absolute nonsense.
they are grown men and they made a decision. Respect that rather than apply your own issues to it.
I’ve context to this. I played American football and we once had to tell two brothers on the team during the game that their father had died.
both took a minute, came over and insisted they played the rest of the game.
to a man we all played out of our skins with them. Nearly 20 years later and both of them speak of it as the best thing they could have done at the time.
it isn’t your choice, so respect theirs.