Looking at your ex....

gaudinho's stolen car said:
I split up with a girl about 18 months ago, and moved on to a new one relatively quickly. I had stopped fancying my ex whilst we were still in a relationship, and wound it down until we agreed to split. I hardly ever thought about her, until recently she started seeing a lad whom we both used to work with. He's a right gimp, and she is a bit of a catch, and I have found myself jealous as fuck.

Strange creatures, humans, aren't they?
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I'll second that mate!
 
Dated a bird for 4 years when i was 19, we split when i was 23. More me than her as i wanted to do the lads thing. It was a bad break up so we didn't keep in touch. I went off and did the lads thing, had numerous short term relationships during that time but always compared them all to her. She was stunning, the best looking bird I’ve dated by far and had her head screwed on. Always kicked myself for dumping her. Anyway, 2 years ago we bumped into each other, it was like we'd never split, she was still stunning, no kids and a boob job. We got talking and found out we'd had the same sh*t relationships so we decided to give it a go. It lasted 6 months before ending very very badly. She'd been f*cked around big time in the 7 years we'd spent apart and it had turned her extremely paranoid unsecure woman. She was a nightmare, she would become insanely jealous even if I mentioned another girls name. Moral of the story is never go back.
 
Pigeonho said:
I'm sure there's many Bluemooners who have had relationships end for whatever reason, I'm one of them. As i've said before, me and my ex, who I was with for 7 years, have a good post-split relationship, purely for the sake of the kids. It is 4 years this year since we split and in that time she has got married and I am engaged, but just lately I have looked at her and realised that I never actually knew her at all! She signed up to facebook not so long ago and naturally we are friends on it. Her interests are stuff which I never knew anything about, some quite odd things too. Also, all she does is travel the planet too, her honeymoon being something quite fantastic and spreading over 3 continents. She was never ever anything like that when we were together. That is due to different circumstances as obviously we had a young family to focus on, however these days due to us having 50/50 custody of the kids, we have a lot of 'free time', (I hate that tag), so we do things we never got to do when we were together. I look at her though now and don't even recognise her, not in a bad way but just makes you think that maybe if she had been more like she is now, the real her, maybe we wouldn't have felt so trapped in the relationship we were in, (again all due to the pressures of raising a family).

Any of you ever had a similar thing happen? Where you look at an ex you may have kept in contact with and simply don't recognise her/him?

Its quite a weird feeling.
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Fuck me mate.
I'm really in two minds of fucking mine off. ahnd you're pushing me the single way.
She's been in a mood for a week now, and this is a tri-monthly cycle where she just makes everyone's life hell, and she's not due on til next week!! Seriously questioning whether I can be arsed putting up with this for the rest of my young life.
I'm 27, and was with my ex for 3 years, and met the current **** whilst with her, and been with her for 4 years. So I've been tied down since I was 20.
The **** moans like fuck about my City love affair, moans about playing on the PS3, moans about me playing footy twice a week, moans that I don't give her money to help her pay bills even though she's on benefits and gets everything paid for, and I've got my own house (where I live) with a mortgage to pay and bills of my own, and moans about everything else.
On top of that, I'm the manager at work, and a good looking lad, so get plenty offers for a shag, and I'd even pay for it if I was desperate, so its not like she's doing me any favours being with me.

And to top it all off, the lads have just booked Ibiza in august, and I'm going on a family holiday to Turkey with her and her kids.

Or am I just being selfish?
 
billy_big_spuds said:
Pigeonho said:
I'm sure there's many Bluemooners who have had relationships end for whatever reason, I'm one of them. As i've said before, me and my ex, who I was with for 7 years, have a good post-split relationship, purely for the sake of the kids. It is 4 years this year since we split and in that time she has got married and I am engaged, but just lately I have looked at her and realised that I never actually knew her at all! She signed up to facebook not so long ago and naturally we are friends on it. Her interests are stuff which I never knew anything about, some quite odd things too. Also, all she does is travel the planet too, her honeymoon being something quite fantastic and spreading over 3 continents. She was never ever anything like that when we were together. That is due to different circumstances as obviously we had a young family to focus on, however these days due to us having 50/50 custody of the kids, we have a lot of 'free time', (I hate that tag), so we do things we never got to do when we were together. I look at her though now and don't even recognise her, not in a bad way but just makes you think that maybe if she had been more like she is now, the real her, maybe we wouldn't have felt so trapped in the relationship we were in, (again all due to the pressures of raising a family).

