liamctid
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I suppose but I've generally found it that women are no holds barred regarding what they discuss between each other
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I suppose but I've generally found it that women are no holds barred regarding what they discuss between each other
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Sounds about right!Full of bored, married people.
markbmcfc
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Met my Mrs on Plenty of Fish. 6 years later our lad turns 2 in February and baby number 2 is due in July.
They have a poor reputation but I found them no different to meeting people in day to day life. Chances are if you or a potential partner is a bit of a knob, it won't work.
Hopefully i'll never be single again but if i were to be, i'd go back to using them quite happily.
Think i used it at the right time, it was before the birth of Tinder and to get interest from people you had to read profiles and exchange messages rather than swiping left/right on the basis of a picture. Not sure what it's like nowadays.
Tips: pick someone that's invested some time into their 'profile' with recent pics and a they've written a lot about themselves. Bin anyone that messages with one word answers. If they are making an effort, and you are, it quite quickly works well. Trouble is most don't apply themselves. Good luck.
They have a poor reputation but I found them no different to meeting people in day to day life. Chances are if you or a potential partner is a bit of a knob, it won't work.
Hopefully i'll never be single again but if i were to be, i'd go back to using them quite happily.
Think i used it at the right time, it was before the birth of Tinder and to get interest from people you had to read profiles and exchange messages rather than swiping left/right on the basis of a picture. Not sure what it's like nowadays.
Tips: pick someone that's invested some time into their 'profile' with recent pics and a they've written a lot about themselves. Bin anyone that messages with one word answers. If they are making an effort, and you are, it quite quickly works well. Trouble is most don't apply themselves. Good luck.
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You sound just like me.I’m single at 40 and, after three attempts at serious relationships with girls, have given up. I don’t want kids so I’ll just stay on my own. I’ve never even officially lived with a lady in that sense.
The chubby indie chick from Cheshire became too cool for school and we drifted apart, the Swede was too high maintenance and the South West Londoner florist just didn’t like me in that way.
It can get lonely from time to time (I’ve not left the house since Friday evening) but I try and keep myself busy. It I meet one then I meet one. I otherwise do what I want.
I’m almost 38. In my 20 years as an adult I’ve had a 2 year, a 4 year and an 18 month relationship and countless months here and there with other girls.
Leaving about 10 years of my adult life that I’ve spent alone doing nothing more than one-night stands, having fuck buddies or just having a bit of time completely alone.
It’s not like I’m avoiding getting with a girl or staying with a girl but there’s no way on Earth I’m settling for someone I’m not happy with deep down or don’t really love. And I’m quite happy with the fact that it happens the other way round, would never want someone who doesn’t really love me to stay with me just because I love her.
It’s just not happened for me that I’ve ever found someone at the right time where we feel the same about each other at the same time.
I’ve met loads of girls who’ve liked me but I didn’t feel the same about them, I’ve met loads of girls I really liked but they didn’t feel the same about me, I’ve met girls I’ve really liked who were already in a relationship or married to someone else, I’ve really liked a couple of girls who were moving to Australia (yes, that’s on two separate occasions two different girls years apart!), and there have girls I’ve met where either I or them have just got out of something so weren’t really looking for something but it could have gone somewhere...
But I’m not forcing anything. If I meet someone I meet someone. I don’t want a dating site/app to find it for me, meeting someone by chance is half the fun. And I do alright for shags to be fair for someone who looks like I do, I manage to get some right sexy cheeky monkeys sometimes!
But the rest of the time I’m quite content to live in my peaceful flat on my own, come and go when I please and have absolutely nobody to answer to.
The only time I ever get lonely is if I can’t afford to go out on a Saturday night.
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It’s like they set themselves a standard and no **** ever lives up to it because in real life nobody can.Yes exactly, I see profiles full of demands and what they want etc etc etc.
To be honest its utter bullshit and boring.
Plus love is all about chance. Two people who you’d never put together and would never find each other from dating apps, could meet by chance and have the biggest spark you could ever find.
feelymcfeel
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I met my ex on Tinder. We were together 2 and a bit years, before splitting amicably. She's still one of my very best friends.
