Blaming your wife for your relapse is a bit rich, only you can change if you really want to, her still being married and with you after suffering years of your drinking should show you how supportive she’s been, sometimes you need to man up and not blame other people for your relapses but yourselfafter last tuesdays relapse, I did similar
on saturday v the rags, i drank about half a bottle of vodka going down on the coach,all the time hiding it from my son,who in turn might have told his mum Id been drinking,all felt a bit wierd drinking in secret, guilt ,excitement ,sadness.
Im going to the champs league final from thursday and i will be drinking on the day of the final,out of sight out of mind etc.
Iv proved to myself i can go three months without, but i dont want to turn into a " secret drinker " .
A few words of encouragement and goodwill from my wife would have prevented my initial relapse,but is that me just being needy and a soft arse.
It was all for her at the start and I got not one word of praise or encouragement.
Fair commentBlaming your wife for your relapse is a bit rich, only you can change if you really want to, her still being married and with you after suffering years of your drinking should show you how supportive she’s been, sometimes you need to man up and not blame other people for your relapses but yourself
Giving up will always be very difficult if you don't really want to.Fair comment
truth is,i don't really want to give up,but I have to,so I'm feeling sorry for myself,too honest by far me.
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truth is,i don't really want to give up,but I have to,so I'm feeling sorry for myself,too honest by far me.
It's like we now have an allergy...one drop of alcohol and our reactions are extreme.Commendable honesty. You've abstained before, and you can do it again. But I'd say that it has to be for you, not anybody else - I think that's the only way to sustain a long term effort.
Whenever I am offered a drink now I keep a post from @Marklr in mind. I can't have even one enjoyable drink. I don't go as far into detail as I do on here but I've even started telling this to people when they ask me if I want one. I'd still be up doing it long after they've gone to bed.
I gave up all my pub friends……I knew I had to …..It bothered me a little that I got a text to go out last night (there’s a great karaoke evening every Monday) but I made up an excuse not to go as I wasn’t up for a drink. I’m still not. I don’t want my social life to suffer at the same time.
YouTube are showing West Ham v Fiorentina tomorrow so there’s no need for a pub there. I may stay in Friday too and relax after what should be a good first week in my new job. It is so far.
I love going up the pub to see the chaps but I need to think about me too.
It sounds like you kind of already are a secret drinker?after last tuesdays relapse, I did similar
on saturday v the rags, i drank about half a bottle of vodka going down on the coach,all the time hiding it from my son,who in turn might have told his mum Id been drinking,all felt a bit wierd drinking in secret, guilt ,excitement ,sadness.
Im going to the champs league final from thursday and i will be drinking on the day of the final,out of sight out of mind etc.
Iv proved to myself i can go three months without, but i dont want to turn into a " secret drinker " .
A few words of encouragement and goodwill from my wife would have prevented my initial relapse,but is that me just being needy and a soft arse.
It was all for her at the start and I got not one word of praise or encouragement.
Your first point really worked for me,, I drunk unhealthily any day, so with help I stopped drinking Monday’s, Tuesdays and wednesdays..How to start.
Stop drinking on a specific day/date which suits you.
Change your social routine.
Say to friends that you are ill and you are taking advice from your doctor who has recommended that you cut down and preferably stop.
It isn't the easiest thing to do, but your words seem like a cry for help.
If you can't manage to summon up the willpower to do it on your own there are organisations you can turn to
Good Luck to you in your new life.
I'm so glad to know that I've been of help in some small way.Your first point really worked for me,, I drunk unhealthily any day, so with help I stopped drinking Monday’s, Tuesdays and wednesdays..
friends and family soon got used to the idea that despite anything going on, football, birthdays etc I just wouldn’t be drinking..
For me it helped in two ways , I felt good, more energy also made it easier for me to not drink at other times ..
We are all different I know but this was a great stepping stone for me, drinking less and sometimes not at all .. Best of luck to you all
Have you ever spoken to a doctor or counsellor over your drinking? It's good for SOME people.Fair comment
truth is,i don't really want to give up,but I have to,so I'm feeling sorry for myself,too honest by far me.