Is life better with or without kids?

BlueHammer85 said:
Sorry to hijack this thread but I don't want to start a topic about this.

I'm seriously considering going to see my ex girlfriends kid over Xmas just to see her and give her a present.
Is this a good idea or not ???

I haven't told my ex yet, but I know she would be fine with it. It's just whether I think it's the right decision - my situation was explained couple pages back.

Girlfriend left me for another bloke, but i raised her kid for 3 and a half years. I haven't seen her for a few months now. It's killing me loads and I'm desperate to see her. But I really am 50/50 as I don't want to confuse the kid , but as it's Xmas I'm sure she'd love it if I popped over quickly dropped of prezzie then she has rest of day with her family etc. Obviously gonna take advice with my mum and dad etc but always good to get feedback on here.
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Didn't you agree to split?

Run it by her first. Just to be on the safe side.


Oh...foxy my old mate. My old chum. You had your chance. In that flat. In London. Palace away. I was full of pasties. You weren't. Or perhaps in that hotel. In Manchester. You fell down the gap between the bed and wall.
 
Balti said:
when they get older and you and the missus want to have a full on major noisy shagging session and they won't leave the house they become a bit of a nuisance tbh
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You too!
 
stony said:
BlueHammer85 said:
Sorry to hijack this thread but I don't want to start a topic about this.

I'm seriously considering going to see my ex girlfriends kid over Xmas just to see her and give her a present.
Is this a good idea or not ???

I haven't told my ex yet, but I know she would be fine with it. It's just whether I think it's the right decision - my situation was explained couple pages back.

Girlfriend left me for another bloke, but i raised her kid for 3 and a half years. I haven't seen her for a few months now. It's killing me loads and I'm desperate to see her. But I really am 50/50 as I don't want to confuse the kid , but as it's Xmas I'm sure she'd love it if I popped over quickly dropped of prezzie then she has rest of day with her family etc. Obviously gonna take advice with my mum and dad etc but always good to get feedback on here.
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Not a good idea at all. I know you raised her mate, but the hard truth is that she isn't yours. Your ex won't like it and it will confuse the kid. Send a present round via a third party by all means, but personally I think its a bad idea to go in person.
Stay away Mark, for your own sake as much as anything.
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Perfectly put.
 
Thank you. I will leave it.

Was getting emotional doing Christmas shopping. Really thought seeing her was the right thing to do. But prob isn't so I wont. Couple beers now with mates, listening to oasis. So all good.

Have a good xmas Blues.
 
Well done blue hammer. Have a top christmas. Up the hammers!
 
When I found out my daughter was coming my world fell down around my shoulders. Now she's the one thing that holds it up. As long as I give her everything I can give her and be the best dad I can be to her, everything else can go to fuck(unless it affects her) it was hard adjusting to not being the most important person in my partners life, but at least now we agree on something.

Does that answer the question?
 
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