The "let's talk" thread

Bigg Bigg Blue said:
I'm not interested mate, I'm happily married man.
I just talked to her whilst BMR used his chat up lines on her mate.
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She's still texting me but doubt I'll be asking her out anytime soon even though I'd like to.

I have my brother and sister arguing like cat and dog about something i don't want to get involved with and i feel like like piggy in the middle. I will have to arrange the funeral myself and somehow try and smooth things over between them. The last thing i need is the possibility of a family arguement happening on the day of mum's cremation. I feel stressed out mate.
 
BlueMoonRisin’ said:
Mum died peacefully at home yesterday afternoon. I had to nip to the chemist for morphine and when i got back my daughter said mum was dying. It was quite an emotional moment but as she drew her last breath i held her hand and told her i loved her. I think she held on for me

RIP mum x
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I'm so sorry to hear that Mate. I went through similar last year and at least, like you, had the comfort of being there at Mums last breath and believing she knew she was surrounded by the people that loved her most. I salute your strength and your devotion to looking after her when she needed you most. Not everyone could have done what you have done and she will have appreciated it so much. Condolences to you and your family.
 
Saddleworth2 said:
I'm so sorry to hear that Mate. I went through similar last year and at least, like you, had the comfort of being there at Mums last breath and believing she knew she was surrounded by the people that loved her most. I salute your strength and your devotion to looking after her when she needed you most. Not everyone could have done what you have done and she will have appreciated it so much. Condolences to you and your family.
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Thanks pal, much appreciated.
 
Having to dig out my "funeral suit" for the 2nd time in 8 weeks for a suicide.

Seems an endemic amongst males. I've no words but it's extremely sad.
 
Stumbled upon this thread and giving it a nudge to check how everyone is getting on? @BlueMoonRisin’ sorry to hear about your Mum and hope you are doing okay. My Mum died back in December after a long battle with bowel cancer. I wasn't there when she went and was planning on going down to see her the day she died, having tried to get hold of her the day before. My Dad said she was too tired to speak that day...and looking back I knew what was coming and should have gone the night before to see her one last time. We'd had some good moments before - some proper heart-to-hearts. But coming up to 9 months on it doesn't feel any easier!

Hopefully everyone is doing alright. I'm coping, main issue I have is controlling my anger with my kids who seem to bear the brunt of things wrongly. I snap at them for nothing sometimes which I'm trying to get a handle on. Verbally not physically I hasten to add!
 
My cousin found out yesterday that her daughter (only child) took her life on Tuesday. She was only 33 leaving 2 children aged 9 and 11. I took my cuz to the mortuary at Oldham Royal Infirmary yesterday and was a heavy moment to say the least.

I stayed at hers last night to be there for her and she's distraught with grief. I've just spoken to her GP who is prescribing 3 diazepam per day to help calm her nerves and arranging counseling help.

So sad.

RIP Vicky x
 
BlueMoonRisin’ said:
My cousin found out yesterday that her daughter (only child) took her life on Tuesday. She was only 33 leaving 2 children aged 9 and 11. I took my cuz to the mortuary at Oldham Royal Infirmary yesterday and was a heavy moment to say the least.

I stayed at hers last night to be there for her and she's distraught with grief. I've just spoken to her GP who is prescribing 3 diazepam per day to help calm her nerves and arranging counseling help.

So sad.

RIP Vicky x
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Utterly heartbreaking
 
BlueMoonRisin’ said:
My cousin found out yesterday that her daughter (only child) took her life on Tuesday. She was only 33 leaving 2 children aged 9 and 11. I took my cuz to the mortuary at Oldham Royal Infirmary yesterday and was a heavy moment to say the least.

I stayed at hers last night to be there for her and she's distraught with grief. I've just spoken to her GP who is prescribing 3 diazepam per day to help calm her nerves and arranging counseling help.

So sad.

RIP Vicky x
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Sorry to hear that mate.
Without wanting to sound condescending/patronising look after yourself to as it will be tough on you.

Thoughts and prayers are with you in these toughest of times.

I’ve also just read back a page or so and note that you’ve had a bit of a torrid lately.
I hope you are ok and if you want to chat or just get anything of your chest feel free to message.
I know we don’t know each personally or anything but you’re a city fan so you’re alright in my book.

Take care and look after yourself as well as others.
 
Bobby the blue said:
Sorry to hear that mate.
Without wanting to sound condescending/patronising look after yourself to as it will be tough on you.

Thoughts and prayers are with you in these toughest of times.

I’ve also just read back a page or so and note that you’ve had a bit of a torrid lately.
I hope you are ok and if you want to chat or just get anything of your chest feel free to message.
I know we don’t know each personally or anything but you’re a city fan so you’re alright in my book.

Take care and look after yourself as well as others.
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Thanks Bobby, pal.

I'm trying to stay mentally strong because i have to but its not easy. The most difficult thing is trying to console my cousin from the heartache of grieving, but it's something she has to deal with herself, unfortunately.

Thanks again for your kind words.
 
BlueMoonRisin’ said:
Thanks Bobby, pal.

I'm trying to stay mentally strong because i have to but its not easy. The most difficult thing is trying to console my cousin from the heartache of grieving, but it's something she has to deal with herself, unfortunately.

Thanks again for your kind words.
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I have been there myself and believe me there is very little you can say to help her through this terrible time. All you can do is to be there and let her talk as she is ready.

Utterly heartbreaking situation watching anyone going through this and my thoughts are with you.

Dont forget to give yourself chance to come to terms with this as well.
 
That's harsh @BlueMoonRisin’ just read the past few pages and you've had a tough year. I remember back in 2013 I opened up on this forum and you were one of several people to message me support and advice. It took me a long time to get my shit together but I am in a much better place nowadays. Partly because of others including your perspective. I'll always appreciate that and I wish I could offer you the same supportive words. I do hope life shines kindly on you soon.
 
Cheers blues. @StrangewaysHereWeCome, i vaguely remember chatting through PM, I'm so glad you pulled through to be in a better place, pal.

These kind of threads are so important in that when posters open their heart it lets others know that whatever trauma they're going through it's of no embarrassment to talk about things. Don't ever bottle emotions up because they can and most probably will explode. And that's not a good situation to be in.
 
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