school bullying

[dronefromsector7G]

Poor teacher.

Them's the rules :-)

 

[peoffrey]

Although I agree, fight fire with fire, usually the bullies have been victims of bullying themselves, maybe by their own parents/guardians thus its pointless hitting them as they are used to being abused themselves.

My approach would be to simply follow the bully back to their house, introduce myself to their parents and a quiet private word which I'll leave to your imagination.

From remembrance, all the scrotey kids were the bullies, who came from families who just didn't give a fuck about their kids welfare, so the kids didn't know any difference in behaviour.

I'm a peaceful enough guy and used to get grief from a **** at work perhaps a decade a go. It got exceptionally nasty including ripping my glasses off my face and threatening to snap them in half. If I tried to take them back he'd besiege me with name calling, swearing, bigotry and threats against my safety. I was a "faggot" and had "aids" etc. On a leaving do he turned up off his face and got his lighter out trying to set fire to my shirt. We had to be separated.

One day he turned up with a black eye claiming he'd been fighting Blues at the weekend. He was one of that lot. It actually transpired that his dad was an abusive alcoholic who was kicking the shit out of him on a regular basis. He was too scared (or poor) to leave the family home. He saw someone comfortable in his own skin who had a good family and was jealous.

Management didn't do enough to stop it and he eventually just stopped coming in to work. Part of me would've loved to push him under a tram but an eye for an eye makes the world go blind.

 

[Why Always Ste]

I'm a peaceful enough guy and used to get grief from a **** at work perhaps a decade a go. It got exceptionally nasty including ripping my glasses off my face and threatening to snap them in half. If I tried to take them back he'd besiege me with name calling, swearing, bigotry and threats against my safety. I was a "faggot" and had "aids" etc. On a leaving do he turned up off his face and got his lighter out trying to set fire to my shirt. We had to be separated.

One day he turned up with a black eye claiming he'd been fighting Blues at the weekend. He was one of that lot. It actually transpired that his dad was an abusive alcoholic who was kicking the shit out of him on a regular basis. He was too scared (or poor) to leave the family home. He saw someone comfortable in his own skin who had a good family and was jealous.

Management didn't do enough to stop it and he eventually just stopped coming in to work. Part of me would've loved to push him under a tram but an eye for an eye makes the world go blind.

Don't feel any weaker for the incidents bud.
I worked at a phone shop for a bit.
The assistant manager found out I was into my martial arts and for whatever reason decided to bully me, maybe saw me as a threat?
He'd drop things on the floor, demand I picked them up.
Just tested me and was an arse.
I complained but he'd been an employee longer so the company wasn't interested.
So anyone can be a victim of work placed bullying.
I decided to follow the **** after work and found out where he lived.
I left it for 12mths then visited his house again.

2pac was right....

"Revenge is like the sweetest joy next to getting pussy"

Yes an eye for an eye can only make the world go blind but what when the guy didn't even see my eyes, not even knowing who did it?
Was a great result.
Fuck him.

 

[Hoghead]

Got loads of bullying at school which completely stopped when I went to 6th form college.
Work wise, nothing, absolutely nothing, was very well supported in what I did and wanted to do over 37 years.

 

[KingCarlito]

Don't feel any weaker for the incidents bud.
I worked at a phone shop for a bit.
The assistant manager found out I was into my martial arts and for whatever reason decided to bully me, maybe saw me as a threat?
He'd drop things on the floor, demand I picked them up.
Just tested me and was an arse.
I complained but he'd been an employee longer so the company wasn't interested.
So anyone can be a victim of work placed bullying.
I decided to follow the **** after work and found out where he lived.
I left it for 12mths then visited his house again.

2pac was right....

"Revenge is like the sweetest joy next to getting pussy"

Yes an eye for an eye can only make the world go blind but what when the guy didn't even see my eyes, not even knowing who did it?
Was a great result.
Fuck him.

Good effort

 

[peoffrey]

Got loads of bullying at school which completely stopped when I went to 6th form college.
Work wise, nothing, absolutely nothing, was very well supported in what I did and wanted to do over 37 years.

I had it in the workplace far worse than anywhere. I was pushed around in school a bit for being smaller and different; but this went on for a good six months at a well known Manchester employer.

One sociopathic manager elsewhere insisted on forced social occasions. People on budgets with young families struggled to afford them and people like me refused to attend. She just froze us out one by one. I hated her more than genocide.

Nothing ever gave me more satisfaction than terminating the contract of an office administrator who was bullying a 19 year old girl. He'd fudged his way in via HR as he knew the jumped up Queen who ran the show up there. He got placed with us and spent all day fucking around instead of working. We knew his life history within weeks (bummed out of school, disowned by parents) and then he blamed his awful performance on her. After dismissal, I had to have security escort him out and walked her back to the station that evening in case he was hanging around. She was really scared. I said I'd batter him if he went for her.

 

[Nebuchadnezzar]

I got quite badly gaslighted at a previous job. Never suffered on school due to just avoiding all the nutters. Had a good bunch of mates who looked out for each other.

Back to the gaslighter....now I don't have to rely on him for a reference, if I ever saw him out and about i'd love to tell the bastard I knew his game.

 

[peoffrey]

Gaslighted?

I'm an HR man and it's bad practice to give a negative reference. We only give factual at my current place.

 

[Nebuchadnezzar]

Gaslighted?

I'm an HR man and it's bad practice to give a negative reference. We only give factual at my current place.

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse mate. I was early 20s at the time and not aware of the term, but basically its like somebody fucking with your head to the point where you begin to doubt yourself and think they are in the right. I had other issues at the time too but it got to a point where I was attending counselling after being convinced by this man that I had an attitude problem and had a problem with authority. In my mind I thought he was right and that I had to go to save my job. After a few sessions, the counsellor stopped me mid sentence and said;

"Forgive my terminology. Its not an authority problem that you have, you have a dickhead tolerance problem."

A few weeks later I gave in my notice and said goodbye but up to that point i'd never felt so isolated in a workplace.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting

 

[peoffrey]

I had a friend who used to try and control me. Public humiliation was a popular one. I keep an eye on him via social networking and he's now single after a string of failed relationships and unable to hold down a job.