school dinner = fuming

[cibaman]

Have you threatened to take the story to the local paper? That's usually a pretty surefire motivational tool...

It has been discussed between my wife and myself.

The press seem particularly skilled at photographing complaining parents so that they appear to be slightly deranged.

 

[mscenterh750]

Have you threatened to take the story to the local paper? That's usually a pretty surefire motivational tool...

It has been discussed between my wife and myself.

What is the best case scenario in all this? Do you want this woman to lose her job? Or would you prefer she was suspended for a week or something?

I don't want her to lose her job, but she has caused my daughter unnecessary distress and embarrassment with her actions, so she needs making an example of, so a formal warning, suspension and a personal face to face apology from her to my daughter, would suffice just.

 

[mscenterh750]

Have you threatened to take the story to the local paper? That's usually a pretty surefire motivational tool...

It has been discussed between my wife and myself.

The press seem particularly skilled at photographing complaining parents so that they appear to be slightly deranged.

It's all in the eyes.

 

[denislawsbackheel]

Have you threatened to take the story to the local paper? That's usually a pretty surefire motivational tool...

It has been discussed between my wife and myself.

The press seem particularly skilled at photographing complaining parents so that they appear to be slightly deranged.

Because they usually are!

 

[denislawsbackheel]

It has been discussed between my wife and myself.

What is the best case scenario in all this? Do you want this woman to lose her job? Or would you prefer she was suspended for a week or something?

I don't want her to lose her job, but she has caused my daughter unnecessary distress and embarrassment with her actions, so she needs making an example of, so a formal warning, suspension and a personal face to face apology from her to my daughter, would suffice just.

Dream on.

 

[Prestwich_Blue]

The school has to abide by employment laws, its own HR policies and the contract it has with the dinner lady. It could well be that what you want as a punishment would put them in breach of that contract, the law or their own guidelines regarding the range of disciplinary action open to them. As a governor you should be aware of that.

Being a complete twat about it (although I'm not suggesting you are) and shouting the odds could rebound on you and your daughter spectacularly, particularly given the position you hold.

It's not like your daughter has suffered a physical injury or been assaulted although the dinner lady was clearly in the wrong.

I'd suggest accepting the apology and moving on.

 

[metalblue]

It has been discussed between my wife and myself.

What is the best case scenario in all this? Do you want this woman to lose her job? Or would you prefer she was suspended for a week or something?

I don't want her to lose her job, but she has caused my daughter unnecessary distress and embarrassment with her actions, so she needs making an example of, so a formal warning, suspension and a personal face to face apology from her to my daughter, would suffice just.

As a governor I'm sure you'll be aware what the schools processes are for doing that but I'd be surprised they can give both a formal warning and suspension if this is her first "offence" furthermore from your opening post the school have dealt with the matter (I suspect) in accordance with those processes, they can't re-punish her for the same issue that they have closed.

Talk of going to the paper is unlikely to achieve a happy outcome, for the reasons above the school will not be able to change it's actions, you're role as governor will be brought into question and, most importantly, there is every change your daughter will get teased/called names.

 

[mcfclovin88]

I take it she forced her to eat it in front of everyone in the dinner hall? I imagine at 9 years old that could be quite damaging to your daughters confidence/ self esteem.

It also gives the nastier kids something to use against your daughter, the dinner lady should have known better.

If your daughter is already quite distressed, taking it to the papers is hardly a good idea, I'm not sure she'd want more people to know. Unless you're just using it as a threat of course.

A personal face to face apology should take place, at the least in my opinion.

 

[sickboybloo]

I'd want her sacked, she should have thought about the consequences of her actions before bullying your little girl.

 

[york away to this!]

...do I hear the rustle of a compo claim?...

I myself have been very stressed just thinking about the whole unpleasant episode, though a couple of grand may make my mental anguish subside somewhat.

I shall pass the matter in to the hands or my legal team...