General / Mental Health Support Thread

Have you tried SAD lamps, to help with your lack of daylight ?

I've had problems, mostly under control now, but getting away from the UK and getting lots of sunshine every day feels lots better than UK lack of light every winter.
That's a great shout.

Needs to be a good quality light source and you need to religiously get 20-30 minutes every morning. It doesn't work for everyone, but many people start to see an improvement in their mood and sleep patterns within a couple of weeks. It's worth a try.
 
First post in this thread. I’m 42 and I’ve had poor mental health throughout my life.

Diagnosed with complex childhood trauma and recurrent depression. I’ve been on Lamictal since 2019 and it’s definitely helped. Prescribed off label as a mood stabiliser by a psychiatrist.

I function pretty well - decent job, decent salary, lovely wife and kids - but ‘it’ will be there until my dying day.

One thing that is noticeable is the complete lack of a hobby, apart from City. I can’t even read books, go swimming or play computer games like I used to because I have chronic vestibular migraines.

I’m crap at golf, can’t fish… not sure what to try, really? Maybe charity/volunteering outside work hours? Not easy with kids though!
Have you really tried fishing mate because I find it perfect for mental health wellness. It forces you to live in the moment and concentrate just on the one thing - catching fish. The side bonus is you are out in nature and the fresh air. Do you know anyone that could take you? And believe me anyone can fish. Now golf is another matter :-)

Good luck whatever you choose to do.
 
Have you really tried fishing mate because I find it perfect for mental health wellness. It forces you to live in the moment and concentrate just on the one thing - catching fish. The side bonus is you are out in nature and the fresh air. Do you know anyone that could take you? And believe me anyone can fish. Now golf is another matter :-)

Good luck whatever you choose to do.
Thanks mate, really appreciate the reply and insight. Maybe I did write it off to quickly! I know a couple of people who fish so maybe I’ll tag along.

Cheers bud :)
 
Didn't go to A&E.
Gig tonight , so might go Sunday night as I'm certainly not going on a Saturday night.

Please god free me from this hell I'm begging you
 
Didn't go to A&E.
Gig tonight , so might go Sunday night as I'm certainly not going on a Saturday night.

Please god free me from this hell I'm begging you
Iv been in a&e on and off while working at tameside for the last 2 days,me mam is dying ,she's just been moved tto ITU from where she spent 2 nights in cubicle 4 A&E.
Im in a pub now getting slaughtered
 
Iv been in a&e on and off while working at tameside for the last 2 days,me mam is dying ,she's just been moved tto ITU from where she spent 2 nights in cubicle 4 A&E.
Im in a pub now getting slaughtered
:(
I take it A&E was rammed all the time ?
 
:(
I take it A&E was rammed all the time ?
not yesterday morning ( thurs ) when i was there before my shift started at 7.30 am,it was very quiet
this morning i went in at about 5.15 am before i started at 6am.,abiut 25% full.
once inside A&E is like a ward, bays and cubicles .
Best wishes Pink my friend.
I have no god to.prey to but wish you the utter best mate,you're not alone, there is someone always there . grasp it take it.
 
I'm now struggling to even speak at all.
Can't believe how bad this has got, it's agony.
Don't see how I can remain in this situation.
When I go to A&E and nothing concrete happens fuck knows what I'll do. This is evil, it's like demonic possession. It doesn't help that I carry the weight of the world on my back and view the entire planet as a fucking hellscape and everyone's intentions as malicious, which is just dumb . But this is down to years of avoiding friendship, employment etc. it's very very damaging indeed.
 
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Hi Pink, Saw the above just now and although I’m sure you’ve already explored everything, thought it may be useful in some way. We’re all on your side. Keep posting we care about you
Thanks I went to Mind in Ashton on Wednesday.

We had better not lose on Sunday , not after the derby defeat and what happened last Sunday ;-)
 
I was right on the edge a fortnight ago, and I was tempted to tell everyone how I had worked my way out of it.

However, today I have realised it's just hollow, and I've found a way to front it. Inside, I feel just as bad as ever. It's just that I'm hiding it better so it isn't obvious to others. I still wish I wasn't here, I'm just making others think I'm OK, as I don't want to be mithered with 'help'. Because nothing helps. Some things distract, but that's all.
 
