Death

There is no life without death, and no death without life.

I think once you accept death is coming it helps both your decision making and your outlook and that acceptance is a good thing.
 
Big Swifty said:
Some people aren't bothered. My mother-in-law is 100, and actually wants to go. When told of the Duke of Edinburgh's death she said "Isn't he lucky! I wish it were me"

She hasn't got dementia, but is very frail and confined to bed, and says she has no reason to go on. She has no interest in anything which might take her mind off things.

The consolation is that when she does go, it will be what she wanted. It's when you don't want to go yet, but you pop your clogs, it's a bit of a bugger.

But I can't get my head round the idea that someone actually wants to go, if thy aren't actually in unbearable pain.. I feel sorry for my Mrs who goes almost daily to try and cheer her up.
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Frail and confined to bed is no fun and old people get tired
 
Blue Maverick said:
As I come upto retirement even though I will be relatively young at 53 my daughter will only be 10, I’d like to think I’d see grandkids, my gran died at the age of 100 last year and my mum is still going strong at 72, she’s definitely got her genes, so you never know. Ive seen enough death in the last 20 years some in the worst ways possible that i know you could walk out the door and boom you’re gone. I hope I get to go in my sleep peacefully at 110 and not some shit cancer way, horrible fucking disease.
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Dont get the whole "I want to go when im +100" idea. There is no way , when you're that old, that you can fully take care of yourself with no help whatsoever. I rather be dead than have someone change my diaper , in all honesty. I hope I go before that.
 
supercity88 said:
I'm terrified and always will be.
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You should watch this video , its short. Also you should search Alan Watts on youtube and listen to his lectures , they might help you a lot.



Things to consider when you fear death:

1. The Universe is 13,8 billions old, for most of that time you weren't even alive.

2. If you were to live forever you'd get extremly bored with life , you would experience everything for infinite times. You would have seen and done everything for infinite times. Life would eventually wear you out mentally knowing that there is nothing more to experience. Theres no new joy to be had.
Imagine having 1 mil children during your life time. The first few children would give you an amazing feeling but after the 450th child you would start to feel nothing (or rather much sooner). You would feel like an insomniac begging for some sleep, you'd beg for death.

3. People fear death mostly because they don't know what happens after, its fear of the unkown. But we know that we came from somewhere (into existence) , we came from that unkown , so it can't be all that bad.
Its all sounds like a cycle : you come from non-existence -- you live -- you go back to non-existence. There's really no reason for fear.

4. Let's assume that when you die it all just ends , no more happiness , no more joy so on. At the same time all the negative experiences will also end , no more pain , suffering , frustration so on. Wouldn't you consider it a fair trade ?
 
Nihilist said:
Dont get the whole "I want to go when im +100" idea. There is no way , when you're that old, that you can fully take care of yourself with no help whatsoever. I rather be dead than have someone change my diaper , in all honesty. I hope I go before that.
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My grandma was fine up until a few months before she went mate.
 
Nihilist said:
Dont get the whole "I want to go when im +100" idea. There is no way , when you're that old, that you can fully take care of yourself with no help whatsoever. I rather be dead than have someone change my diaper , in all honesty. I hope I go before that.
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I do apologise but I am reading that as you are currently able to change your own diaper but when that ceases to be possible then you have had enough. Please tell me that isn't the case. :-)
 
DrBlueBob said:
I do apologise but I am reading that as you are currently able to change your own diaper but when that ceases to be possible then you have had enough. Please tell me that isn't the case. :-)
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That's just your ASSumption. Then again , you're free to have fantasies
 
Nihilist said:
She was a lucky case then. Many people are unable to take care of themselvs when they turned 80+ let alone near 100 or past it
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That’s mostly because people never do a moment’s exercise again for the rest of their life after turning 30 (some from the day of their last PE lesson at school!).

Humans are idiots, why they don’t look after themselves throughout life to the point they can’t look after themselves in old age is ridiculous.

My Grandad didn’t retire from his job as a removals man until he was 75, and is still going strong at 85.

Fauja Singh was still doing marathons after he turned 100

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The world’s oldest marathon runner breaks another record - Asiana.tv

Sikh Superhero Fauja Singh immortalised in children’s book
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I know lads in their 20s who’d barely able to run for a bus.
 
Psychedelic Casual said:
That’s mostly because people never do a moment’s exercise again for the rest of their life after turning 30 (some from the day of their last PE lesson at school!).

Humans are idiots, why they don’t look after themselves throughout life to the point they can’t look after themselves in old age is ridiculous.

My Grandad didn’t retire from his job as a removals man until he was 75, and is still going strong at 85.

Fauja Singh was still doing marathons after he turned 100

asiana.tv

The world’s oldest marathon runner breaks another record - Asiana.tv

Sikh Superhero Fauja Singh immortalised in children’s book
asiana.tv asiana.tv

I know lads in their 20s who’d barely able to run for a bus.
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I agree BUT genetics are also involved. Not everyone is 'designed' to reach a certain age in good health.
 
I've turned 50 and divorced for 10 years. I've just finished sorting all my finances out in case I go. My lads know where everything is. I'd love to have another quality 20 years, but if I go tomorrow it would put an end to my work to live scenario.
 
Nihilist said:
I agree BUT genetics are also involved. Not everyone is 'designed' to reach a certain age in good health.
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Yep, had similar conversation a couple of years ago when you could find a doctor, health starting going downhill, said to him I tend to look after my health and surprised I'm failing in a few departments, he just replied..
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