Shit defending or not, it hit his elbow first. You can’t score with an illegal part of the body, intentional or not.
I think oakie means shit defending over the two games as I thought we won last night but maybe VAR retrospectively took away our third goal because the last Spurs defender didn't see Raheem cut inside him.
Now that the proper footage and interpretation of the handball for Spurs third which should not have stood has come to light you could argue it was shit officialdom that cost us the tie and if oakie will allow some slack Kun's penalty miss.
In any match its not how many you concede but how many more you score that matters and while we can only summize how the last 17 minutes would have gone had the goal correctly been rule out I prefer to think that not taking all our chances were more to " blame " for the 4-4 scoreline over the two legs.