My wife is crazy and it's getting to be a problem.

ctidcarl said:
I share the OP's pain as my missus is fookin bonkers too.

Anything, and I mean anything, can trigger a dispute

Trouble is, I'm 53, I've got fook all savings, nowhere to go, so I stick it..........but it does get me down\

I once read, possibly on here that - women..........they are all mental.

They just have different coloured hair, so you know which one is yours
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Hahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa that seriously made me LOL mate.
 
buckshot said:
There is literally nothing I can do or say that doesn't end up with her taking offense and yelling at me. If I clean the kitchen it means I think she's a woman who doesn't know how to keep a clean kitchen. If I ask her if she bought toothpaste recently it's not because I want to know if we need toothpaste it's because I think she's a woman who never buys things we need. If I send her flowers at work I'm an asshole who thinks that sending flowers will make up for all of the horrible shit I do like asking if we have toothpaste. One time she literally left me and moved back in with her parents because I... CLEANED THE KITCHEN!!!!!

She has this habit of taking out one of our dogs without a leash or collar to identify him, she just takes him out with nothing. Here's how that went:

Me: He's a very skittish dog who runs away if something scares him, can you please at least put his collar on him so if somebody finds him they'll know where he belongs?

Her: I'M ALWAYS THE ONE WHO TAKES HIM OUT (she's not)!!!!!!! YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING FOR HIM (I do)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like, I just don't want to lose my dog. I don't think there is a sane person who could argue with putting a name tag on a dog. When I take him out I put a leash on him, he does his thing and we come back inside.

I'm at the point where I can't even talk to her because I'm so sick of the bullshit. I make dinner and I don't tell her it's ready or even offer her any, I just leave it on the counter in case she wants to eat it. I know that me making dinner and setting a place for her at the table will be taken as some sort of insult and I just don't want to deal with it.
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Tough one this.

Is she the kind of woman you could persuade to have a sit-down adult conversation with?

Aa someone said earlier, it could be hyperthyroidism or menopause. My OH had a thyroid issue that made her proper skittish. Some of the behaviour you are describing fits that picture perfectly.

Just explain your feelings and let her know you are at the end of your tether. That might just be the wake up call she needs. Failing that counselling is also worth a try if you think your marriage is worth fighting for.

Good luck.
 
How long have you been married, life is to short to put up with her shit.as Cher sang If I could turn back time.
 
oakiecokie said:
Who asked you to butt in ?? Is it any of yer business yer nosey bugger ? Clear off.
See even us men suffer from the male menopause, but do we make a song and dance about it ??
Nah. We just bugger off down to the pub.
Pfft !!
;) ;)
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As you can probably tell from the time of this post (2.05am) I am having trouble sleeping but your response made me laugh out loud and agree with you that men also go through a type of menopause but for them it’s labelled as a midlife crisis. Thank you for the laugh, now would you come and get rid of the spider I’ve just spotted on the bedroom floor please? ;-) :-)

I hate spiders!!!!
 
buckshot said:
There is literally nothing I can do or say that doesn't end up with her taking offense and yelling at me. If I clean the kitchen it means I think she's a woman who doesn't know how to keep a clean kitchen. If I ask her if she bought toothpaste recently it's not because I want to know if we need toothpaste it's because I think she's a woman who never buys things we need. If I send her flowers at work I'm an asshole who thinks that sending flowers will make up for all of the horrible shit I do like asking if we have toothpaste. One time she literally left me and moved back in with her parents because I... CLEANED THE KITCHEN!!!!!

She has this habit of taking out one of our dogs without a leash or collar to identify him, she just takes him out with nothing. Here's how that went:

Me: He's a very skittish dog who runs away if something scares him, can you please at least put his collar on him so if somebody finds him they'll know where he belongs?

Her: I'M ALWAYS THE ONE WHO TAKES HIM OUT (she's not)!!!!!!! YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING FOR HIM (I do)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like, I just don't want to lose my dog. I don't think there is a sane person who could argue with putting a name tag on a dog. When I take him out I put a leash on him, he does his thing and we come back inside.

I'm at the point where I can't even talk to her because I'm so sick of the bullshit. I make dinner and I don't tell her it's ready or even offer her any, I just leave it on the counter in case she wants to eat it. I know that me making dinner and setting a place for her at the table will be taken as some sort of insult and I just don't want to deal with it.
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When the present Mrs TRB and I presume most if not all are like that at times, goes off on one.....I do fuck all, that way if she does give you both barrels at least you've not wasted your time and energy by actually doing something and THEN getting both barrels. I call it energy management.
Next time, dont buy her flowers, buy her a box of microfibre cloths, slap her arse and stand back ....
 
Tuearts right boot said:
When the present Mrs TRB and I presume most if not all are like that at times, goes off on one.....I do fuck all, that way if she does give you both barrels at least you've not wasted your time and energy by actually doing something and THEN getting both barrels. I call it energy management.
Next time, dont buy her flowers, buy her a box of microfibre cloths, slap her arse and stand back ....
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or....turn gay. Join the dark side and start using ' mens products ' At least you know where you stand with a bloke.
 
buckshot said:
There is literally nothing I can do or say that doesn't end up with her taking offense and yelling at me. If I clean the kitchen it means I think she's a woman who doesn't know how to keep a clean kitchen. If I ask her if she bought toothpaste recently it's not because I want to know if we need toothpaste it's because I think she's a woman who never buys things we need. If I send her flowers at work I'm an asshole who thinks that sending flowers will make up for all of the horrible shit I do like asking if we have toothpaste. One time she literally left me and moved back in with her parents because I... CLEANED THE KITCHEN!!!!!

She has this habit of taking out one of our dogs without a leash or collar to identify him, she just takes him out with nothing. Here's how that went:

Me: He's a very skittish dog who runs away if something scares him, can you please at least put his collar on him so if somebody finds him they'll know where he belongs?

Her: I'M ALWAYS THE ONE WHO TAKES HIM OUT (she's not)!!!!!!! YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING FOR HIM (I do)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like, I just don't want to lose my dog. I don't think there is a sane person who could argue with putting a name tag on a dog. When I take him out I put a leash on him, he does his thing and we come back inside.

I'm at the point where I can't even talk to her because I'm so sick of the bullshit. I make dinner and I don't tell her it's ready or even offer her any, I just leave it on the counter in case she wants to eat it. I know that me making dinner and setting a place for her at the table will be taken as some sort of insult and I just don't want to deal with it.
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Should have gone to Istanbul.
Has soon as I booked after the Madrid game mine stopped talking to me,i was only away 5 days,3 full days . Its about 8 weeks now she has totally blanked me for now
 
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