On the contrary, I've succeeded as a parent, according to my lights. I never let my parents make my choices for me, I have always been ferociously independent of family pressure (and indeed peer group pressure). It's the way I roll.
I have brought him up to have the same mindset. It's given me some real old shocks. As a an old sixties hippie, it was not easy to take it on board when over twenty years ago he announced to his mother and me that he was joining the army. He's still there and, being how he is, he's capable of being critical of the army and the way it works. It's the way he rolls.