I almost got scammed by damp proofer company last weekend for 15k, my brain is still on a go slow but it caught up just in time. I was getting three quotes from checkatrade as it gives a bit of protection or so i thought, all came round and saw the problems and quoted on what they needed to do to fix it, theirs came through as £2,100 and it came through on the thursday at about 8pm, i didnt respond to it

On the friday i was woken by a loud noise really early and went out to find men digging up my front wall, i said who the fuck are you and they said the boss will be along in a minute, this young cocky guy turns up and says the cost is now 15k, i said i did not respond to the quote i got last night so you have no business being here

I said stop working, he asked me if i had cheques, i said no and he asked me if i had online banking , he asked me to write down his bank details and then said i can come through with you now and help you do it now then it is done, the name on his account was mr --- and not the company name, he was a walking red flag, i told them to go away

A couple of hours later there is kicking the shit out my front door banging constantly for about 20mins i called checkatrade and told her what was happening and she said none of this is ok and if i am scared to call the police , i also spoke to the bank and they said Defo scam and they thought with a mr on his details he was probably scamming his company as well

Then the phone calls started it and would never leave a voice mail just rang back again obvs i didnt answer , also emails and messages , i had told him in writing three times that the job was finished and do not send his team back again, next morning i hear a noise and they back again they had climbed over my six foot
wooden gate, it was locked and bolted but was now wide open and he came as well and was insisting that i had agreed to the 15k and that i had signed a contract, clearly not ffs, i said show it to me and i said if you dont leave right now i will call the police

I got many more messages on all platforms the rest of the day gasslighting me to fuck, i repeatedly asked to see what i signed but of course he couldn't, he was still going late into the evening and a nearly midnight he finally sent me the quote undated and not signed with a stupid line about several of my neighbours had told him i never pay my contractors

The next day was sunday snd my birthday so i blocked him on all platforms to get some peace, it was a day of reflection as i was in itu last birthday

I have been very scared by all this , 3 men and intense pressure to me on my own was awful. I spoke to checkatrade again on the next day and said can i get together all his messages from every platform and how many times he rang me and they will sort it out

My ptsd has been severely triggered-but i was lucky that i had my cbt session last monday and he worked with me to get out of flight and fight mode, i really needed him that day, i am still very very anxious but i still have to get this damp sorted, i have lost wallpaper and curtains and half my kitchen carpet, it is so depressing out there now, so much damp in the air. I have got a surveyor coming n wed and go from there

Sorry for the rant ! I feel lighter now
 
I almost got scammed by damp proofer company last weekend for 15k, my brain is still on a go slow but it caught up just in time. I was getting three quotes from checkatrade as it gives a bit of protection or so i thought, all came round and saw the problems and quoted on what they needed to do to fix it, theirs came through as £2,100 and it came through on the thursday at about 8pm, i didnt respond to it

On the friday i was woken by a loud noise really early and went out to find men digging up my front wall, i said who the fuck are you and they said the boss will be along in a minute, this young cocky guy turns up and says the cost is now 15k, i said i did not respond to the quote i got last night so you have no business being here

I said stop working, he asked me if i had cheques, i said no and he asked me if i had online banking , he asked me to write down his bank details and then said i can come through with you now and help you do it now then it is done, the name on his account was mr --- and not the company name, he was a walking red flag, i told them to go away

A couple of hours later there is kicking the shit out my front door banging constantly for about 20mins i called checkatrade and told her what was happening and she said none of this is ok and if i am scared to call the police , i also spoke to the bank and they said Defo scam and they thought with a mr on his details he was probably scamming his company as well

Then the phone calls started it and would never leave a voice mail just rang back again obvs i didnt answer , also emails and messages , i had told him in writing three times that the job was finished and do not send his team back again, next morning i hear a noise and they back again they had climbed over my six foot
wooden gate, it was locked and bolted but was now wide open and he came as well and was insisting that i had agreed to the 15k and that i had signed a contract, clearly not ffs, i said show it to me and i said if you dont leave right now i will call the police

I got many more messages on all platforms the rest of the day gasslighting me to fuck, i repeatedly asked to see what i signed but of course he couldn't, he was still going late into the evening and a nearly midnight he finally sent me the quote undated and not signed with a stupid line about several of my neighbours had told him i never pay my contractors

The next day was sunday snd my birthday so i blocked him on all platforms to get some peace, it was a day of reflection as i was in itu last birthday

I have been very scared by all this , 3 men and intense pressure to me on my own was awful. I spoke to checkatrade again on the next day and said can i get together all his messages from every platform and how many times he rang me and they will sort it out

My ptsd has been severely triggered-but i was lucky that i had my cbt session last monday and he worked with me to get out of flight and fight mode, i really needed him that day, i am still very very anxious but i still have to get this damp sorted, i have lost wallpaper and curtains and half my kitchen carpet, it is so depressing out there now, so much damp in the air. I have got a surveyor coming n wed and go from there

Sorry for the rant ! I feel lighter now

So many travellers on checkatrade Kaz be really careful.
 
