked me for now

Post hoc ergo propter hoc.

 

[aguero93:20]

There is literally nothing I can do or say that doesn't end up with her taking offense and yelling at me. If I clean the kitchen it means I think she's a woman who doesn't know how to keep a clean kitchen. If I ask her if she bought toothpaste recently it's not because I want to know if we need toothpaste it's because I think she's a woman who never buys things we need. If I send her flowers at work I'm an asshole who thinks that sending flowers will make up for all of the horrible shit I do like asking if we have toothpaste. One time she literally left me and moved back in with her parents because I... CLEANED THE KITCHEN!!!!!

She has this habit of taking out one of our dogs without a leash or collar to identify him, she just takes him out with nothing. Here's how that went:

Me: He's a very skittish dog who runs away if something scares him, can you please at least put his collar on him so if somebody finds him they'll know where he belongs?

Her: I'M ALWAYS THE ONE WHO TAKES HIM OUT (she's not)!!!!!!! YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING FOR HIM (I do)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like, I just don't want to lose my dog. I don't think there is a sane person who could argue with putting a name tag on a dog. When I take him out I put a leash on him, he does his thing and we come back inside.

I'm at the point where I can't even talk to her because I'm so sick of the bullshit. I make dinner and I don't tell her it's ready or even offer her any, I just leave it on the counter in case she wants to eat it. I know that me making dinner and setting a place for her at the table will be taken as some sort of insult and I just don't want to deal with it.

Try bringing her and the dogs camping.

 

[bluegirl74]

As a self confessed woman and occasional over-reacter, but with no other qualifications or experience to comment more knowledgeably on this subject, it's important to always remember one thing in relationships. And that's quite simple - just don't be a ****.

Treat the other person, whoever that is, man, woman or some other self proclaimed identifier, as you'd like to be treated. I.e. with love, respect and honesty. And expect to be treated likewise in return. Don't behave badly to someone but then expect to be treated like a king/queen in return.

And if you can't have a genuine conversation about this basic concept with the person that you share your life with, then something has gone horribly wrong at some point.

OP, I hope that you can manage to talk to your wife about the problems that you're having as it seems that you do want to find a resolution. It may be that there's a medical issue behind it, or it may be the culmination of something which happened a long time ago which has gone unchecked and festered. Maybe now that you've vented a bit on here, you'll be in a better place to have a conversation at home (acknowledging entirely that it takes 2 people to talk and that you can't have a conversation with someone who won't engage. But at least then you'll know whether there's a relationship to save).

 

[mexico1970]

As a self confessed woman and occasional over-reacter, but with no other qualifications or experience to comment more knowledgeably on this subject, it's important to always remember one thing in relationships. And that's quite simple - just don't be a ****.

If you're not already married you bloody well should be, simply concise and honest it makes perfect sense mate.

 

[aguero93:20]

As a self confessed woman and occasional over-reacter, but with no other qualifications or experience to comment more knowledgeably on this subject, it's important to always remember one thing in relationships. And that's quite simple - just don't be a ****.

What's option b?