MCFC BOB
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Cheers man. :)Lucky Toma said:Blue Si O.B said:know how you feel pal my missus of 14 years (im 33)whom i have 4 kids two has just told me she is no longer in love with me and wants to call it a day im in fucking bits at the moment i daren't even have a drink.
Blue, I definitely wouldnt recommend drinking alone tonight but - even if its the last thing in the world you want to do right now - give a couple of mates a call, tell them the score and head out for a few with them.
All the best man. That's gotta be hard going.
OP, nothing to add to the top advice already given. Plus you may be reeling right now but you're doing everything right at present. Delete number, leave phone at home and get trollied.
MCFC BOB said:I'm not going to speak for everyone, but when my girlfriend called time our relationship after being together for just over 2.5 years in July last year I thought my life was over. On top of that, she decided to get with someone else just four days later to kick me when I was down. But if anything, the hatred of her that I soon developed helped me move on a bit more.
All I can say is that over the next few months you'll realise just how valuable friendship can be. I've spent literally every other night going to my friend's houses, playing video games, having fun, playing football, going to pub quizzes every Monday. I joined a band and we've got a gig next month at Manchester Academy, I'm playing football quite well again because my hair doesn't block my vision and basically... I'm free to do what a young lad should be doing. I still hurt from time to time and there are days where I think, "God I miss her" and I do still talk to her a bit, but as I understand it, that's natural.
Sure, having a guaranteed shag every now and then is great, but commitment and being in love doesn't feel like all that once you've been carefree and only be responsible for yourself. I realised a little too late that being in a long-term relationship at my age (15-20) is too much hassle. Hell, even the teachers at my college noticed a huge change in my attitude and disposition when I came back after the summer holidays.
So yeah, being single isn't all that bad.
A rare moment of sincerity from me - that was one of the best things I've ever read Bob. Us old heads hoped you'd get to 'here' from 'there' - knew you were capable - but to see it happen has been fucking wonderful my friend. Genuinely proud of you Bob. There. I said it.
And to everyone that helped on here.