I almost got scammed by damp proofer company last weekend for 15k, my brain is still on a go slow but it caught up just in time. I was getting three quotes from checkatrade as it gives a bit of protection or so i thought, all came round and saw the problems and quoted on what they needed to do to fix it, theirs came through as £2,100 and it came through on the thursday at about 8pm, i didnt respond to it

On the friday i was woken by a loud noise really early and went out to find men digging up my front wall, i said who the fuck are you and they said the boss will be along in a minute, this young cocky guy turns up and says the cost is now 15k, i said i did not respond to the quote i got last night so you have no business being here

I said stop working, he asked me if i had cheques, i said no and he asked me if i had online banking , he asked me to write down his bank details and then said i can come through with you now and help you do it now then it is done, the name on his account was mr --- and not the company name, he was a walking red flag, i told them to go away

A couple of hours later there is kicking the shit out my front door banging constantly for about 20mins i called checkatrade and told her what was happening and she said none of this is ok and if i am scared to call the police , i also spoke to the bank and they said Defo scam and they thought with a mr on his details he was probably scamming his company as well

Then the phone calls started it and would never leave a voice mail just rang back again obvs i didnt answer , also emails and messages , i had told him in writing three times that the job was finished and do not send his team back again, next morning i hear a noise and they back again they had climbed over my six foot
wooden gate, it was locked and bolted but was now wide open and he came as well and was insisting that i had agreed to the 15k and that i had signed a contract, clearly not ffs, i said show it to me and i said if you dont leave right now i will call the police

I got many more messages on all platforms the rest of the day gasslighting me to fuck, i repeatedly asked to see what i signed but of course he couldn't, he was still going late into the evening and a nearly midnight he finally sent me the quote undated and not signed with a stupid line about several of my neighbours had told him i never pay my contractors

The next day was sunday snd my birthday so i blocked him on all platforms to get some peace, it was a day of reflection as i was in itu last birthday

I have been very scared by all this , 3 men and intense pressure to me on my own was awful. I spoke to checkatrade again on the next day and said can i get together all his messages from every platform and how many times he rang me and they will sort it out

My ptsd has been severely triggered-but i was lucky that i had my cbt session last monday and he worked with me to get out of flight and fight mode, i really needed him that day, i am still very very anxious but i still have to get this damp sorted, i have lost wallpaper and curtains and half my kitchen carpet, it is so depressing out there now, so much damp in the air. I have got a surveyor coming n wed and go from there

Sorry for the rant ! I feel lighter now
Had a similar situation 10 years ago.
I said to the scumbag "I've just come out of a mental ward" (which was true) he said "I don't give a fuck". Disgusting.
Had a Middlesbrough accent
 
I almost got scammed by damp proofer company last weekend for 15k, my brain is still on a go slow but it caught up just in time. I was getting three quotes from checkatrade as it gives a bit of protection or so i thought, all came round and saw the problems and quoted on what they needed to do to fix it, theirs came through as £2,100 and it came through on the thursday at about 8pm, i didnt respond to it

On the friday i was woken by a loud noise really early and went out to find men digging up my front wall, i said who the fuck are you and they said the boss will be along in a minute, this young cocky guy turns up and says the cost is now 15k, i said i did not respond to the quote i got last night so you have no business being here

I said stop working, he asked me if i had cheques, i said no and he asked me if i had online banking , he asked me to write down his bank details and then said i can come through with you now and help you do it now then it is done, the name on his account was mr --- and not the company name, he was a walking red flag, i told them to go away

A couple of hours later there is kicking the shit out my front door banging constantly for about 20mins i called checkatrade and told her what was happening and she said none of this is ok and if i am scared to call the police , i also spoke to the bank and they said Defo scam and they thought with a mr on his details he was probably scamming his company as well