Any of you ever had a similar thing happen? Where you look at an ex you may have kept in contact with and simply don't recognise her/him?

Its quite a weird feeling.
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Fuck me mate.
I'm really in two minds of fucking mine off. ahnd you're pushing me the single way.
She's been in a mood for a week now, and this is a tri-monthly cycle where she just makes everyone's life hell, and she's not due on til next week!! Seriously questioning whether I can be arsed putting up with this for the rest of my young life.
I'm 27, and was with my ex for 3 years, and met the current **** whilst with her, and been with her for 4 years. So I've been tied down since I was 20.
The **** moans like fuck about my City love affair, moans about playing on the PS3, moans about me playing footy twice a week, moans that I don't give her money to help her pay bills even though she's on benefits and gets everything paid for, and I've got my own house (where I live) with a mortgage to pay and bills of my own, and moans about everything else.
On top of that, I'm the manager at work, and a good looking lad, so get plenty offers for a shag, and I'd even pay for it if I was desperate, so its not like she's doing me any favours being with me.

And to top it all off, the lads have just booked Ibiza in august, and I'm going on a family holiday to Turkey with her and her kids.

Or am I just being selfish?
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What exactly attracted you to her then?
 
billy_big_spuds said:
Pigeonho said:
I'm sure there's many Bluemooners who have had relationships end for whatever reason, I'm one of them. As i've said before, me and my ex, who I was with for 7 years, have a good post-split relationship, purely for the sake of the kids. It is 4 years this year since we split and in that time she has got married and I am engaged, but just lately I have looked at her and realised that I never actually knew her at all! She signed up to facebook not so long ago and naturally we are friends on it. Her interests are stuff which I never knew anything about, some quite odd things too. Also, all she does is travel the planet too, her honeymoon being something quite fantastic and spreading over 3 continents. She was never ever anything like that when we were together. That is due to different circumstances as obviously we had a young family to focus on, however these days due to us having 50/50 custody of the kids, we have a lot of 'free time', (I hate that tag), so we do things we never got to do when we were together. I look at her though now and don't even recognise her, not in a bad way but just makes you think that maybe if she had been more like she is now, the real her, maybe we wouldn't have felt so trapped in the relationship we were in, (again all due to the pressures of raising a family).

Any of you ever had a similar thing happen? Where you look at an ex you may have kept in contact with and simply don't recognise her/him?

Its quite a weird feeling.
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Fuck me mate.
I'm really in two minds of fucking mine off. ahnd you're pushing me the single way.
She's been in a mood for a week now, and this is a tri-monthly cycle where she just makes everyone's life hell, and she's not due on til next week!! Seriously questioning whether I can be arsed putting up with this for the rest of my young life.
I'm 27, and was with my ex for 3 years, and met the current **** whilst with her, and been with her for 4 years. So I've been tied down since I was 20.
The **** moans like fuck about my City love affair, moans about playing on the PS3, moans about me playing footy twice a week, moans that I don't give her money to help her pay bills even though she's on benefits and gets everything paid for, and I've got my own house (where I live) with a mortgage to pay and bills of my own, and moans about everything else.
On top of that, I'm the manager at work, and a good looking lad, so get plenty offers for a shag, and I'd even pay for it if I was desperate, so its not like she's doing me any favours being with me.
And to top it all off, the lads have just booked Ibiza in august, and I'm going on a family holiday to Turkey with her and her kids.

Or am I just being selfish?
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Love that.

Although our situations aren't anywhere near the same, I know where you're coming from. I'd love to fuck my bird off because she's been a twat for the past 6 weeks, but I like her too much.
 
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