How is everyone coping?

Badly today !

I have no idea why I am feeling shit today just woke up with a strong sence of wanting to have a chat with my dad who passed away 3 years ago. Dont know where this feeling is coming from having trouble fighting back the tears.

I think perhaps shielding is getting to me abit. I am luck because I am not on my own but my missus works so I have 9 hrs of seeing and talking to no one. I am getting abit snappie with the missus when she comes in. I try not to but she asks 'what you been up to day ' .....the fucking same as fucking yesterday I feel like screaming. It's not fair on her but I can feel myself sinking and I dont like it.

I think I still have to shield till end of march now going by the news so will force myself to get out on one of my bikes, the mountain bike first I guess.

When I sink like this I start to feel sorry for myself when in fact I am ok really. I hate paying rent (ex got the house ) , I hate I cant see anyway for retirement as I need to pay pvt rent :(. My body is falling apart because of years of manual work. But need to earn a certain amount to pay rent and Bill's etc. I cant see away of getting to enjoy retirement, I wont get a council house and my pension wont pay for 1k month rent. I feel lost and lonely and hard done by.
I have worked hard all my life started a pension when I was 17, bought my own house. Than the ex started getting violent so I left on lad came straight away with me, now 5 years later the other lad is with me.

I know I have alot to be grateful for a lovely new missus who loves my kids. Two great kids. A decent job. I just wish my head wouldn't get like this. My eldest pays for us to come up to watch City :)

Sorry for this ramble..
 
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give it to gordon said:
Badly today !

I have no idea why I am feeling shit today just woke up with a strong sence of wanting to have a chat with my dad who passed away 3 years ago. Dont know where this feeling is coming from having trouble fighting back the tears.

I think perhaps shielding is getting to me abit. I am luck because I am not on my own but my missus works so I have 9 hrs of seeing and talking to no one. I am getting abit snappie with the missus when she comes in. I try not to but she asks 'what you been up to day ' .....the fucking same as fucking yesterday I feel like screaming. It's not fair on her but I can feel myself sinking and I dont like it.

I think I still have to shield till end of march now going by the news so will force myself to get out on one of my bikes, the mountain bike first I guess.

When I sink like this I start to feel sorry for myself when in fact I am ok really. I hate paying rent (ex got the house ) , I hate I cant see anyway for retirement as I need to pay pvt rent :(. My body is falling apart because of years of manual work. But need to earn a certain amount to pay rent and Bill's etc. I cant see away of getting to enjoy retirement, I wont get a council house and my pension wont pay for 1k month rent. I feel lost and lonely and hard done by.
I have worked hard all my life started a pension when I was 17, bought my own house. Than the ex started getting violent so I left on lad came straight away with me, now 5 years later the other lad is with me.

I know I have alot to be grateful for a lovely new missus who loves my kids. Two great kids. A decent job. I just wish my head wouldn't get like this. My eldest pays for us to come up to watch City :)

Sorry for this ramble..
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its not a ramble mate its reality, same as you ive worked hard all my life however broke my ankle in December so housbound,cant get a penny off the government in the form of sick pay via universal credit as my wife earns to much at ASDA for 32 hours a week 'Yeh', week by week my debt is mounting up while people on furlough are being paid to stay in bed for jobs that are going to end when furlough ends,it makes my fucking piss boil all the taxes i have paid and never ever claimed a penny and when you need help they kick you in the bollox, as for PIP 'sick pay' you have to be ill for more than 3 months before you can claim,whats the point your on the way to reposesion by then if you havnt starved, all this while they have chucked millions at the arts and kept ilegals in 4 star hotels while giving them £40 a week spends, im sure most on here will have a rant or two about something and have a valid point,this country is fucked and corrupt to the core,,hope your situation gets better and good luck
 
marco said:
its not a ramble mate its reality, same as you ive worked hard all my life however broke my ankle in December so housbound,cant get a penny off the government in the form of sick pay via universal credit as my wife earns to much at ASDA for 32 hours a week 'Yeh', week by week my debt is mounting up while people on furlough are being paid to stay in bed for jobs that are going to end when furlough ends,it makes my fucking piss boil all the taxes i have paid and never ever claimed a penny and when you need help they kick you in the bollox, as for PIP 'sick pay' you have to be ill for more than 3 months before you can claim,whats the point your on the way to reposesion by then if you havnt starved, all this while they have chucked millions at the arts and kept ilegals in 4 star hotels while giving them £40 a week spends, im sure most on here will have a rant or two about something and have a valid point,this country is fucked and corrupt to the core,,hope your situation gets better and good luck
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yep ....save money and get fuck all......fuck about....get everything
 
give it to gordon said:
Badly today !

I have no idea why I am feeling shit today just woke up with a strong sence of wanting to have a chat with my dad who passed away 3 years ago. Dont know where this feeling is coming from having trouble fighting back the tears.

I think perhaps shielding is getting to me abit. I am luck because I am not on my own but my missus works so I have 9 hrs of seeing and talking to no one. I am getting abit snappie with the missus when she comes in. I try not to but she asks 'what you been up to day ' .....the fucking same as fucking yesterday I feel like screaming. It's not fair on her but I can feel myself sinking and I dont like it.

I think I still have to shield till end of march now going by the news so will force myself to get out on one of my bikes, the mountain bike first I guess.

