Alcohol, hints, tips, advice etc.

staffsblue said:
I'm happy not to drink at social events if I'm having a break from booze. Don't mind drinking soft drinks or water.
However, it does make you aware how repetitive your mates' conversations are when they've had a drink, and how slowly time passes when you are sober!
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ha, exactly, when everyone starts going up a level and chatting shit that's when i feel the urge to rapidly leave.
 
I didn’t have a drink at the weekend and just felt bored by late Saturday evening. Otherwise physically fine.

I’m out Saturday so I’ll have one then but I’m cutting down all the time.
 
I miss it a lot and don't miss it at all. I was the life and soul of the party when I used to drink, no problem chatting to anyone really bubbly, could crack onto loads of birds easy. Problem is I never wanted the party to end I'd stay on it until I was skint or unconscious. I used to go home from a night out stay up wired till the pubs opened back up have a shower and get straight back on it nobody would even know I hadn't been to sleep because the beak kept me appearing sober. Done a good few years without it now, barring a few occasions where I've had a few drinks but nowhere near how I used to get at it, probably less than 5 times over the last 4 or 5 years. Feel great physically, always in the gym, healthy as shit, don't smoke cigarettes or do cocaine anymore but my life is boring as fuck I go to work train for 2 hours and go home to watch telly or read a book alone or for a walk alone, might see my old friends once or twice every few months but I just feel like I'm putting on an act a lot of the time for their benefit. I'm angry all the time get massive anxiety about going out and socialising haven't had a shag in ages. Proper double edged sword. I had to stop as it was killing me, I couldn't hack the come downs and was sick of spending every penny on the sauce but I'm wondering when I'll start to see the benefits. I literally live for my holidays out of this fucking shithole the only time I feel human really. Get all the compliments on my new appearance and how well I'm supposedly doing but I don't feel like that at all. Feel like an empty shell to be quite honest. Tried anti depressants and they did fuckall tried therapy and it did fuckall. Guess it's just the burden some of us have to bear after you take the short route to happiness for so long and fry all your neurons to bits.

Didn't really mean that to get so heavy but there you go lol. I'm actually in a decent mood today aswell haha
 
Kippax Street 1880 said:
I miss it a lot and don't miss it at all. I was the life and soul of the party when I used to drink, no problem chatting to anyone really bubbly, could crack onto loads of birds easy. Problem is I never wanted the party to end I'd stay on it until I was skint or unconscious. I used to go home from a night out stay up wired till the pubs opened back up have a shower and get straight back on it nobody would even know I hadn't been to sleep because the beak kept me appearing sober. Done a good few years without it now, barring a few occasions where I've had a few drinks but nowhere near how I used to get at it, probably less than 5 times over the last 4 or 5 years. Feel great physically, always in the gym, healthy as shit, don't smoke cigarettes or do cocaine anymore but my life is boring as fuck I go to work train for 2 hours and go home to watch telly or read a book alone or for a walk alone, might see my old friends once or twice every few months but I just feel like I'm putting on an act a lot of the time for their benefit. I'm angry all the time get massive anxiety about going out and socialising haven't had a shag in ages. Proper double edged sword. I had to stop as it was killing me, I couldn't hack the come downs and was sick of spending every penny on the sauce but I'm wondering when I'll start to see the benefits. I literally live for my holidays out of this fucking shithole the only time I feel human really. Get all the compliments on my new appearance and how well I'm supposedly doing but I don't feel like that at all. Feel like an empty shell to be quite honest. Tried anti depressants and they did fuckall tried therapy and it did fuckall. Guess it's just the burden some of us have to bear after you take the short route to happiness for so long and fry all your neurons to bits.

Didn't really mean that to get so heavy but there you go lol. I'm actually in a decent mood today aswell haha
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Don't know what kind of gym work your doing mate but maybe try something like Brazilian jiu jitsu..

Great for the mind as well as the body.

Human form of chess , great antidepressant.. ( addictive once you "get" it..)

Meet new people doing it too.
 
I think I’m reaching the point where I have to knock the late night seshes on the head (40 this year) - starting to think about my health in general a lot more since I’ve had back pain and now testicular pain - been abusing my body with beers, drugs most weekends for years now whilst also having a very sociable job that we go out a lot midweek.
Need to calm it down, less beers and eat better.
 