I used Tinder a few months after my split (20 odd years with three kids). Real eye opener for me. I think it eased a lot of the pain a long separation can bring as I met some genuinely lovely people. Met a few went out a few times etc, but I'm not sure my heart was in any of them (not sure my head was in the right place either). Last one I chatted to was a year ago and since then (and I've mentioned this before) I became content just being single and not having the 'hassle' of dating and not quite getting into it. I'm probably far more gregarious than I've even been in life now so happy enough chatting to women I see out and about (mainly the gym) but not taking it any further. I'm sure I will soon however, but for now I have other stuff to concentrate on.
I know many people who have successfully found a new partner on these dating apps however...you should get a feel for them as you chat but certainly once you meet...and you can always walk away.
I know many people who have successfully found a new partner on these dating apps however...you should get a feel for them as you chat but certainly once you meet...and you can always walk away.
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I often feel a more confident and happy person when I have periods of time on my own. I was single for six years in one stretch and I got myself fit, did loads of interesting things because I had more cash and time, I had more to talk about, felt more outgoing...I used Tinder a few months after my split (20 odd years with three kids). Real eye opener for me. I think it eased a lot of the pain a long separation can bring as I met some genuinely lovely people. Met a few went out a few times etc, but I'm not sure my heart was in any of them (not sure my head was in the right place either). Last one I chatted to was a year ago and since then (and I've mentioned this before) I became content just being single and not having the 'hassle' of dating and not quite getting into it. I'm probably far more gregarious than I've even been in life now so happy enough chatting to women I see out and about (mainly the gym) but not taking it any further. I'm sure I will soon however, but for now I have other stuff to concentrate on.
I know many people who have successfully found a new partner on these dating apps however...you should get a feel for them as you chat but certainly once you meet...and you can always walk away.
I was in a relationship before that which I didn’t want to be in but didn’t end things because I’d developed depression and wasn’t thinking straight. I put on weight, lost confidence, was less outgoing... I think all down to being depressed because of the situation of the relationship I was in.
So now, I’m only taking the plunge with someone I really know we both want to be with each other. And I’m not actively looking for it.
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BLUEMATT23
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It’s like they set themselves a standard and no **** ever lives up to it because in real life nobody can.
Plus love is all about chance. Two people who you’d never put together and would never find each other from dating apps, could meet by chance and have the biggest spark you could ever find.
Yep its a shame because all I ever wanted was to get married and be happy.
But I have to accept I've failed despite a big effort on my part over the last few years.
I'm too old now so have given up.
BlueMoonRisin’
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You seem too independent and pretty selfish (not having a pop mate) to need a woman, nothing wrong with that. I get you. Almost 39, you're a relatively young guy with plenty of time to meet the woman of your dreams, and I think you most probably will, but many guys try and force the issue and often meet the woman of their worst nightmare. Too many think with their dicks, and when the novelty wears off end up controlled and being an 8-5 kinda guy bringing home the bacon and accepting mundane routine.I often feel a more confident and happy person when I have periods of time on my own. I was single for six years in one stretch and I got myself fit, did loads of interesting things because I had more cash and time, I had more to talk about, felt more outgoing...
I was in a relationship before that which I didn’t want to be in but didn’t end things because I’d developed depression and wasn’t thinking straight. I put on weight, lost confidence, was less outgoing... I think all down to being depressed because of the situation of the relationship I was in.
So now, I’m only taking the plunge with someone I really know we both want to be with each other. And I’m not actively looking for it.
A healthy relationship is a mutual 50/50 decision on things between a couple. If one is a bit reluctant to go with something it's best to slightly concede opinion if it helps harmony.
We live in an ever increasing "fuck you, you're finished with me" society. If your TV goes on the blink, you bin it at the tip. If your camera doesn't blink properly, no problem, lob it in the bin and buy another.
If a relationship goes on the blink, then a couple split up, go on a dating site, and are amongst all the other broken misshaped biscuits on the production line.
I'd rather dunk a broken biscuit in my brew than go on a dating site again.