Grown adult kids at home

[r.soleofsalford]

My lad stayed with us till he was 32, he’s a saver and saved up towards his first house while here. I wanted to take house keeping off him and put it into an account and give it him in a lump sum when he was buying his first house. My wife never took it off him in the first place. The tosser.

He’s a great lad and a fantastic dad to his 4 year old daughter despite his divorce he has his daughter half the week. Just worked away in Turkey for 3 weeks which is a bind because of missing his daughter while away. Trying to save up so he can get his mortgage paid of sooner.

Dads if they can should help their kids as much as the can, unless their kids are useless twats

 

[Blue Mist]

23 year old daughter and 20 year old son living with us. Both saving up for their own places …we don’t take rent off them on the proviso they are putting a few hundred quid away each month for a deposit

Not going to lie, I have to count to ten regularly ….

Saving 3 grand a year (a few hundred quid each month) ain't getting them squat. They are having you over Mrs/Mr Bloomers. Bung them 15k* each for the deposit or they are yours for life.

*2nd job :-)

 

[Trevor Morley's Tache]

Got the missus youngest (24) back home , we’d had a good 4 years without any kids and you don’t appreciate it till one comes back , it’s the constant absolute shit music coming from her room that riles me and the affect it has on our sex life as she rarely leaves the house

Absolutely this.

Which is why I'm about to sell up and move to Florida for a few years... minus my adult kids.

 

[PragueBlue]

All of ours left at 18 to go to uni and haven't come back yet and soon won't be able to as we are leaving the country in July ;-). Eldest has a decent job and a child. Middle one is finishing uni this year and already has a job lined up and somewhere to live. So they're sorted.

Youngest is 17 and still at home with us but she'll head off to uni this year.

Truth be told I miss them and wouldn't mind them being at home but I feel it's important they start to make their own way in life and after a few years at uni, they have got used to budgeting and having their own space.

 

[Kompany Car]

Mine is in his very early 20s still at home but it’s not really an issue. His bedroom is the opposite side of the house, has his own lounge, only time we see him is every so often for dinner if he’s not going out.

I’d prefer him to stay at home to be honest and have a rental property rather than move out. Someone else pays the mortgage and then when he’s ready, cash it in and buy his own place.

If he had a partner he was serious about then fair enough but for now he’s still at that stage of having fun and I don’t blame him.

 

[LangleyBlue1970]

Mine is in his very early 20s still at home but it’s not really an issue. His bedroom is the opposite side of the house, has his own lounge, only time we see him is every so often for dinner if he’s not going out.

I’d prefer him to stay at home to be honest and have a rental property rather than move out. Someone else pays the mortgage and then when he’s ready, cash it in and buy his own place.

If he had a partner he was serious about then fair enough but for now he’s still at that stage of having fun and I don’t blame him.

A house that size? You don’t look old enough to have a 20 year old, Vincent. ;-)

 

[AkanjisAfro]

I’m 24 and would love to move out but the best part of £1000pm for a mortgage just isn’t manageable for me yet

 

[LangleyBlue1970]

I’m 24 and would love to move out but the best part of £1000pm for a mortgage just isn’t manageable for me yet

Ah, a youngster.

How are your parents with that? What’s your plan? Interested in hearing from your age perspective.

 

[r.soleofsalford]

Mine is in his very early 20s still at home but it’s not really an issue. His bedroom is the opposite side of the house, has his own lounge, only time we see him is every so often for dinner if he’s not going out.

I’d prefer him to stay at home to be honest and have a rental property rather than move out. Someone else pays the mortgage and then when he’s ready, cash it in and buy his own place.

If he had a partner he was serious about then fair enough but for now he’s still at that stage of having fun and I don’t blame him.

Absolutely.

Let him save up to buy a property rather that paying bills in rent property.

 

[dooie68]

Youngest daughter 27, went to university,then travelled for a year, then her and her then fiancé came back to live with us to save for a house.Took almost 2 years but they saved almost 20k and brought their own house last September. Son 34, been at home all his life, not saved a penny until last September, he's been given (byme and the Mrs. ) an opportunity to save and earn more money, he's been put on 100 weeks notice so by August 2025 he's got to move out. Currently able to save £180-00 per week, I'm trying to demonstrate to him he can save and can in time pay a mortgage. His needs for property are simple a studio apartment will do.