kaz7
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Sorry lovely xx
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kaz7
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My health stopped me going home to cornwall to see my brother when he died with lung cancer last year , neither of us could travel that far anymore so just accepted it , your brother would have known you love him xView attachment 122505
My 'baby' brother died yesterday. He was 62 years old and lived down south and I hadn't seen him since before Covid. He was 1 year older than my oldest child.
I can't sleep, I was watching football and posting on here when he died. Am I selfish, was I selfish? I couldn't have driven down to see him so I tell myself I wasn't and he knew I loved him and thought of him.
He died peacefully with his wife beside him. The brother closest in age to him had gone down from Hull to represent us all but he had gone out for a walk.
It was the 'big c' and, for those of you who know my assertion that I can't swear, I actually said the f word on Thursday, followed by the big c word (not the 4 letter one) but I sensed my Dad's arm on my shoulder telling me it was ok just this once.
Sorry to meander on..... I just needed to vent and gear myself up for the day ahead when I have to be strong for the others. As the eldest it's drummed into me from the day the first sibling after me was born. :-)
Sorry.
EDIT: Mods, if this shouldn't be here, please feel free to delete it. :-)
Prestwich_Blue
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So sorry to hear this Sheila. My condolences to you all.
It's no age but it made me smile that he was an uncle before he was out of nappies. Mourn him but don't beat yourself up about what you could have done. His fate wasn't determined by whether you were there or not.
I'd also say don't feel it's your duty to be strong for everyone else. Support your family of course but express your grief in the way you want. I'm sure you have many happy memories of the two little boys playing together.
It's no age but it made me smile that he was an uncle before he was out of nappies. Mourn him but don't beat yourself up about what you could have done. His fate wasn't determined by whether you were there or not.
I'd also say don't feel it's your duty to be strong for everyone else. Support your family of course but express your grief in the way you want. I'm sure you have many happy memories of the two little boys playing together.
kippax_blueboy
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So sorry for your loss.Thank you everyone for your kind wishes. He's at peace now, no more pain. xx
Bettys Bell
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My 'baby' brother died yesterday. He was 62 years old and lived down south and I hadn't seen him since before Covid. He was 1 year older than my oldest child.
I can't sleep, I was watching football and posting on here when he died. Am I selfish, was I selfish? I couldn't have driven down to see him so I tell myself I wasn't and he knew I loved him and thought of him.
He died peacefully with his wife beside him. The brother closest in age to him had gone down from Hull to represent us all but he had gone out for a walk.
It was the 'big c' and, for those of you who know my assertion that I can't swear, I actually said the f word on Thursday, followed by the big c word (not the 4 letter one) but I sensed my Dad's arm on my shoulder telling me it was ok just this once.
Sorry to meander on..... I just needed to vent and gear myself up for the day ahead when I have to be strong for the others. As the eldest it's drummed into me from the day the first sibling after me was born. :-)
Sorry.
EDIT: Mods, if this shouldn't be here, please feel free to delete it. :-)
Bettys Bell
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Thinking of you Eccles . And all your family
Eccles Blue
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Thank you again everyone. I slept for 3 hrs this afternoon, having spoken to all remaining siblings this morning.
We laughed and we cried as we talked memories, just as @Prestwich_Blue said, and we all agreed that he will be watching the game over our shoulder tonight.
Unfortunately, like the other brothers, he supported Trafford Utd, although rarely watching them live. :-)
Thank you again. It helps that we could smile at some memories. :-( :-)
We laughed and we cried as we talked memories, just as @Prestwich_Blue said, and we all agreed that he will be watching the game over our shoulder tonight.
Unfortunately, like the other brothers, he supported Trafford Utd, although rarely watching them live. :-)
Thank you again. It helps that we could smile at some memories. :-( :-)
Wretched Vengeance
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Condolences to you and yours, Eccles.
wolviedinho
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Sorry for your loss Eccles.
@Eccles Blue hey you, just because it's a new day don't think we've forgotten about you.
We are all sending love n hugs over the microwaves or whatever they are called. :-)
We are all sending love n hugs over the microwaves or whatever they are called. :-)
Eccles Blue
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Thank you. I managed to sleep last night for 4 hrs which is good for me. It is probably because I’m not subconsciously listening for the phone.@Eccles Blue hey you, just because it's a new day don't think we've forgotten about you.
We are all sending love n hugs over the microwaves or whatever they are called. :-)
The good wishes and warmth from BlueMooners has been wonderful. Thank you across the microwave:-) :-)
blue b4 the moon
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Condolences Eccles. Xx
So sorry @Eccles Blue, I've only just seen this
My sincere condolences to you all, and I hope you are OK?
Like others have already said, your brother knew you and yours loved him. That's all that matters at the end of the day xx
My sincere condolences to you all, and I hope you are OK?
Like others have already said, your brother knew you and yours loved him. That's all that matters at the end of the day xx
jimharri
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Only just saw this thread. Firstly EB, my condolences to you and all your family. Secondly, don't beat yourself up about not being with your brother when he passed away. You have nothing to be sorry about. I'm sure his family understand that you were unable to be at his bedside due to the difficulty in getting down there. Cancer is unforgiving; take some comfort from the fact that his suffering is at an end, and he's at peace now.
Mad Eyed Screamer
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This is the perfect place to post it.
At death we are all hard on ourselves - I could have done this, should have done that....
Guilt is a natural feeling at this time, hopefully it will pass and you can bombard your mind instead of all the good memories you have of your brother.
Best wishes to you amd family
At death we are all hard on ourselves - I could have done this, should have done that....
Guilt is a natural feeling at this time, hopefully it will pass and you can bombard your mind instead of all the good memories you have of your brother.
Best wishes to you amd family
jimharri
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Absolutely bang on. Try to remember the good times you had with your brother EB; bin the bad ones.This is the perfect place to post it.
At death we are all hard on ourselves - I could have done this, should have done that....
Guilt is a natural feeling at this time, hopefully it will pass and you can bombard your mind instead of all the good memories you have of your brother.
Best wishes to you amd family