Admitting I’m an Alcoholic

BLUEYESTU said:
After talking to family, my doctor and Occupational Health at work I have finally accepted that I am an alcoholic. It’s been a long time coming; my wife was telling me last year before we split and I didn’t want to hear it. But over the past few weeks things really got out of control and I made the decision to ask for help.
There’s a long and difficult road ahead to be sure and trying to get sober in lockdown is going to be hard.
Are there any recovering alcoholics on here who can offer any advice on getting through this please?
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I managed a home detox through the alcohol service about 10 yrs ago. Worked for me had a few falls off the wagon though I didn't go to total abstinence as was advised.

I still have periods where i need to reign it in, but i recognize when it's tipping over the edge of enjoying and needing a drink. admitting i had a problem to myself though cliched is the starting block and you have took that step. Always welcome a DM if you have any questions about my experience
 
BLUEYESTU said:
Fell off the wagon Wednesday evening and am really mad at myself! My wife and I separated at Xmas and I moved out but the past 3 months she’s been telling me she still loved me, we can still have a relationship but just live separate etc and I was really hopeful. It helped me stay on the wagon too. But it turned out she was just waiting for the house sale to go through and get her split of the money because the next day she texted me ending our marriage for good, the last line was “don’t text, don’t ring and don’t knock on my door”. I had no idea it was coming; she manipulated me brilliantly.

I lasted a few weeks but our wedding anniversary and my birthday are 2 weeks away and after a crap day at work I was walking home and just thought Sod It! I bought a bottle of wine and drank it all in an hour then did the same last night after getting back from the hospital cos my dads had another stroke.
Right now I’m really struggling to pick myself up and feel like a real fool for more than one reason!
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Takes a brave man to admit a mistake.
 
BLUEYESTU said:
Fell off the wagon Wednesday evening and am really mad at myself! My wife and I separated at Xmas and I moved out but the past 3 months she’s been telling me she still loved me, we can still have a relationship but just live separate etc and I was really hopeful. It helped me stay on the wagon too. But it turned out she was just waiting for the house sale to go through and get her split of the money because the next day she texted me ending our marriage for good, the last line was “don’t text, don’t ring and don’t knock on my door”. I had no idea it was coming; she manipulated me brilliantly.

I lasted a few weeks but our wedding anniversary and my birthday are 2 weeks away and after a crap day at work I was walking home and just thought Sod It! I bought a bottle of wine and drank it all in an hour then did the same last night after getting back from the hospital cos my dads had another stroke.
Right now I’m really struggling to pick myself up and feel like a real fool for more than one reason!
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Everyone has problems staying on the straight and narrow mate and with all you are going through it's understandable to have the odd wobble.

Pick yourself up, you've done it once, remind yourself that you are best off out of her life if that's the way she treats you and move on. It's hard but you can do it.

One step at a time.
 
BLUEYESTU said:
Fell off the wagon Wednesday evening and am really mad at myself! My wife and I separated at Xmas and I moved out but the past 3 months she’s been telling me she still loved me, we can still have a relationship but just live separate etc and I was really hopeful. It helped me stay on the wagon too. But it turned out she was just waiting for the house sale to go through and get her split of the money because the next day she texted me ending our marriage for good, the last line was “don’t text, don’t ring and don’t knock on my door”. I had no idea it was coming; she manipulated me brilliantly.

I lasted a few weeks but our wedding anniversary and my birthday are 2 weeks away and after a crap day at work I was walking home and just thought Sod It! I bought a bottle of wine and drank it all in an hour then did the same last night after getting back from the hospital cos my dads had another stroke.
Right now I’m really struggling to pick myself up and feel like a real fool for more than one reason!
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Sounds a very tough few days mate.

Don't beat yourself up over any it - just try and get yourself set for the next day........
 
BLUEYESTU said:
Fell off the wagon Wednesday evening and am really mad at myself! My wife and I separated at Xmas and I moved out but the past 3 months she’s been telling me she still loved me, we can still have a relationship but just live separate etc and I was really hopeful. It helped me stay on the wagon too. But it turned out she was just waiting for the house sale to go through and get her split of the money because the next day she texted me ending our marriage for good, the last line was “don’t text, don’t ring and don’t knock on my door”. I had no idea it was coming; she manipulated me brilliantly.