Then the phone calls started it and would never leave a voice mail just rang back again obvs i didnt answer , also emails and messages , i had told him in writing three times that the job was finished and do not send his team back again, next morning i hear a noise and they back again they had climbed over my six foot
wooden gate, it was locked and bolted but was now wide open and he came as well and was insisting that i had agreed to the 15k and that i had signed a contract, clearly not ffs, i said show it to me and i said if you dont leave right now i will call the police

I got many more messages on all platforms the rest of the day gasslighting me to fuck, i repeatedly asked to see what i signed but of course he couldn't, he was still going late into the evening and a nearly midnight he finally sent me the quote undated and not signed with a stupid line about several of my neighbours had told him i never pay my contractors

The next day was sunday snd my birthday so i blocked him on all platforms to get some peace, it was a day of reflection as i was in itu last birthday

I have been very scared by all this , 3 men and intense pressure to me on my own was awful. I spoke to checkatrade again on the next day and said can i get together all his messages from every platform and how many times he rang me and they will sort it out

My ptsd has been severely triggered-but i was lucky that i had my cbt session last monday and he worked with me to get out of flight and fight mode, i really needed him that day, i am still very very anxious but i still have to get this damp sorted, i have lost wallpaper and curtains and half my kitchen carpet, it is so depressing out there now, so much damp in the air. I have got a surveyor coming n wed and go from there

Sorry for the rant ! I feel lighter now
Too late to get the police on these fuckers? Apart from the fraud they've done violent trespass, intimidation and harrassment. Get them banged up.

Make sure they got none of your financial details.
 
I almost got scammed by damp proofer company last weekend for 15k, my brain is still on a go slow but it caught up just in time. I was getting three quotes from checkatrade as it gives a bit of protection or so i thought, all came round and saw the problems and quoted on what they needed to do to fix it, theirs came through as £2,100 and it came through on the thursday at about 8pm, i didnt respond to it

On the friday i was woken by a loud noise really early and went out to find men digging up my front wall, i said who the fuck are you and they said the boss will be along in a minute, this young cocky guy turns up and says the cost is now 15k, i said i did not respond to the quote i got last night so you have no business being here

I said stop working, he asked me if i had cheques, i said no and he asked me if i had online banking , he asked me to write down his bank details and then said i can come through with you now and help you do it now then it is done, the name on his account was mr --- and not the company name, he was a walking red flag, i told them to go away

A couple of hours later there is kicking the shit out my front door banging constantly for about 20mins i called checkatrade and told her what was happening and she said none of this is ok and if i am scared to call the police , i also spoke to the bank and they said Defo scam and they thought with a mr on his details he was probably scamming his company as well

Then the phone calls started it and would never leave a voice mail just rang back again obvs i didnt answer , also emails and messages , i had told him in writing three times that the job was finished and do not send his team back again, next morning i hear a noise and they back again they had climbed over my six foot
wooden gate, it was locked and bolted but was now wide open and he came as well and was insisting that i had agreed to the 15k and that i had signed a contract, clearly not ffs, i said show it to me and i said if you dont leave right now i will call the police

I got many more messages on all platforms the rest of the day gasslighting me to fuck, i repeatedly asked to see what i signed but of course he couldn't, he was still going late into the evening and a nearly midnight he finally sent me the quote undated and not signed with a stupid line about several of my neighbours had told him i never pay my contractors

The next day was sunday snd my birthday so i blocked him on all platforms to get some peace, it was a day of reflection as i was in itu last birthday

I have been very scared by all this , 3 men and intense pressure to me on my own was awful. I spoke to checkatrade again on the next day and said can i get together all his messages from every platform and how many times he rang me and they will sort it out

My ptsd has been severely triggered-but i was lucky that i had my cbt session last monday and he worked with me to get out of flight and fight mode, i really needed him that day, i am still very very anxious but i still have to get this damp sorted, i have lost wallpaper and curtains and half my kitchen carpet, it is so depressing out there now, so much damp in the air. I have got a surveyor coming n wed and go from there

Sorry for the rant ! I feel lighter now
Sorry you experienced this Kaz. Maybe ring 101 in case they come back to your area you did the right thing by using checkatrader . So many rogue builders around they really are scum . Hope this experience hasn’t affected your recovery to much take care X
 

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