Does death scare you?

no - its inevitable. I hope not to die in a drawn out excruciating pain kind of way but at the same time just dropping down dead will shock the family but with experience of losing people the drawn out version where the dying can say goodbye is better than dropping dead
 
RadcliffeRick said:
Not death in itself, just the chaos I will probably leave for others to clear up. Too much for my wife to deal with.
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The Swedish apparently have a tradition of'death cleaning' in later years, decluttering and getting your affairs in order so your loved ones have as little as possible to do. I suspect there is a comfort in doing that for the people you love.
 
no not really if I die, then I die we all have to

however dying slowly in pain or while having dementia is something I hope to avoid
 
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Thinking about it used to keep me awake at night when I was a young lad (8-11 years’ old or so). My first girlfriend from when I was 18 used to have counselling about it when she was young as well.

It doesn’t bother me anymore. It’s just like how I didn’t exist in the past before I was born, I won’t exist in the future.

Did you know that life is only possible in the universe for one-thousandth of a billion billion billionth, billion billion billionth, billion billion billionth, of a per cent of time?

For 99.999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of the rest of the universe’s time, life will not be possible.

But that tiny fraction of the tiniest chance of life being possible in the universe is NOW! and we just happen to be a collection of atoms that have collected into being the most intelligent life-form on a planet that just happens to be habitable now and we are living during that tiny fraction of time.

My collection of atoms could have been a fish or a sponge or a rock on some dead planet somewhere billions of light years away but I’m a homosapiens on Earth today!

That makes me appreciate that I’m alive now rather than being scared of death.
 
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Yes for now. I'm 37 and I have a daughter aged 8. She is my world, the love I have for her can't even be described. In fact as I write this I have a tear in my eye. She would be devastated if i wasn't here. We have such a special relationship.

The thing is I'm overweight. I'm not massive or anything, just chunky and it scares me. I am losing it, but it's hard.. I want to see her grown up and become a vet, which is her dream. If I see that and see she's alright I can die happy.
 
No, not now my children are older. When they were young, the thought of not being there to protect and guide them terrified me. Now that they've developed into brilliant humans in their own right, I know that they'll be OK when I'm not here.

The people I love know that I love them, and I know that they love me so while it would be lovely to have the chance to say final goodbyes, if I went under a tram later today their lives would go on.
 
bluethrunthru said:
no - its inevitable. I hope not to die in a drawn out excruciating pain kind of way but at the same time just dropping down dead will shock the family but with experience of losing people the drawn out version where the dying can say goodbye is better than dropping dead
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I think the 'best way to go' depends on the individual family dynamic and how much does doesn't need to be said. My dad had a fatal heart attack on holiday and my mum died of a pretty unpleasant form of cancer a few months after diagnosis. Whilst I was upset not to be able to say goodbye to my dad and there was stuff it would have been nice to say, we knew how we felt about each other and I'm glad for him that it was all pretty quick. In my mum's case it took quite a while to replace the memories and images of her last few weeks with more positive memories and it's not something I would want any loved one to go through. Obviously it depends on the nature of an illness.
 
My dad saw lots of death in WW2 in Burma, including finding two of his mates who'd been KIA
When he was very poorly in hospital, he said to me that he was terrified of closing his eyes because he wasn't confident he'd open them again
It was a few months later in a nursing home and after a very restless night, his body finally gave up
Apparently the human body is at its weakest in the very early hours of the morning. Dad got past that and passed away at around 8am, so I always think he got an extra six hours

Am I scared of death? No, but I am scared of what I'll miss
 
BoundedCascade said:
Death to me is nothing to be afraid of. It is like before birth, there was nothing, same thing with death.

The act of dying on the other hand, and what it does to my family etc. that scares me.
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You don't experience nothing though even in the womb, we just don't remember it.
 
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