When I sink like this I start to feel sorry for myself when in fact I am ok really. I hate paying rent (ex got the house ) , I hate I cant see anyway for retirement as I need to pay pvt rent :(. My body is falling apart because of years of manual work. But need to earn a certain amount to pay rent and Bill's etc. I cant see away of getting to enjoy retirement, I wont get a council house and my pension wont pay for 1k month rent. I feel lost and lonely and hard done by.
I have worked hard all my life started a pension when I was 17, bought my own house. Than the ex started getting violent so I left on lad came straight away with me, now 5 years later the other lad is with me.

I know I have alot to be grateful for a lovely new missus who loves my kids. Two great kids. A decent job. I just wish my head wouldn't get like this. My eldest pays for us to come up to watch City :)

Sorry for this ramble..
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No mate, get it off your chest. I've been shielding my wife for nigh on a year and am going stir crazy. Missing work, which I never thought I would ever say, but there is light on the horizon
 
marco said:
its not a ramble mate its reality, same as you ive worked hard all my life however broke my ankle in December so housbound,cant get a penny off the government in the form of sick pay via universal credit as my wife earns to much at ASDA for 32 hours a week 'Yeh', week by week my debt is mounting up while people on furlough are being paid to stay in bed for jobs that are going to end when furlough ends,it makes my fucking piss boil all the taxes i have paid and never ever claimed a penny and when you need help they kick you in the bollox, as for PIP 'sick pay' you have to be ill for more than 3 months before you can claim,whats the point your on the way to reposesion by then if you havnt starved, all this while they have chucked millions at the arts and kept ilegals in 4 star hotels while giving them £40 a week spends, im sure most on here will have a rant or two about something and have a valid point,this country is fucked and corrupt to the core,,hope your situation gets better and good luck
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I know what you mean about being off work, I got made redundant at 50 yes old. Went to sign on etc and was told because the wife (ex) was doing 18 hrs a week I couldnt get full dole. I had paid in since 16 yet when I need help I couldnt get it. I got £65 to pay my mortgage, food, etc for 2 kids , wife and me. Oh and because I had worked at the same place for 22 yrs you can live of your redundancy, cant pay the mortgage off etc because we needed the redundancy to pay food, Bill's etc.

I know it's wrong ( or isnt ! ) but many time i felt like telling my two lads to signed on dont work have a few kids with different partners. Get a council house or what ever they are called nowadays, let the council pay for everything.

Now I hate that thought but alot of people live like that. I know a 'couple' who must be about 45 now , never worked have 4 kids , 'split' up and now both a 3 bedroom house as its need when the kids visit the dad. Never done a days work in their lives.

Yet people like you and me and lots of others have knackered our bodies putting food on the table and when we did help we are basically told to 'Do one'

I feel better for having a moan on here ! Hopefully things turn out ok for you matey. Keep your chin up
 
give it to gordon said:
Badly today !

I have no idea why I am feeling shit today just woke up with a strong sence of wanting to have a chat with my dad who passed away 3 years ago. Dont know where this feeling is coming from having trouble fighting back the tears.

I think perhaps shielding is getting to me abit. I am luck because I am not on my own but my missus works so I have 9 hrs of seeing and talking to no one. I am getting abit snappie with the missus when she comes in. I try not to but she asks 'what you been up to day ' .....the fucking same as fucking yesterday I feel like screaming. It's not fair on her but I can feel myself sinking and I dont like it.

I think I still have to shield till end of march now going by the news so will force myself to get out on one of my bikes, the mountain bike first I guess.

When I sink like this I start to feel sorry for myself when in fact I am ok really. I hate paying rent (ex got the house ) , I hate I cant see anyway for retirement as I need to pay pvt rent :(. My body is falling apart because of years of manual work. But need to earn a certain amount to pay rent and Bill's etc. I cant see away of getting to enjoy retirement, I wont get a council house and my pension wont pay for 1k month rent. I feel lost and lonely and hard done by.
I have worked hard all my life started a pension when I was 17, bought my own house. Than the ex started getting violent so I left on lad came straight away with me, now 5 years later the other lad is with me.

I know I have alot to be grateful for a lovely new missus who loves my kids. Two great kids. A decent job. I just wish my head wouldn't get like this. My eldest pays for us to come up to watch City :)

Sorry for this ramble..
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Can you find something to occupy your time when the wife is out? Maybe some DIY or learn something new
 
give it to gordon said:
I know what you mean about being off work, I got made redundant at 50 yes old. Went to sign on etc and was told because the wife (ex) was doing 18 hrs a week I couldnt get full dole. I had paid in since 16 yet when I need help I couldnt get it. I got £65 to pay my mortgage, food, etc for 2 kids , wife and me.

I know it's wrong ( or isnt ! ) but many time i felt like telling my two lads to signed on dont work have a few kids with different partners. Get a council house or what ever they are called nowadays, let the council pay for everything.

Now I hate that thought but alot of people live like that. I know a 'couple' who must be about 45 now , never worked have 4 kids , 'split' up and now both a 3 bedroom house as its need when the kids visit the dad. Never done a days work in their lives.

Yet people like you and me and lots of others have knackered our bodies putting food on the table and when we did help we are basically told to 'Do one'

I feel better for having a moan on here ! Hopefully things turn out ok for you matey. Keep your chin up
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You've more chance of landing on Mars nowadays than getting a council house.

More likely end up in shitty bed and breakfast for years.
 
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