Before we look at my Ex's could Pidge look at the last Post in last Weeks " My Mrs is being made Redundant thread" and his private in Box and reply to me please - because I need to know!!!. Now thats out of the way, where to start?
I have lived with two and married two. The last girl I was living with lasted 11 days and it was mayhem all the way, I really dont know where she is or what she does - all I know it will be full of Drama.
The other Girl I lived with. This relationship ended badly and with me being the guilty party -and I do mean guilty. Many times I have thought about her and I found out that the one thing she wanted she couldn't have; Children. Knowing this and knowing of the Love she gave to my Child all those years ago was heartbreaking. Then I later found out that She and her Husband, and he was a Guy she met on the rebound from me had adopted two little Polish Sisters under the age of 5. It brings me peace to know that she is happy.
The ex-wife. The Marriage was so long ago that it is like it happened to somebody else. As we watched our Child grow from a six year old at the time of Divorce to a Trainee Teacher and a Mother at the age of 27 a Fondness developed between us. We gang up on the said Daughter and do what all good parents do, unite and interfere when her actions fail to meet our approval or 1980's standards. It is a Warmth between us.
It's nice to look back and think sometimes but you cant change the things you've done and the things that have been done to you - I missed out the part that the first Wife left me for a Builder by the way as this late in the day, It just doesn't matter or have any meaning.
Your past may help define you but it isn't all that you are.