CSA

[ob]

Good luck mate,

My son is now 16 and we split up when he was one. We had verbal agreement and it started off great then she started messing about saying she would meet me at bank and not turn up, turn up with lad asleep in car so I couldn't get a cuddle or even speak to him.

This went on a few weeks then I said would only pay when I got to spend time with him and she started bringing him round on a Saturday and I would get him for the day.

 

[SPIDERBOY]

Good luck mate,

My son is now 16 and we split up when he was one. We had verbal agreement and it started off great then she started messing about saying she would meet me at bank and not turn up, turn up with lad asleep in car so I couldn't get a cuddle or even speak to him.

This went on a few weeks then I said would only pay when I got to spend time with him and she started bringing him round on a Saturday and I would get him for the day.

That's exactly the road I'm going down....split up amicably,then my son came to live with me,she wasn't happy about that,so started taking things out on him...E.g....she let me take my daughter to Ibiza for 2 weeks...a few months later I booked me,my daughter and son to go to Cuba....she refused me his passport and I lost £400 deposit...I booked me and my lad to go to the Madrid away game,again she refused to give me his passport..I've since asked if I pay the £5k,she gives it me back and she was fine with that...now she's found out we are doing brazil for the world cup and she's fuming and said I won't get the 5k back if I pay it....I've always paid for and always will pay for my kids...she doesn't go short...

 

[citytill1die84]

Fucking hate the CSA I pay £300 a month for my daughter and the fat fucking x has a mortgage on it now with her new fella. Between them they earn more than me and my daughter is never with her she's shipped around everywhere because her mother can't be arsed. Hate the fat F88ker and CSA is all for women they don't want to know.

 

[SPIDERBOY]

Here is my wild stab at an opinion. Take it very lightly because I know nothing about child maintenance (i dont even have kids!).

Surely if the CSA know you have been paying £80 a week (£8160 over the 2 years) this is £33 more a week than they say you should be paying (so basically you have paid £3366 too much)

So can you not look at only paying the difference ie £5000 - £3366??

Just a thought. Happily ignore this and pretend you never read it if im talking bollocks.

Wish I could mate...she has said the monies I have paid is towards the mortgage and not child maintenance....the csa just believe the shit a woman spouts....not asked for proof,fuck all in fact.

 

[allan harper]

I have a Verbal agreement with my ex, she'd never get the Csa on me, I missed 5 payments due to a fuck up, she wasn't arsed! Didn't even ask for the money, she's not a bad ex.

 

[SPIDERBOY]

I have a Verbal agreement with my ex, she'd never get the Csa on me, I missed 5 payments due to a fuck up, she wasn't arsed! Didn't even ask for the money, she's not a bad ex.

Can you pm me her number ;-))

 

[ob]

Good luck mate,

My son is now 16 and we split up when he was one. We had verbal agreement and it started off great then she started messing about saying she would meet me at bank and not turn up, turn up with lad asleep in car so I couldn't get a cuddle or even speak to him.

This went on a few weeks then I said would only pay when I got to spend time with him and she started bringing him round on a Saturday and I would get him for the day.

That's exactly the road I'm going down....split up amicably,then my son came to live with me,she wasn't happy about that,so started taking things out on him...E.g....she let me take my daughter to Ibiza for 2 weeks...a few months later I booked me,my daughter and son to go to Cuba....she refused me his passport and I lost £400 deposit...I booked me and my lad to go to the Madrid away game,again she refused to give me his passport..I've since asked if I pay the £5k,she gives it me back and she was fine with that...now she's found out we are doing brazil for the world cup and she's fuming and said I won't get the 5k back if I pay it....I've always paid for and always will pay for my kids...she doesn't go short...

I had booked to go on holiday to Blackpool with him when he was 5 and night before we were due to go she just changed her mind and wouldn't let him go.

 

[SPIDERBOY]

Good luck mate,

My son is now 16 and we split up when he was one. We had verbal agreement and it started off great then she started messing about saying she would meet me at bank and not turn up, turn up with lad asleep in car so I couldn't get a cuddle or even speak to him.

This went on a few weeks then I said would only pay when I got to spend time with him and she started bringing him round on a Saturday and I would get him for the day.

That's exactly the road I'm going down....split up amicably,then my son came to live with me,she wasn't happy about that,so started taking things out on him...E.g....she let me take my daughter to Ibiza for 2 weeks...a few months later I booked me,my daughter and son to go to Cuba....she refused me his passport and I lost £400 deposit...I booked me and my lad to go to the Madrid away game,again she refused to give me his passport..I've since asked if I pay the £5k,she gives it me back and she was fine with that...now she's found out we are doing brazil for the world cup and she's fuming and said I won't get the 5k back if I pay it....I've always paid for and always will pay for my kids...she doesn't go short...

I had booked to go on holiday to Blackpool with him when he was 5 and night before we were due to go she just changed her mind and wouldn't let him go.

I know a lad who went for some sort of part custody,that being where the child can stay with the dad for a guaranteed number of nights,he got it approved....he only gets the child when it suits her....NOBODY checks this is in force....he's complained on numerous occasions.

 

[ob]

I also had stuff like he doesn't need your money, he's not yours and he has a new dad (when her new boyfriend moved in).

At one stage didn't see him for 6 months then when new boyfriend battered her leaving her with fractured jaw it was me who was there for her.

Son 16 now and old enough to make up his own mind of what he wants to do now so its great. I just tolerate her now that's about it.

 

[SPIDERBOY]

I also had stuff like he doesn't need your money, he's not yours and he has a new dad (when her new boyfriend moved in).

At one stage didn't see him for 6 months then when new boyfriend battered her leaving her with fractured jaw it was me who was there for her.

Son 16 now and old enough to make up his own mind of what he wants to do now so its great. I just tolerate her now that's about it.

What I will say about that is..
Your ex's boyfriend is a tw@ for doing that,and you pal are a proper gent for being there..don't know if I could do that if I'm being honest.