Dealing With a Break-up

[Comrade Buka]

Realize everything is as it should be.

If it was meant to be differently, it would be.

 

[MCFC BOB]

I knew it was coming so i sort of prepared myself for it already but obviously when it does happen it hits you harder than you think. Again, thanks

I felt exactly the same back then and a few months later I'm a totally different person. Time always heals.

 

[york away to this!]

old father time is indeed a great heeler - though if he doesn't work, try a cobbler.

 

[Dirty Harry]

Most def mate, but break off ALL contact from now on bud, if she asks, tell her nothing and don't give her the knowledge or satisfaction of the highlighted bit.

I'm mates with both of my last two ex's, I see recent, the first we are like best friends (were together 4 1/2 years), the other (only together for 8 or 9 months) still at the weird stage cos it's only been a couple of months since.

Sorry for contradicting what's already been said, but I don't see why ex's can't be friends, it works for me.

I've just recently become best friends with my ex from ~5/6 years ago. It's not weird at all anymore and we just clicked when we saw eachother again.

But the one I split with in June I couldn't even imagine being in the same building as her yet, let alone speaking with her...

I think my point has been somewhat missed here, the only person he should concern himself with at this point is himself, he's clearly not ready emotionally to deal with the 'let's stay friends' stuff, in time ? Maybe, but not now, it's still far too raw and when that's the case, you can pretty much guarantee 'there may be trouble ahead'.

 

[stonerblue]

Get over yourself and deal with it.

Women are like jobs; never leave one unless you have another lined up.

 

[Timmmmahhhh]

I'm mates with both of my last two ex's, I see recent, the first we are like best friends (were together 4 1/2 years), the other (only together for 8 or 9 months) still at the weird stage cos it's only been a couple of months since.

Sorry for contradicting what's already been said, but I don't see why ex's can't be friends, it works for me.

I've just recently become best friends with my ex from ~5/6 years ago. It's not weird at all anymore and we just clicked when we saw eachother again.

But the one I split with in June I couldn't even imagine being in the same building as her yet, let alone speaking with her...

I think my point has been somewhat missed here, the only person he should concern himself with at this point is himself, he's clearly not ready emotionally to deal with the 'let's stay friends' stuff, in time ? Maybe, but not now, it's still far too raw and when that's the case, you can pretty much guarantee 'there may be trouble ahead'.

Yeah, I missed the point, read it wrong, my bad!

 

[Blue Si O.B]

know how you feel pal my missus of 14 years (im 33)whom i have 4 kids two has just told me she is no longer in love with me and wants to call it a day im in fucking bits at the moment i daren't even have a drink.

 

[Always Ali]

This is a tad simplistic, but all you need right now is City & your mates, the rest will look after itself!

 

[Lucky Toma]

know how you feel pal my missus of 14 years (im 33)whom i have 4 kids two has just told me she is no longer in love with me and wants to call it a day im in fucking bits at the moment i daren't even have a drink.

Blue, I definitely wouldnt recommend drinking alone tonight but - even if its the last thing in the world you want to do right now - give a couple of mates a call, tell them the score and head out for a few with them.
All the best man. That's gotta be hard going.

OP, nothing to add to the top advice already given. Plus you may be reeling right now but you're doing everything right at present. Delete number, leave phone at home and get trollied.

I'm not going to speak for everyone, but when my girlfriend called time our relationship after being together for just over 2.5 years in July last year I thought my life was over. On top of that, she decided to get with someone else just four days later to kick me when I was down. But if anything, the hatred of her that I soon developed helped me move on a bit more.

All I can say is that over the next few months you'll realise just how valuable friendship can be. I've spent literally every other night going to my friend's houses, playing video games, having fun, playing football, going to pub quizzes every Monday. I joined a band and we've got a gig next month at Manchester Academy, I'm playing football quite well again because my hair doesn't block my vision and basically... I'm free to do what a young lad should be doing. I still hurt from time to time and there are days where I think, "God I miss her" and I do still talk to her a bit, but as I understand it, that's natural.

Sure, having a guaranteed shag every now and then is great, but commitment and being in love doesn't feel like all that once you've been carefree and only be responsible for yourself. I realised a little too late that being in a long-term relationship at my age (15-20) is too much hassle. Hell, even the teachers at my college noticed a huge change in my attitude and disposition when I came back after the summer holidays.

So yeah, being single isn't all that bad.

A rare moment of sincerity from me - that was one of the best things I've ever read Bob. Us old heads hoped you'd get to 'here' from 'there' - knew you were capable - but to see it happen has been fucking wonderful my friend. Genuinely proud of you Bob. There. I said it.

 

[stonerblue]

Any excuse for this one

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