Arthur Labinjo-Hughes

[mancity2012_eamo]

Bloody hard to believe if it wasn't true. Poor little soul.
What is your view on why this happens?

Is it as Philip Larkin says:

Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.

Or is it societal and environmental or is it they are just pure evil? Or a combination of all of them?

Why are some parents such that they are not fit to have children?

I honestly have no idea, but suspect that there may be family history with some cases like this.
The same with incestuous abuse. I’ve heard cases running through the generations. Basically, the same behaviour being passed down.
With the kind of abuse that was meted out to that child and the case I posted though, it’s hard to get your head around why.

In the case over here, the kid was picked on a daily basis in front of the other siblings, one older sister and three younger. The eldest of the three being a boy. He and the older sister gave evidence against their parents.

They themselves must be psychologically scarred for life.

 

[worsleyweb]

Find it very hard to read about. Poor kid.

 

[JohnBlotto]

Yet another reminder to count your blessings and give love as freely as it was given to you. I honestly don't have any other response.

All of us who escaped parents who thought that the right way to treat us as small kids was to make us stand like statues for hours on end.... we have to be so very thankful, and pass it on, it doesn't have to be that way.

The sad thing is, dad and mum were probably treated dreadfully when growing up. It doesn't excuse it. Not for a second. It's a warning. Not an excuse. Please don't make the same mistakes. Don't mistreat your children, don't take out your emotions on them, don't treat them like objects. Pick them up and talk to them. Listen to them. Be patient. Be fair. Describe your anger and other things if you have to. Don't use them against the child. When you would be too hard, stop, and love them. And you'll love yourself. You didn't deserve it. It was all a horrible mistake. Break the pattern, break the cycle. Do it the next time it gets too hard. You'll never now love like it.

I'm really not looking to make a political statement. I've just seen far, far too much of this stuff over the last 5 years round mine. And I've seen the consequences. Seen the child born, heard the household, noted in my head what I'm worried about happening, and gone white with horror, cried and screamed, when it does. It's predictable. Parents disciplining children only works if the parent is disciplined themselves. Otherwise it's a massive mistake that will emerge over time. It has to start there. You want your child to act well? Up your game. Tidy up. Work at everything, quietly. Be a good, creative, loving parent. Talk to other parents more. Drop the selfish habits. Don't let yourself be lazy then demand the child works. Watch your voice, watch your tone, watch your language. Everytime you want to shout, or swear, say a funny word. Every time - Be patient. And then see what happens.

And most of all, share. Share your stuff, yourself. With the child, with other people. And always, always ask for help.

Really enjoyed that mate.. agree with everything you say

 

[mancity2012_eamo]

Find it very hard to read about. Poor kid.

Reading hard enough.
I didn’t watch the videos.

 

[Eccles Blue]

Why do we hunt and persecute each other? Why is our world so full of man's infamous inhumanity to man – and to woman?" Riane Eisler, 1987

I would add and "why to our innocent children?"

I can't express my anger and frustration that even today when we are supposed to be so enlightened this sort of thing is still carrying on. Could only read a couple of sentences of the reports.
The environment matters but children matter even more so maybe those people blocking the roads etc and protesting at everything should turn their attention to protesting to protect the children?


Sorry, I don't usually get involved in protesting these days but cruelty to children is beyond the pale!!

 

[blueinsa]

Yet another reminder to count your blessings and give love as freely as it was given to you. I honestly don't have any other response.

All of us who escaped parents who thought that the right way to treat us as small kids was to make us stand like statues for hours on end.... we have to be so very thankful, and pass it on, it doesn't have to be that way.

The sad thing is, dad and mum were probably treated dreadfully when growing up. It doesn't excuse it. Not for a second. It's a warning. Not an excuse. Please don't make the same mistakes. Don't mistreat your children, don't take out your emotions on them, don't treat them like objects. Pick them up and talk to them. Listen to them. Be patient. Be fair. Describe your anger and other things if you have to. Don't use them against the child. When you would be too hard, stop, and love them. And you'll love yourself. You didn't deserve it. It was all a horrible mistake. Break the pattern, break the cycle. Do it the next time it gets too hard. You'll never now love like it.

I'm really not looking to make a political statement. I've just seen far, far too much of this stuff over the last 5 years round mine. And I've seen the consequences. Seen the child born, heard the household, noted in my head what I'm worried about happening, and gone white with horror, cried and screamed, when it does. It's predictable. Parents disciplining children only works if the parent is disciplined themselves. Otherwise it's a massive mistake that will emerge over time. It has to start there. You want your child to act well? Up your game. Tidy up. Work at everything, quietly. Be a good, creative, loving parent. Talk to other parents more. Drop the selfish habits. Don't let yourself be lazy then demand the child works. Watch your voice, watch your tone, watch your language. Everytime you want to shout, or swear, say a funny word. Every time - Be patient. And then see what happens.

And most of all, share. Share your stuff, yourself. With the child, with other people. And always, always ask for help.

Not enough like buttons for this post.

 

[dobingsdobber]

Bloody hard to believe if it wasn't true. Poor little soul.
What is your view on why this happens?

Is it as Philip Larkin says:

Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.

Or is it societal and environmental or is it they are just pure evil? Or a combination of all of them?

Why are some parents such that they are not fit to have children?

With regard to your last line mate,with people like these two,children are just an inconvenient by-product of the sex-act,and are treated as such.So sad.

 

[Dave Ewing's Back 'eader]

There is indeed something fundamentally wrong with the criminal justice system. They let scum like these live!

Hanging, the guillotine and electric chair should be brought back to put vile fuckin' scum to death, ASAP!

I'm a great believer in an eye for an eye. Whatever those two meted out to that little lad should be part of any sentence the law might think fit! They will have no idea, nor care a fuckin' jot how he suffered.

 

[GaudinoMotors]

Christ - how can people be like that?
Totally distressing.

 

[mackenzie]

I'm generally against capital punishment but it's these types of cases that make me waiver.
A young child is so trusting and simply deserving of love. It's heinous and frankly almost unbelievable that anyone can harm a vulnerable person, but when that person is a young child and is effectively tortured by an adult over a long period of time then it's beyond comprehension.
Natural instinct should be to protect and nuture, and the acts perpetrated by these two bastards deserve anything and everything that the judicial system can throw at them.
I hope they get battered in prison and suffer for every minute left of their miserable existence.