Paternity test faked - advice

[robbie brewer]

Contact the other lad and tell him you note his concerns and if he has definitive proof he is not the father to contact you again. If he wants to do a new DNA test tell him you will be happy to oblige as long as it is done in a controlled environment with all parties present, hopefully you will get a result fairly quickly and everyone can get on with their lives.

 

[otherwise]

Yeah it's crossed my mind too and I am keeping an open mind at this stage. The easiest thing to do would be to ignore it but I can't. If what I have been told is true he tells people he doesn't have a dad poor little sod.

If the kid thinks he doesn't have a dad, then his mom didn't tell him that this ex was the dad. If that's true it looks really bad on her, manipulating a DNA test and then saying he doesn't have a dad.

Hope you get this sorted. Sounds like the kid could really use his dad.

 

[Newman Noggs]

Stay out of it and under no circumstances resort to law. Even if you were proven to be the father she could deny you access and, for any number of reasons, the Court probably wouldn't force her to allow you access. And what makes you think a confused child would want to see this complete stranger ?

So you'd be paying huge legal bills simply for the privilege of supporting the mother until the child leaves full time education.

 

[mayo31]

If I've got a son I want to know him. I've already got a beautiful daughter and another baby on the way so the timing isn't great as things are good atvth moment.

Are these with the same woman?

 

[dickie davies]

Let's call the OP "A" and the other bloke "B"

If the mother of the kids chases "B" for child maintenance for both children and "B" denies that the first child is his, then the mother will presumably chase "A"
"A" should deny that the child is his because of the DNA test.
If the Mother then says that the test was wrong, then "A" should go directly to his solicitor and take legal advice, which I'm pretty sure will be informing the Police of this matter
There is also the likelihood of criminal charges being brought against all involved in the fraud and who knew about it, Mum, Mum's Mum, brother and "B" with a very strong possibility of people going to prison
If you do have to talk to the Police, they will absolve you of all responsibility as you're the person who has been lied to. If they ask why didn't you come forward as soon as "B" contacted you and told you about a fraudulent DNA test, you just viewed the entire split between the Mum and "B" as being very bitter as it was when you split from her

My advice to the OP is very much as has already been said. Do nothing until you are contacted by the mother of the child. A few weeks or months will not affect your relationship with the boy if he is in fact yours

 

[Gareth Barry Conlon]

If the kid thinks he doesn't have a dad, then his mom didn't tell him that this ex was the dad. If that's true it looks really bad on her, manipulating a DNA test and then saying he doesn't have a dad.

Hope you get this sorted. Sounds like the kid could really use his dad.

Hmmmm....

 

[Man_City_Loyal]

It's sad when people use kids as a weapon to get at their exes.

I'm experiencing it now.

Its horrible.

 

[Man_City_Loyal]

It's sad when people use kids as a weapon to get at their exes.

I'm experiencing it now.

Its horrible.

 

[Man_City_Loyal]

Hoping for some advice from someone who has had a similar situation. This might be quite unique so failing that maybe there is someone with some legal background.

A few years ago my missus at the time got pregnant. Shortly after we split up (nutcase) then within weeks she was seeing someone else. She was asking me to walk away and let them bring up the baby but I wasn't having any of it. She then dropped the bombshell that I was unlikely to be the Dad as she was seeing this other guy behind my back.

Once the baby was born I insisted on a DNA test which we did and it came back that I was not the father.

I've been contacted recently by the now ex fella claiming that she faked the DNA test (she would not let me witness it) and that it couldn't have been his kid as she was already pregnant when he started to see her which is news to me. So it appears I have a child I only met twice within days of birth before the test was done. He could also be making all this up, not sure why but I clearly need to know either way.

What do I do next? Clearly I need to get a legally binding test done then assuming that comes back go through the process of agreeing what happens next.

Should I speak to a Solicitor first or make contact with her and see how that goes? I would expect her to refuse then be difficult throughout all of this.

Is there a legal angle to this? Ie her ex has said he is happy to speak to the Police even though this will probably land him in trouble too. I don’t know if I would go down this route anyway but would be good to know where I stand.

Any advice appreciated.

Get legal advice, she can get herself in a lot of trouble.

 

[Man_City_Loyal]

Hoping for some advice from someone who has had a similar situation. This might be quite unique so failing that maybe there is someone with some legal background.

A few years ago my missus at the time got pregnant. Shortly after we split up (nutcase) then within weeks she was seeing someone else. She was asking me to walk away and let them bring up the baby but I wasn't having any of it. She then dropped the bombshell that I was unlikely to be the Dad as she was seeing this other guy behind my back.

Once the baby was born I insisted on a DNA test which we did and it came back that I was not the father.

I've been contacted recently by the now ex fella claiming that she faked the DNA test (she would not let me witness it) and that it couldn't have been his kid as she was already pregnant when he started to see her which is news to me. So it appears I have a child I only met twice within days of birth before the test was done. He could also be making all this up, not sure why but I clearly need to know either way.

What do I do next? Clearly I need to get a legally binding test done then assuming that comes back go through the process of agreeing what happens next.

Should I speak to a Solicitor first or make contact with her and see how that goes? I would expect her to refuse then be difficult throughout all of this.

Is there a legal angle to this? Ie her ex has said he is happy to speak to the Police even though this will probably land him in trouble too. I don’t know if I would go down this route anyway but would be good to know where I stand.

Any advice appreciated.

Get legal advice, she can get herself in a lot of trouble.