Bullying and the devastating consequences.

blue by birth said:
Nope I'm not a scally and most people in Manchester aren't either..
Not quite sure if you are trying to be clever or its the Yank soh that doesn't carry very well..
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Having grown up there, and visiting often, I refer you back to the original comment! :)
 
Bigga said:
I must admit, my thoughts have turned to this subject as my son gets older.

He asked me 2 nights ago about if he can have a phones as all his friends have one. He's nine.

I told him 'no' for the simple reason that he doesn't need one yet and I'm trying protect him from the nonsense of social media.

"But I want to talk to my friends", he said.

"That's fair enough", I replied"But you'll see your friends in 2 weeks and you'll have lots to catch up on, then!"

He asked what if he wants to text me, at some point & I said you shouldn't be texting me at school or he'd be with his mother and to use her phone!

He's curious about social media and we'll probably end up in rows over it, but I pointed out his mother that she engages in the FB type of media, so she'll have to warn him of the potential pit falls. I think I want to teach him about all the potential negatives and how it can be dealt with, so he's armed, than enter a world without knowledge and be powerless. He'll have a phone at about eleven, I think.

It's a small thing, but extremely dangerous, social media and I'm genuinely anxious for his first real engagement in the internet world.
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I had this same issue with a daughter of 9/10 few years ago. I didn’t want her to have a mobile, didn’t see that she needed one and was worried that the mobile could lead to bullying problems for her. Her mother didn’t agree with me and bought her one. My daughters mother and I broke up and I found out she had been bullied through text messages received on her mobile.

You are right to be concerned, but sadly you will have to expect to be thought of as a miserable bastard as I was.
 
jimharri said:
I am glad that you and @jimharri find humour from my experience of being bullied badly at school
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I apologise if you were upset by my ham fisted attempt at humour. However, you did put "lol" at the end of your post that I quoted. Maybe I'm reading that wrong, but that appears to be you trying to find some humour in a sad situation. The fact that I started this thread ought to be an indicator as to how I feel about bullying.[/QUOTE]
Humour in adversity,nothing wrong in that in my opinion, i was bullied did gymnastics & boxing when I was younger got one he'll off a kicking,first & lastime even if a got another kicking so be it,but i fought back the 3 who did me never looked at me after I did them the 3 off them that's all they were fking bullies/shithouses,I and I still stand up to cunts today,don't give a inch because they take a yard..
 
Blue Bogey said:
I had this same issue with a daughter of 9/10 few years ago. I didn’t want her to have a mobile, didn’t see that she needed one and was worried that the mobile could lead to bullying problems for her. Her mother didn’t agree with me and bought her one. My daughters mother and I broke up and I found out she had been bullied through text messages received on her mobile.

You are right to be concerned, but sadly you will have to expect to be thought of as a miserable bastard as I was.
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The problem you have is that if you buy them a mobile phone they can get bullied on it, but if you don't they end up being excluded from stuff and can still end up getting bullied without knowing about it until they go to school.
 
Found out my 7 year old daughter and her friend had been threatened at school by a lad of 8, he said he’d stab them!! Straight onto the school, they asked the parents of the lad to come in, they said they couldn’t come in until Monday and this was on a Wednesday, great parenting, anyway seems the lad has problems so they are getting help, but where does he get the idea to even say that?
 
A thread on bullying turning into various mini arguments between what I'd assume are people of adult age.

If it can happen on a forum full of adults then god only knows what happens on social media between kids. Bet it can be relentless and difficult to deal with.
 
Never had much of an issue as as kid really, even as the smallest in our year at high school I was sporty so had a lot of friends that were the 'popular' who always had my back but I drifted and had friends in all the different groups that formed during high school, the same thing in my working life always got on with everyone until a few years back when a few of the older guys retired and we ended up employing some new lads around my age, they have slowly but surely formed a clique and make shit up about anyone that won't partake in their corrupt shit they get up to (creating overtime, doing fuck all on weekend shifts etc) slowly but surely I feel like an outsider in a team of 15 guys, last night I even feigned an illness to not go on the works Christmas do as I know i'm not liked (basically for doing my job) and just couldn't be arsed with having to be 'nice' to people I wouldn't give the steam off my piss to.
 
I've been watching a corporate psychopath in action at my place. I've watched as he's come in, weighed up who is useful and who isn't, snuggled up to the people with power, and treat anyone of a similar or lesser position badly. I'm in his sights at the moment but I do try and take simple pleasures by winding him up. The stage of reconciliation is long gone, his every action now determines the severity of the filling in he's gonna get a few years from now.
 
SiMCFC said:
Never had much of an issue as as kid really, even as the smallest in our year at high school I was sporty so had a lot of friends that were the 'popular' who always had my back but I drifted and had friends in all the different groups that formed during high school, the same thing in my working life always got on with everyone until a few years back when a few of the older guys retired and we ended up employing some new lads around my age, they have slowly but surely formed a clique and make shit up about anyone that won't partake in their corrupt shit they get up to (creating overtime, doing fuck all on weekend shifts etc) slowly but surely I feel like an outsider in a team of 15 guys, last night I even feigned an illness to not go on the works Christmas do as I know i'm not liked (basically for doing my job) and just couldn't be arsed with having to be 'nice' to people I wouldn't give the steam off my piss to.
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Might be needing the money to make overtime up , Young family’s to feed etc
 
ChicagoBlue said:
I might be wrong, and I’m sorry if I am, but aren’t you the guy who said the thing you worried about people knowing was you fucked your mates girl and then lost them both?

I’d have been more worried about this ^^^ story. That is psychotic!
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I couldn’t care less. An ugly **** in a Stone Island jumper roared “fuck off you Man City ****” in my face and the next thing I knew was a broken bottle in my hand. At that moment, I could have scarred him for life and not cared.

Read all the pathetic threads about violence at the match yesterday. There weren’t brawls in the library.
 
jimharri said:


Heartbreaking to read that and thinking that that poor lad only saw one way of escaping what he was going through.
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Terrible waste of a young life.

Can I suggest you change the first post to provide a link to one of the many newspaper articles about this sad story rather than a tweet from a Tommy Robinson fanboy - an arsehole who is hardly renowned for his tolerance of anyone different to him.
 
13 year old lad not too far from here took his own this week, same old story. As a dad now, this deeply concerns me, I have some time before the big man is old enough to (hopefully not) be affected, but am hell bent on making sure he isn't bullied or is a bully himself. Sad state of affairs :(
 
TFC said:
13 year old lad not too far from here took his own this week, same old story. As a dad now, this deeply concerns me, I have some time before the big man is old enough to (hopefully not) be affected, but am hell bent on making sure he isn't bullied or is a bully himself. Sad state of affairs :(
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I’m of a similar thing with my 7 year old daughter, last year she came to us saying a bit in the year above threatening to stab her in school!! That has now hopefully been sorted and the lad is seeking help, ive had her doing ju jitsu the last two years as well, I’ve told her anytime she feels threatened come to me and we will sort it she will not be a victim or a bully herself.
 
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