I lasted a few weeks but our wedding anniversary and my birthday are 2 weeks away and after a crap day at work I was walking home and just thought Sod It! I bought a bottle of wine and drank it all in an hour then did the same last night after getting back from the hospital cos my dads had another stroke.
Right now I’m really struggling to pick myself up and feel like a real fool for more than one reason!
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Fucking hell, that's rough mate. I reckon anyone would be forgiven hitting the booze after all that..
 
BLUEYESTU said:
Fell off the wagon Wednesday evening and am really mad at myself! My wife and I separated at Xmas and I moved out but the past 3 months she’s been telling me she still loved me, we can still have a relationship but just live separate etc and I was really hopeful. It helped me stay on the wagon too. But it turned out she was just waiting for the house sale to go through and get her split of the money because the next day she texted me ending our marriage for good, the last line was “don’t text, don’t ring and don’t knock on my door”. I had no idea it was coming; she manipulated me brilliantly.

I lasted a few weeks but our wedding anniversary and my birthday are 2 weeks away and after a crap day at work I was walking home and just thought Sod It! I bought a bottle of wine and drank it all in an hour then did the same last night after getting back from the hospital cos my dads had another stroke.
Right now I’m really struggling to pick myself up and feel like a real fool for more than one reason!
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You're not a fool by any means. You're not the first and won't be the last to be taken in like that. Don't let her or the alcohol destroy you mate.
 
super yaya said:
My partner drinks every night at least two bottles of red wine, usually starts at around 4pm after finishing work.
She’s doesn’t get hangovers.. Christ if I had two bottles I’d be dead ! The next morning it’s like she hasn’t had anything, maybe her body is used to the amount.

Possible alcoholic ? Sometimes maybe she’s doesn’t drink on Monday’s this has been going on for years.. gets me down a lot because I don’t want to spend my weekend down the pub like in the passed. She’s can’t wait for them to re open.
Don’t get me wrong I have a couple watching City but it’s only on match days.
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super yaya said:
My partner drinks every night at least two bottles of red wine, usually starts at around 4pm after finishing work.
She’s doesn’t get hangovers.. Christ if I had two bottles I’d be dead ! The next morning it’s like she hasn’t had anything, maybe her body is used to the amount.

Possible alcoholic ? Sometimes maybe she’s doesn’t drink on Monday’s this has been going on for years.. gets me down a lot because I don’t want to spend my weekend down the pub like in the passed. She’s can’t wait for them to re open.
Don’t get me wrong I have a couple watching City but it’s only on match days.
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My partner the same. Two a night. Recent bloods all came back fine.
I think she's a terminator.
 
Manchester33 said:
If you don't mind me asking, why don't you try and cut down? You've said 'I know I should'.

I struggle with the simplicity of having a can of beer in the fridge. It's so convenient to grab it, pop it open and then chuck it once I'm done. I've tried replacing beer with sodas which I've found works. I drink a glass of water before opening the next beer as an extra barrier. I've also told the missus (who doesn't drink) to stop replacing beers (I'm too lazy to go to the shop and buy them myself).
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Sorry mate, missed this

It's easy to say I should try and cut down. Just a word. Since Covid I've been working shifts instead of the usual days and I finish at 1.45. I get in and put music or telly on and sit there thinking about having a beer, so I just do. I get crates in and it's easy. Perhaps I need to look at stopping that and the rest will come.. but I enjoy it and nothing is going to stop you until you have the frame of mind otherwise.

I never get hangovers as the 4,5,6 cans feel spread out. There is always an answer in my head to the basic quandary of drinking, which is what we do isn't it?
 
BLUEYESTU said:
Fell off the wagon Wednesday evening and am really mad at myself! My wife and I separated at Xmas and I moved out but the past 3 months she’s been telling me she still loved me, we can still have a relationship but just live separate etc and I was really hopeful. It helped me stay on the wagon too. But it turned out she was just waiting for the house sale to go through and get her split of the money because the next day she texted me ending our marriage for good, the last line was “don’t text, don’t ring and don’t knock on my door”. I had no idea it was coming; she manipulated me brilliantly.

I lasted a few weeks but our wedding anniversary and my birthday are 2 weeks away and after a crap day at work I was walking home and just thought Sod It! I bought a bottle of wine and drank it all in an hour then did the same last night after getting back from the hospital cos my dads had another stroke.
Right now I’m really struggling to pick myself up and feel like a real fool for more than one reason!
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Remember that alcohol isn't the solution to your problems. It's a depressant, so it will actually make you feel worse.

You've had a hiccup. It happens. It takes a very strong person to admit when things go wrong and that tells me you're strong enough to move past this blip.

You're in control, not the drink.
 
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