I can't remember whether you are an inner or outer, but I would guess from the apparent cynicism that your an outer.
It seems to me that the decision on this debate is pretty simple really. There's enough data and facts which if pieced together make the two options well differentiated and easy to choose between. The choice boils down to something really quite simple. What slightly muddies the waters is that there's a bunch of people - quite a large bunch, and on both sides actually - who have made their minds up, and are either in complete denial about risks/disadvantages of their chosen option, or they don't want to admit to those risks/disadvantages for fear it will put people off. So we have both sides effectively lying or taking huge liberties with their projections to try to paper over the cracks.
But putting all that to one side, it comes down very simply, to this:
(A) If we leave, we'll put people out of work, raise prices, depress the economy and we'll pretty much all be worse off for the foreseeable future. Probably for the next 5 to 10 year and quite possibly, forever. Not only is this the projection of virtually every independent analyst, frankly it's bloody obvious.
(B) If we stay, we have to accept loss of sovereignty, loss of control of our borders and we have to accept that lots of decisions we might otherwise make for ourselves will be made by other people.
The Brexit camp can deny (A) until they are blue in the face, but that's the bottom line. The remain camp can downplay the immigration issues and loss of sovereignty issues, but that also is the bottom line.
People simply need to decide if they prefer A or B.