Quitting work on the spot

blueinsa said:
I wish I could walk. My workplace is toxic, it’s killing me and my mental health but I live in a part of the country where jobs are scarce and I need to earn what I do to take care of my family. 44 hours a week trapped in what feels like a black hole.

Best of luck to the OP, do what feels right and what makes you happy.
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If you can't find something where you are, you should look for something further away and a fresh start.

As you aren't doing your family any favours long-term by staying in that black hole.
 
My advice for what it's worth...

- unless you are genuinely sick, and unless you are suffering mental health issues, or unless you are a liar, don't go down that route. Otherwise you are burning your personal integrity for a guy who is a wanker
- accept the fact that he really does not like you at all and wants you gone. This gives you leverage
- arrange (don't ask, just go) a 1-2-1 with him 1st thing tomorrow and front-up the above. Tell him the feeling is mutual and you are there to find a solution that works for you both
- propose a 6 month pay-off and you will walk away without raising a formal Grievance against him
- have a copy of his (likely drunken) rant with you and make sure he sees that you have it
- arrange a meeting with HR to follow immediately after your meeting with him. Make sure he knows this is happening
- depending on how the CEO 1-2-1 goes, approach the HR meeting accordingly. Make it clear to them that you want to explore with them the 2 lines of Formal Grievance and Constructive dismissal
when you see the CEO be calm, clear and determined. He's a bully and a wanker, you are a decent person. Keep these things uppermost in your mind.

Good luck.
 
If I could walk out tomorrow I most definitely would, but I feel trapped.

I've worked myself up in the NHS starting at the very bottom and now run a department of around 25 people. I always had the ambition to get as high up as I could, but having got to the position of responsibility, I now regret it.

It's not the job itself, I can do it with my eyes shut. It's the responsibility of covering a 24 hour department and covering shifts that are impossible with the low staffing levels we have and are currently in a recruitment ban. Stresses me out no end, and the phone calls/text messages out of hours and weekends are a killer and cause a lot of mither at home.

Only realised that my notice period is 3 months after starting to look elsewhere which is blocking me going for jobs that are a 'step back down' for less stress. Any would be employer isn't going to wait for me to work 3 months notice when they can have someone in post in 4 weeks. I also don't have any real qualifications having worked my way up from the bottom, so feel like I'll be overlooked for any job at the level I'm at now (or above) as although I have experience, I'll be competing against degrees etc.

Horrible feeling.
 
Hand your resignation in and work your notice. I've not read the full thread so I'm not not sure what your notice period is, if its longer than 4 weeks then haggle to get it reduced. It isn't in the interest of either party to work your full notice.

I'm genuinley not being an arse here and looking out for your career. Don't let the current circumstances get you down. You must have a decent career, go through a month of pain to maintain your form and find a new opportunity.
 
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SkyBlueFlux said:
I’ve been weighing up leaving my job for some time. In short, the CEO is an egotist. Which would be fine… many of them are and I’ve dealt with worse… problem is he is my line manager. He completely ignores me 99% of the time but when he’s got a bee in his bonnet about something the other 1% of the time he will be a totally unbearable shit.

The big issue is that that 99% of the time he ignores me is when I need things to do my role e.g., people in my team, budget, sign-off on work. It makes it impossible to functionally do a good job. Which makes it all the more galling when he pulls me up on something I’ve been asking about for months.

The final straw was last night when he sent me a long rant at 11pm on a Saturday. A long rant in which he was unhappy with something I’d done. I take huge issue with some of his reasoning about this particular thing - but his tone was deeply unpleasant and it seemed like he was honestly a bit drunk.

I’ve drafted up my resignation letter, I won’t be disrespected. I’m going to send it tomorrow as a nice early Christmas present. I don’t have anything lined up though so hold a place in the queue for me at the soup kitchen. People might advise me to wait until I have something new but I’m not waiting because I have a long notice period plus it is impacting my mental health tossing and turning at night… not to mention the principle of it.

