The Shrike said:
. There are few things less appealing to women than a man trying to hold on too tight. If she decides she wants back in after all - she'll let you know.
That's why sappy men think that girls like bastards. They don't. They just don't like men who come across as desperate and are clingy. I'm not saying that's you, ono, but in general the most attractive thing to women is confidence and independance.
Let me tell you a little story about when I had a similar situation many years ago.
I met a girl at a wedding who was stunning. Really stunning, a head turner.
We got off with each other, saw each other again but she was moving abroad to teach for a year. She went and we stayed in touch and when she came home for a week we saw each other a time or two. Then she extended to another year abroad. And she got a boyfriend. And moved in with him. But when she came back to England she would go out and sleep with me.
I was besotted with her and let her do this. I cringe when I type this but I believed when she finally came home she'd be mine. I didnt go celibate - far from it, but in my heart I believed I'd get her back.
She held all the cards, just like your girl, and played me like a fool.
She came back from Japan, we arranged a date, I bought her flowers...and she came on the date and dumped me for the other guy. Then carried on the date like nothing had happened. We got out of our nuts on E and it was a seriously bad night.
I learnt a hard lesson. She was the kind of girl to sleep behind her boyfriend's back and she was quite happy to have me there to shag and take her out when she got back home. She even gave me a fucking STD.
I got the last laugh.
12 months later I went to another wedding and she was there. I was tanned and fit and on top of my game. We kept our distance a bit but I was attracting a fair bit of female attention that night, inclduing one nice girl from London.
Late on the girl came talking to me and then started propositioning me and saying she'd made a mistake and all that. I was nice and polite and kept saying "No Jane. We had our chance". She started saying "No man's ever said no to me". She couldn't believe it.
I ended up getting off with the London girl, she ended up crying in the corner and I've never seen her again.
I'm not telling you this story to brag, I'm just telling you that your situation happens to everyone. And there is a moral, somewhere, to the story: Don't be a sap. Have self-confidence. Don't accept second best out of fear.
