Life without kids??

I have 2 and, right now, this very second, as my eldest child is rolling their eyes at me and my younger one has just reminded me that they need a costime or the schol play by Monday, the idea of being childless is very appealing... Having children is a challenge and ideally should not be done without careful consideration.
Mine are the absolute centre of my world. I've made sacrifices for them. I be richer, further advanced in my career and probably thinner if I didn't have them (I'd have time to go to the gym occasionally) but that's my choice and one that I'll never regret. The emotion they inspire is unequalled and my life is (generally) the better for them.
 
stony said:
I have a nephew who is adamant that he doesn't want kids. He recently split up with his long term partner because she wanted them and he didn't. He thought it kinder on her to split now and let her find someone who does want them.
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Nice story. I guess it's a topic to approach once you're beginning to get serious.
 
If you don't have kids you miss out and if you do have kids you miss out, just on different things unless you are very wealthy.
Decide what stuff is important to you. I work with the bloke that lives opposite us with his wife and no kids. They have paid the mortgage, have plenty of time for each other as well as themselves, nice cars, and plenty of holidays.
We have the two brats, shit clothes, an old car, and plenty of debt. I honestly wouldn't have it any other way ;-)
 
It all comes down to selfishness for me. If you're not prepared to give up your three holidays a year or your 8 hours sleep a night then don't have kids. I've got two boys, first one is 2 and a half and the second is one month. I'm knackered, stressed, skint and haven't seen my mates or played cricket in what seems like ages. But I wouldn't swap it for the world. If you're the kind of person that would resent your wife or child because you can't do the things you did when you were 20 then don't have kids.

To the OP I'm sorry to say but if your wife is starting to want kids now, as women often do when they hit their thirties, it's going to end one of two ways - with kids or divorce. The 'I'd rather be with you without kids than somebody else with kids' talk won't last. The resentment will build and build and small things will become big things until eventually she'll see a different life to the one she has with you. I'm sorry to be so blunt but it's true.

I don't think anyone will regret having kids but I'm sure as they get older many that don't have kids will wish they did.
 
I was in Tescos today and I overheard a boy of about 5 say to his mum 'what time is it?'

And she said 'I wish it was your bed time so I could put you to bed and get rid of you'

I thought what a fucking **** you are love.
 
Neither of my ex's wanted kids and it wasn't a deal breaker,never regretted it and am glad i don't have them,had some step kids for a bit and too much hassle for me although i love them
 
it is getting harder without kids, when you pass the 50s (and not in a partnership anymore)
My mother without their sons, after my father died, unthinkable.
 
never wanted kids, thought I was too selfish to make a good dad, then suddenly there she was, 24 years later I still can't believe how stupid I was. Without a doubt the best thing that ever happened to me
 
Each to their own, I guess. I'm sure there are fleeting moments where I think "what if we didn't have kids", but I can't really remember many. Having children has enhanced my life immeasurably. It's not for everyone, of course, but I can't imagine life without them. It's undoubtedly the best thing I ever did.
 
Be warned. If they "persuade you" to have one, they often then want another!

I love em but find it hard work, especially the early years which are brutal at times. I found it a bit easier from about 6 onwards!
 
Millwallawayveteran1988 said:
Be warned. If they "persuade you" to have one, they often then want another!

I love em but find it hard work, especially the early years which are brutal at times. I found it a bit easier from about 6 onwards!
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Ha, I keep thinking that but a friend gleefully informed that it's a piece of piss until adolescence kicks in. That's something to look forward to, I guess.
 
Ric said:
Ha, I keep thinking that but a friend gleefully informed that it's a piece of piss until adolescence kicks in. That's something to look forward to, I guess.
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Adolescence is great. I need a translator nowadays to understand my son when he talks to me.
 
I absolutely, wholeheartedly love my kids and always tell people that it's worth it...but i'm also happy as fuck that the in-laws decided to have them tonight so I can get some kip!
 
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