Bullying and the devastating consequences.

[SWPISHOME]

13 year old lad not too far from here took his own this week, same old story. As a dad now, this deeply concerns me, I have some time before the big man is old enough to (hopefully not) be affected, but am hell bent on making sure he isn't bullied or is a bully himself. Sad state of affairs :(

So many different ways of bullying in this day and age. Nothing like us years ago were you witness it most in school in in your street. Now it's all social media online bullying too, Its scary how many different ways children can get bullied.
Then again it's not only children that get bullied, Adults also get bullied quite a bit in work places which also ends in devastating consequences. Certainly sad state of affairs.

 

[TFC]

I’m of a similar thing with my 7 year old daughter, last year she came to us saying a bit in the year above threatening to stab her in school!! That has now hopefully been sorted and the lad is seeking help, ive had her doing ju jitsu the last two years as well, I’ve told her anytime she feels threatened come to me and we will sort it she will not be a victim or a bully herself.

Definitely hit a nerve this one, been thinking about the poor lad and his family while at work today, I hate that it had to come to that.

I was right in the middle at school, I got incessantly bullied by the harder/more popular kids and I also bullied some of the weaker lads (mostly name calling, but sometimes violence)...because I could? Because it made me feel better about getting bullied myself? Fuck knows. All I know is that looking back it makes me sick to my stomach both ways.

I hope my kids never have to go through it, but I also know they will, I think we all do. I've been going back and forth with Mrs TFC about self defence classes for the sprogs (she's not keen) but I will win that argument and I dont win many ffs, but I will not have my 2 defenceless if it ever comes to more than words.

I will also teach them both some pretty fucking great British swear words that they can stop an argument dead in their tracks with, nobody curses like us Brits ;)

 

[inchy14]

I couldn’t care less. An ugly **** in a Stone Island jumper roared “fuck off you Man City ****” in my face and the next thing I knew was a broken bottle in my hand. At that moment, I could have scarred him for life and not cared.

Read all the pathetic threads about violence at the match yesterday. There weren’t brawls in the library.

So you wanted to bottle someone because he called you a Man City cünt?

Are you for fucking real??

And as someone who’s managed pubs and seen consequences of glassing and bottling he was fucking right!!

 

[Bill Walker]

My wife was bullied at school, she was Mrs prim & proper with very neat uniform and very white knee socks, she also came first usually in her A stream class, she was a real Target for the scumbags who were a bit thick.
Her personality comes under the 'quiet as a mouse' heading which made her even more of a target.
She went to a 20th anniversary reunion and the two girls that bullied her the most acted as if absolutely nothing had ever happened.

 

[MelbourneBlue]

My wife was bullied at school, she was Mrs prim & proper with very neat uniform and very white knee socks, she also came first usually in her A stream class, she was a real Target for the scumbags who were a bit thick.
Her personality comes under the 'quiet as a mouse' heading which made her even more of a target.
She went to a 20th anniversary reunion and the two girls that bullied her the most acted as if absolutely nothing had ever happened.

How did your wife feel when she saw them?

 

[Southbanken]

Fascinating thread.

Was going to say how interesting it was that not one person themselves had identified themselves as a bully in a certain situation / place /time /moment. Then on page 9, TFC said that he had at school bullied some people. Bravo on admitting it TFC. (Note: Bigga i think also suggested that he could have ridden close to the line at times).

I would categorise myself, when i was younger, as very similar to TFC. I was bullied at times, but equally, there were times when i was a nasty little bully and pcunt. There are certain instances i remember which i now deeply regret, and there is one guy, who if i ever meet in the future i will definitely seek out to apologise to, being completely honest, there are probably others that i should as well, but this one sticks in my mind.

The thing is, most people can be cunts. Particularly when we are young, we are learning the boundaries, we don't understand the consequences of our actions - as we know it is often in response to bulling or worse that they receive elsewhere. There are even a number of remarks on this thread that are or could be taken as bullying. Snide comments, examples of violence. Name calling. Most of you on this thread, even the ones who "can't stand bullies, will always step in when they see it blah blah" in all likelihood have said things or done things in the past that made other people feel bullied. For some we are aware of this when we are doing it, for some we become aware of it after the fact, for others, like the bullies in Nimrods wife's example, maybe never become aware of it, or maybe don't have the courage to speak up and apologise for past actions.

I don't have the answers i am afraid, and some of the stories on here (including the OP) are horrible. We just all need to be nicer to one another i suppose. I don't have kids, so i cannot comment on what i would teach my kids about bullying, and i get the idea of teaching kids to stand up for themselves, but i hope that this message is blended with the message that we also need to be kind and think of others feelings as well as their own.

Peace Out.

 

[Bill Walker]

How did your wife feel when she saw them?

Sick

 

[quiet_riot]

I'm going to put myself out there.


I wasn't bullied per se, but through senior school, I had a lad who made it abundantly clear that he hated me. He was bigger than me so there was a shoulder barge every time we passed in the corridors, then in 6th form, we ended up in the same form. Nothing major, just snide comments etc etc.
Nearly 20 years laters, we've had no contact, no social media or anything, and he still sometimes appears in my dreams.

The ****.

 

[TheRubberRing]

I'm going to put myself out there.


I wasn't bullied per se, but through senior school, I had a lad who made it abundantly clear that he hated me. He was bigger than me so there was a shoulder barge every time we passed in the corridors, then in 6th form, we ended up in the same form. Nothing major, just snide comments etc etc.
Nearly 20 years laters, we've had no contact, no social media or anything, and he still sometimes appears in my dreams.

The ****.

Brick his windows