Has anybody else taken a leap of faith and quit on the spot? Any creative suggestions for serving my notice? (Before anybody suggests it, I’m not shitting anywhere)
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Quick question; does the fella in question travel on trains?

;-)
 
SkyBlueFlux said:
I’ve been weighing up leaving my job for some time. In short, the CEO is an egotist. Which would be fine… many of them are and I’ve dealt with worse… problem is he is my line manager. He completely ignores me 99% of the time but when he’s got a bee in his bonnet about something the other 1% of the time he will be a totally unbearable shit.

The big issue is that that 99% of the time he ignores me is when I need things to do my role e.g., people in my team, budget, sign-off on work. It makes it impossible to functionally do a good job. Which makes it all the more galling when he pulls me up on something I’ve been asking about for months.

The final straw was last night when he sent me a long rant at 11pm on a Saturday. A long rant in which he was unhappy with something I’d done. I take huge issue with some of his reasoning about this particular thing - but his tone was deeply unpleasant and it seemed like he was honestly a bit drunk.

I’ve drafted up my resignation letter, I won’t be disrespected. I’m going to send it tomorrow as a nice early Christmas present. I don’t have anything lined up though so hold a place in the queue for me at the soup kitchen. People might advise me to wait until I have something new but I’m not waiting because I have a long notice period plus it is impacting my mental health tossing and turning at night… not to mention the principle of it.

Has anybody else taken a leap of faith and quit on the spot? Any creative suggestions for serving my notice? (Before anybody suggests it, I’m not shitting anywhere)
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I didn’t quite quit on the spot but I left my previous job and started up on my own. Fed up of being treated like a piece of shit and I’ve never looked back.
It’s given me the time and freedom to further educate myself and do other things in my life which I would have never been able to do stuck in the commercial world working where I have always done.
I have always told people to take a leap of faith in life, so I hope it all works out for you mate.
Those who dare to take leaps of faith often discover that courage can be the wings that lift them to extraordinary heights.
 
Blackley_Blue said:
If I could walk out tomorrow I most definitely would, but I feel trapped.

I've worked myself up in the NHS starting at the very bottom and now run a department of around 25 people. I always had the ambition to get as high up as I could, but having got to the position of responsibility, I now regret it.

It's not the job itself, I can do it with my eyes shut. It's the responsibility of covering a 24 hour department and covering shifts that are impossible with the low staffing levels we have and are currently in a recruitment ban. Stresses me out no end, and the phone calls/text messages out of hours and weekends are a killer and cause a lot of mither at home.

Only realised that my notice period is 3 months after starting to look elsewhere which is blocking me going for jobs that are a 'step back down' for less stress. Any would be employer isn't going to wait for me to work 3 months notice when they can have someone in post in 4 weeks. I also don't have any real qualifications having worked my way up from the bottom, so feel like I'll be overlooked for any job at the level I'm at now (or above) as although I have experience, I'll be competing against degrees etc.

Horrible feeling.
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Full respect to you mate for what you’ve achieved - and sorry you feel trapped. My wife gets upset at me often for replying to work emails out of hours and she’s right to… in my case it is almost like conditioning because ignoring them always made things immeasurably worse. Eventually you learn to respond because it is an easier life, and then monitoring your phone consumes you. In your case it’s likely even worse because it’s an obligation of your role rather than just something you’re implicitly penalised for.

The 3 month notice is a blocker for me too, I came across a few contracting roles in the last few weeks since I started thinking of leaving but they all required immediate starts. That’s part of the reason why I’m getting my notice in without anything lined up. I just have to back myself to find something I think.

You sound like somebody who would be hugely valuable to other teams so don’t give up looking for something new. My plan is to knock on a few friendly doors and make some enquiries. Maybe you can do the same? In my experience networking has a better success rate than just applying to roles speculatively.
 
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