Dementia

[Tuearts right boot]

Well it certainly scares the shit out of me. Lost my mum a few years ago to vascular dementia ( previous postings ). I'm 63 in resonable health, diabetic but hey, who isn't nowadays.........and if I ended up like my mum I'd prey to god my daughters did the decent thing, legal or not.

 

[ob]

I've been estranged from my old man for 12 years. Religion took him away from me. Only found out 6 months ago he's been suffering with dementia for 3 years.

Tried contacting his wife, who said I only need to ring her to arrange to see him. I tried and the phone number I have for him. It has now been cut off.

I don't know if he's passed away or the line has been cut deliberately because I could be an agent of the devil in her eyes.

His mum/my gran suffered the same way. As another poster had the same experience of the crying and screaming when left alone. She called me my dad's name and my dad was his dead brother, who passed away in car accident in the late 60's.

My old man claimed there was a family curse that no male gets passed 63.

If he's still alive he's 75. I hate to feel how he does in his mind. Maybe the 'family curse' is a blessing to save heartache later on.

:(

Sorry to hear that mate

 

[ob]

I've social services coming to see my sister (aged 60) as her dementia getting worse. She had memory test last July and no results yet. Told there wouldn't be until she has follow up appointment which could take up to 10 months. I'm constantly contacting her GP and a family friend in benefits office. Sister now off sick and submitting sick line. She thinks it's every week (surgery told me it's every 3 months). Changed to benefits to £75 (roughly) a fortnight. She gets in right state when no money in bank on Thursday she isn't paid even though we've put it in her calendar and diary paid or no pay depending on the week. She say's she's received phone call today from citizens advice saying they need her drs notes. Trying to explain I doubt citizens advice would be asking for them unless she was asking them for help

 

[m7mcfc]

Father in law has it and he is a shadow of his former self.
The list of things I could put on here.
It's heartbreaking for my Mrs and her brother and sisters.
Your helpless.

 

[bluethrunthru]

On the back of this last season it shows the effect short vlogs can have to drive a message home



Fucks sake then I found this

awful

 

[Millwallawayveteran1988]

Thankfully my parents went fairly young without having to suffer this horrible illness. My FIL has Parkinson’s and is now showing signs of early stage dementia. My mate’s mum has been in a care home for 8 years and is still going. She hasn’t recognised him for at least 7.5 of those. He still visits every week. My heart breaks for him when he mentions it. Lost all her assets too bar the minimum allowed. Terrible.

 

[ob]

Thankfully my parents went fairly young without having to suffer this horrible illness. My FIL has Parkinson’s and is now showing signs of early stage dementia. My mate’s mum has been in a care home for 8 years and is still going. She hasn’t recognised him for at least 7.5 of those. He still visits every week. My heart breaks for him when he mentions it. Lost all her assets too bar the minimum allowed. Terrible.

My partner's aunt died just before Christmas. Had Parkinson's and dementia. Last few years couldn't even communicate other than a grunt

 

[Millwallawayveteran1988]

My partner's aunt died just before Christmas. Had Parkinson's and dementia. Last few years couldn't even communicate other than a grunt

Just dreadful isn’t it. Nobody warns you about this getting older lark! Thankfully we convinced the in laws to move closer last year which was a huge move as they had lived in their previous house and town for 40 years. We can help them a bit now and my daughter goes after school for a quick chat and snack so they love that as they were becoming very isolated. My FIL hasn’t got too long left I don’t think. Maybe 2/3 years. He looks frail and old now. At least 5 years older than he is. My wife’s stress levels have gone through the roof with it. I’ve been there with my mum who I was running around for during and after Covid and it takes its toll when you work full time. I was exhausted when she died so whilst it was sad that she went early (74) in some ways it was for the best as her health was really going downhill and she was in and out of hospital. It was a horrendous last year for her with falls, problems with illness and loneliness. She did her meet my gorgeous granddaughter though and saw her for two months before she went. That lifted her last weeks.

 

[Bluesince1979]

My nanna is 94 and in a secure unit now as she gets nasty and violent. Shes unrecognisable of the woman she was 5 years ago. A total shadow of her former self.
She has a vague recognition that im something to do with her but doesnt really know why or who.

When ‘the phone call’ comes there will be a sense of relief and peace with me. I want her suffering over now. She isnt ‘nanna’ anymore.

 

[mexico1970]

I have helped 2 people with dementia through their last years, horrible condition and I have a lot of respect for anyone facing helping someone through it.