Kippax Street 1880 said:
I miss it a lot and don't miss it at all. I was the life and soul of the party when I used to drink, no problem chatting to anyone really bubbly, could crack onto loads of birds easy. Problem is I never wanted the party to end I'd stay on it until I was skint or unconscious. I used to go home from a night out stay up wired till the pubs opened back up have a shower and get straight back on it nobody would even know I hadn't been to sleep because the beak kept me appearing sober. Done a good few years without it now, barring a few occasions where I've had a few drinks but nowhere near how I used to get at it, probably less than 5 times over the last 4 or 5 years. Feel great physically, always in the gym, healthy as shit, don't smoke cigarettes or do cocaine anymore but my life is boring as fuck I go to work train for 2 hours and go home to watch telly or read a book alone or for a walk alone, might see my old friends once or twice every few months but I just feel like I'm putting on an act a lot of the time for their benefit. I'm angry all the time get massive anxiety about going out and socialising haven't had a shag in ages. Proper double edged sword. I had to stop as it was killing me, I couldn't hack the come downs and was sick of spending every penny on the sauce but I'm wondering when I'll start to see the benefits. I literally live for my holidays out of this fucking shithole the only time I feel human really. Get all the compliments on my new appearance and how well I'm supposedly doing but I don't feel like that at all. Feel like an empty shell to be quite honest. Tried anti depressants and they did fuckall tried therapy and it did fuckall. Guess it's just the burden some of us have to bear after you take the short route to happiness for so long and fry all your neurons to bits.

Didn't really mean that to get so heavy but there you go lol. I'm actually in a decent mood today aswell haha
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You need to be kinder to yourself somehow mate.

You might say therapy did fuck all but you might have not found the right therapist.

Try new things out and find something you love.
 
BlueHammer85 said:
I think I’m reaching the point where I have to knock the late night seshes on the head (40 this year) - starting to think about my health in general a lot more since I’ve had back pain and now testicular pain - been abusing my body with beers, drugs most weekends for years now whilst also having a very sociable job that we go out a lot midweek.
Need to calm it down, less beers and eat better.
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What you do now mate will dictate how well your 50's/60's and 70's go.
 
MMA said:
Don't know what kind of gym work your doing mate but maybe try something like Brazilian jiu jitsu..

Great for the mind as well as the body.

Human form of chess , great antidepressant.. ( addictive once you "get" it..)

Meet new people doing it too.
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I have looked into it tbh mate only thing that puts me off is if I get injured doing it I'm really fucked I do a physical job and being able to train is only thing keeping me going really I pop a shoulder or summat it could be the death of me! Ive just been lifting weights really and using the bike for cardio, push pull legs on rotation working from 6 to 12 reps on each exercise then upping the weight. It does make me feel better but it's from a low baseline if you get what I mean! Going to try and get into hiking this summer get out in the Great outdoors more often, been wanting to for a while but I hate the cold and rain so hopefully I get enough nice days in the Summer. Got a few peak district trails to tick off.

borassic said:
You need to be kinder to yourself somehow mate.

You might say therapy did fuck all but you might have not found the right therapist.

Try new things out and find something you love.
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Yeah I'm very hard on myself I suppose, just finding it hard to reach the goals I want as they aren't really something I can get to through perseverance, if what I was missing in life was material things I'd find it more straightforward, it was a bit of a throwaway comment to say the therapy did fuckall, it did help getting some stuff off my chest regarding past relationships I fucked up in and such, but yeah hard to articulate really but I felt I'd gotten all I was going to get out of it. It helped me in letting go of certain things but there's only so much they can do for you really.

Thanks for the responses anyway lads, sometimes it's good to just write some shit down on a forum with a bit of privacy and get some honest advice off fellow blues. I appreciate it.
 
Kippax Street 1880 said:
I have looked into it tbh mate only thing that puts me off is if I get injured doing it I'm really fucked I do a physical job and being able to train is only thing keeping me going really I pop a shoulder or summat it could be the death of me! Ive just been lifting weights really and using the bike for cardio, push pull legs on rotation working from 6 to 12 reps on each exercise then upping the weight. It does make me feel better but it's from a low baseline if you get what I mean! Going to try and get into hiking this summer get out in the Great outdoors more often, been wanting to for a while but I hate the cold and rain so hopefully I get enough nice days in the Summer. Got a few peak district trails to tick off.



