Scared of dying

[lewisMCFC]

Do you remember what you were like before you were born? Were you scared then? Don't worry about it. Live as best as you can and make the most of your life.

 

[lazza]

It's a quite understandable feeling, especially after what you have been through with your brother. It's very different, I know (because grandparents are "expected" to die), but I was 17 when my grandfather died, and although at that time I had some belief in the afterlife, I found myself worrying a lot more about death....

But since then, over the last 25 years, I have lost my belief of an afterlife, but grown much less afraid of death. The key for me was to make sure I do everything I can to have a positive impact on family and friends. I will live on in my children, biologically and "spiritually": their DNA is half my DNA in the same way half my DNA is half my Dad's; their personality shows a lot of my personality, in the same way mine shows my Dad's. In a way, that's my job done, although clearly I want to "make a difference" for as long as I can, but it at least means I don't worry.

 

[Bluemoon115]

Science cannot explain why we are who we are and how our 'minds' work

It's getting closer and closer to the "why", and can already explain much of the "how".

 

[Malty]

I recently went into a coma, was in intensive care for 4wks and during the time I had died and gone onto the life support machine, all I had was very intense, almost real like dreams, in particular one in which I was just on this passenger aeroplane.
The dream felt like 30mins but it was for over a month.

You shouldn't fear death. This is the good phase of existence....
Pain is far worse.

I'm wondering when we die if we just go into a big long dream?

 

[Malty]

You can comfort yourself with the fact nobody knows what happens when we die, so have hope it isn't just black and that's it, there might be something more.

 

[dave bacuzzi]

I have felt like you do since my younger brother died. And i discovered his body. I shouldn't be so bothered if I didn't have kids.
I occasionally comfort myself with these words!


“I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.”

Mark Twain

 

[Pelly Greeny]

I'm most concerned that I may have forgotten to delete my browsing history.

 

[Bill Walker]

I remember waking up/coming too after general anaesthetic and thinking that must be what it like to die

nothingness

like before you were born

 

[Two Gun Bob]

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[stonerblue]

What happened to your brother?

Stupidly enough, he used to sleep round a lot of his friends houses and when he was there was using cocaine and other substances. In the end. he had a heart attack because of his drug use and the doctors told my mum.

OK firstly I'm really sorry to hear about what happened to your brother. That is an incredibly tough thing to have to deal with at your age and I hope that you have and use all the support of your friends and family in terms of dealing with your grief.

At a more practical level - have you been checked-out medically to ensure that you are not at risk yourself? It is not unreasonable for your GP to make sure that any medical issues are identified and dealt with. A clean bill of health from the medics would then give you some re-assurances and confidence and hopefully help you deal with your anxiety.

Great advice that the op should take.
Also talk to your Mum.

Your life can change in a split second, enjoy it while you can.