Alcohol, hints, tips, advice etc.

BlueHammer85 said:
Kind off, I feel I have a split personality and life - my work is very demanding to take clients out and it really is part of the job , also I enjoy being with my pals down the pub when I get a chance.
Most of the time I can work from home , take my kids to school and be a good dad and husband - but sometimes mixing both is hard work and takes it toll.
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Next time you take clients out, try doing it alcohol free. Plenty of alcohol free options these days. The perspective you get on the way alcohol modifies behaviour is an eye opener, and you'll feel so much better the following day.
 
BlueHammer85 said:
I’ll be absolutely mangled on my 40th and have a roof top bar hired out, after that I’m done. I plan to have a year break.
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Could be worse mate, you could be a west ham fan...
Oh hang on a minute....
Seriously, there isn't a better time than now, right now, to stop. As Trev said.
However, setting a cut off date can work, and does work.
Good luck bud
 
It's probably been posted on this thread before but I watched this documentary on BBC iPlayer this week . Outstanding.

Like many here I've been closely affected by alcohol dependency in family members and this captures the terrible suffering as well as being an honest portrait of four people with alcohol problems , all with severe liver disease .

For anyone struggling now

www.bbc.co.uk

BBC - Rain in My Heart

Paul Watson's documentary on four alcoholics from the Medway towns in Kent. (2006)
www.bbc.co.uk www.bbc.co.uk
 
surprisedbygrass said:
It's probably been posted on this thread before but I watched this documentary on BBC iPlayer this week . Outstanding.

Like many here I've been closely affected by alcohol dependency in family members and this captures the terrible suffering as well as being an honest portrait of four people with alcohol problems , all with severe liver disease .

For anyone struggling now

www.bbc.co.uk

BBC - Rain in My Heart

Paul Watson's documentary on four alcoholics from the Medway towns in Kent. (2006)
www.bbc.co.uk www.bbc.co.uk
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Got cut off . I meant to add for any one struggling now you are never alone . Take care of yourself and take each day as if it's your first.
 
Betterdeedthan red said:
6weeks today since I had a beer .
Do to health reasons.
But once I can drink again I'm not sure I will.
Also gave up cigs for good
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If you can do 6 weeks you can keep going absolutely no problem to you.

What would make you want to have a drink when you can? Just asking out of curiosity.

I'm nearly 2 years off alcohol, I genuinely don't even think about it anymore, At the start it used to bother me as I liked to have beers on the weekend and now it wouldn't even cross my mind.

I don't see the purpose in it anymore. Having a drink for what?

After been working all week the last thing I want to do is die with a hangover and wasting a day off on top of and more importantly taking time away from my kids. Waking up fresh on Saturday and Sundays are really unbeatable.

I'm staying fresh this weekend to go the cinema to watch the new Peppa Pig movie...If that doesn't drive me to drink then nothing will :-)

Seriously though, Fair play doing 6 weeks keep it going and you'll soon realise that alcohol won't even be considered.
 
SWPISHOME said:
If you can do 6 weeks you can keep going absolutely no problem to you.

What would make you want to have a drink when you can? Just asking out of curiosity.

I'm nearly 2 years off alcohol, I genuinely don't even think about it anymore, At the start it used to bother me as I liked to have beers on the weekend and now it wouldn't even cross my mind.

I don't see the purpose in it anymore. Having a drink for what?

After been working all week the last thing I want to do is die with a hangover and wasting a day off on top of and more importantly taking time away from my kids. Waking up fresh on Saturday and Sundays are really unbeatable.

I'm staying fresh this weekend to go the cinema to watch the new Peppa Pig movie...If that doesn't drive me to drink then nothing will :-)

Seriously though, Fair play doing 6 weeks keep it going and you'll soon realise that alcohol won't even be considered.
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I stopped due to fluid around my heart.
So can't have a beer for a min 3 months.
At. First it pissed me off now I'm embracing it.
I feel great..apart from the effects of the heart thing.
More arsed about been able to go on holiday than have a beer.
Lost over a stone it shows how much timber 40 points of Guinness a week out on you
 
SWPISHOME said:
I don't see the purpose in it anymore. Having a drink for what?
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For me it's purely socializing, gives me a feel good factor and bit more confidence in a crowd of mates. always good fun until the effects of the hangover the next day. Problem is i don't know when to stop and get carried away till the early hours.
It doesn't cross my mind to have a beer indoors
 
BoyBlue_1985 said:
So. Many people know me on here and judging by the amount of new users many don't.
I have gone from the young lad that gets smashed Friday to Sunday to the grown up that has a few drinks after work.
Unfortunately in the last 3 years and if I'm honest since my mum passed away my drinking has become unstoppable. I will drink to excess 5 or 6 nights a week it doesn't matter what I'm doing or what is happening I cannot stop until I'm absolutely hammered, i pretend im okay by going to bed early 1 night without a drink. I need help but AA is all about finding God which I'm absolutely not interested in.
I'm not an alcoholic but I'm on the brink amd I don't know what to do
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I thought i would revisit this. Kind of to remind myself where I was, what i had become and how terrible it was when my family finally realised.
Its been over 2 years now and my relationship with alcohol and life in general has become much better. I can go many many weeks without a drink. I can also stop after 1 and enjoy my time when its around rather than trying to get mullered once everyone else had stopped. I know what got me where I was and I know why I reached out and stopped. I wasn't an alcoholic just beaten by lots of darl thoughts and memories.
I want to thank everyone that reached out during amd after, I will forever hold those chats close.
Bit of a waffle I just wanted everyone to know I'm better now
 
BoyBlue_1985 said:
I thought i would revisit this. Kind of to remind myself where I was, what i had become and how terrible it was when my family finally realised.
Its been over 2 years now and my relationship with alcohol and life in general has become much better. I can go many many weeks without a drink. I can also stop after 1 and enjoy my time when its around rather than trying to get mullered once everyone else had stopped. I know what got me where I was and I know why I reached out and stopped. I wasn't an alcoholic just beaten by lots of darl thoughts and memories.
I want to thank everyone that reached out during amd after, I will forever hold those chats close.
Bit of a waffle I just wanted everyone to know I'm better now
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I'm sure your mum would be very proud of you.. but she always loved you
 
Betterdeedthan red said:
I stopped due to fluid around my heart.
So can't have a beer for a min 3 months.
At. First it pissed me off now I'm embracing it.
I feel great..apart from the effects of the heart thing.
More arsed about been able to go on holiday than have a beer.
Lost over a stone it shows how much timber 40 points of Guinness a week out on you
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Let alone the cost! 40 pints of Guinness a WEEK is a hell of an outlay!
 
I’m proud to say i have been sober now for 3 years today.

In that 3 years i have gone from somebody who couldn’t leave the house due to crippling aniexty to a fairly outgoing person. I have lost 5 stone mainly through running (replaced one addiction with another tbh!) and have completed a 10K and a half marathon last year.

I have been to America with my family, I have seen city play at the bernabeau amongst many other things.

Im not posting this to boast or show how great I am because I still struggle even today with the odd urge or bad day. But I just want let people know who are struggling and who may want some motivation to start on this journey that for me it’s the best thing I ever did.

I am a better husband, father and person. To anyone fighting the good fight keep going. It does get easier but take each day as it comes. If anyone wants a chat my dms are always open.

Take care
 
In September our daughter reached the 10 year anniversary drink free. We are so proud of her, although we know how hard the initial struggle was. She’s a different person now. However had she continued drinking her life would have been ruined. Partner gone, kids gone, home gone, we are thankful every day for her courage. That’s what excessive alcohol can do to an ordinary person.
 
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