Yeah I'm very hard on myself I suppose, just finding it hard to reach the goals I want as they aren't really something I can get to through perseverance, if what I was missing in life was material things I'd find it more straightforward, it was a bit of a throwaway comment to say the therapy did fuckall, it did help getting some stuff off my chest regarding past relationships I fucked up in and such, but yeah hard to articulate really but I felt I'd gotten all I was going to get out of it. It helped me in letting go of certain things but there's only so much they can do for you really.

Thanks for the responses anyway lads, sometimes it's good to just write some shit down on a forum with a bit of privacy and get some honest advice off fellow blues. I appreciate it.
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Sounds to me like you are doing really well mate, you should be proud of yourself.

Also think the hiking is a great shout, getting to the top of any trail, no matter how big will always release more endorphins and joy than a gram of beak and you'll feel positive effects for days instead of the shame, depression etc.

I'd also recommend a run club if you can find one. A mate of mine did one in Stockport when he moved back from London and it was great to meet friends, women and of course keep fit ;)
 
Onholiday(somemightsay) said:
Fair play to you - it ain't easy at all.

My consumption has been a disgrace recently...........
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Am 71 and hammered it for over 50 years…….need to consider my mental & physical health……..

Never to late to make changes, you’ll definitely feel better for it and save £££’s
 
Kippax Street 1880 said:
I have looked into it tbh mate only thing that puts me off is if I get injured doing it I'm really fucked I do a physical job and being able to train is only thing keeping me going really I pop a shoulder or summat it could be the death of me! Ive just been lifting weights really and using the bike for cardio, push pull legs on rotation working from 6 to 12 reps on each exercise then upping the weight. It does make me feel better but it's from a low baseline if you get what I mean! Going to try and get into hiking this summer get out in the Great outdoors more often, been wanting to for a while but I hate the cold and rain so hopefully I get enough nice days in the Summer. Got a few peak district trails to tick off.



Yeah I'm very hard on myself I suppose, just finding it hard to reach the goals I want as they aren't really something I can get to through perseverance, if what I was missing in life was material things I'd find it more straightforward, it was a bit of a throwaway comment to say the therapy did fuckall, it did help getting some stuff off my chest regarding past relationships I fucked up in and such, but yeah hard to articulate really but I felt I'd gotten all I was going to get out of it. It helped me in letting go of certain things but there's only so much they can do for you really.

Thanks for the responses anyway lads, sometimes it's good to just write some shit down on a forum with a bit of privacy and get some honest advice off fellow blues. I appreciate it.
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We often give ourselves a harder time than anyone else would ever do. Getting away from people and the city life can eliminate a lot of anxiety and stress. Sitting on a hill or mountain and contemplating your life can be great therapy. I'm very lucky I live 10 mins walk from the sea but also have some beautiful countryside by me. It's all about being positive, never looking back on things or dwelling on things too much
 
borassic said:
Sounds to me like you are doing really well mate, you should be proud of yourself.

Also think the hiking is a great shout, getting to the top of any trail, no matter how big will always release more endorphins and joy than a gram of beak and you'll feel positive effects for days instead of the shame, depression etc.

I'd also recommend a run club if you can find one. A mate of mine did one in Stockport when he moved back from London and it was great to meet friends, women and of course keep fit ;)
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Running ain't for me mate knees are knackered from football injuries when I was younger hence why I stick to the stationary bike for my cardio haha, less impact. I might look into a hiking club though see if I can force some socialising on my countryside walks, not a bad idea, probably find a few people in my situation swapping beak for peaks has become a bit of a meme I've noticed aha!

shackattack said:
We often give ourselves a harder time than anyone else would ever do. Getting away from people and the city life can eliminate a lot of anxiety and stress. Sitting on a hill or mountain and contemplating your life can be great therapy. I'm very lucky I live 10 mins walk from the sea but also have some beautiful countryside by me. It's all about being positive, never looking back on things or dwelling on things too much
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Yep I definitely find the towns and cities depressing as fuck, going to make a real effort to get into the countryside more often and see the scenery that looks so nice from the plane out of here! Sick of looking at vape and charity shops takeaways and litter and all the glum faces and grey skies for sure.
 
I've been thinking about quitting alcohol for some time. I just haven't been able to do it. It's so ingrained in my lifestyle both at work and socially. I watched Rain in My Heart on BBC iplayer last weekend. Whilst I am nowhere near that level it did make me to take a long hard look in the mirror. 4 days and counting.
 
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