General / Mental Health Support Thread

[ob]

Just had a good cry
Life hurts so much and has hurt me so much
But tomorrow is a new day

Hope you're ok and today better than yesterday

 

[MCFC Wirral]

So I spoke to my mum the other night. She said all the old ladies at her retirement village are delighted I’m getting better and wish me all the best.

I’m actually quite cheered by this.

 

[PinkFinal]

Went out last night
The cheery sounds of a Joy Division tribute band
Weird thing was I'm pretty sure this woman half my age was trying to pull me
But I couldn't even talk normally
I feel like I've been to the point of no return and that nothing will ever make me think that life is really worth it
I have burrowed out of holes like this before but at the moment it feels like it'll be tough to get out of this one

 

[SebastianBlue]

Went out last night
The cheery sounds of a Joy Division tribute band
Weird thing was I'm pretty sure this woman half my age was trying to pull me
But I couldn't even talk normally
I feel like I've been to the point of no return and that nothing will ever make me think that life is really worth it
I have burrowed out of holes like this before but at the moment it feels like it'll be tough to get out of this one

Have you pursued therapy and a local support community?

It can really help to anchor your thoughts closer to reality, which is that things are not that bad, your life is very much worth living, and there are people that want to help you through this dark period (including us on here).

You need to avail yourself of ways to call out your lying mind and not let it have complete control.

 

[Nebuchadnezzar]

Went out last night
The cheery sounds of a Joy Division tribute band
Weird thing was I'm pretty sure this woman half my age was trying to pull me
But I couldn't even talk normally
I feel like I've been to the point of no return and that nothing will ever make me think that life is really worth it
I have burrowed out of holes like this before but at the moment it feels like it'll be tough to get out of this one

Please keep posting and checking in here. I wish I had more for you but given that we wouldn't know one another if we passed in the street, I've long enjoyed your posts on here. You've so much to say and give, the trick is to figure out what you can begin to "take" from life....and you certainly deserve all the good stuff

 

[PinkFinal]

Just spent two days in bed
Thought I was going to be stuck there for weeks.
Feeling really bad
Managed to drag myself out as I have a ticket for a.Pink Floyd tribute show in Stockport and the thought of wasting cash was just unacceptable

 

[MCFC Wirral]

I’m still absolutely exhausted. I got out of hospital last Sunday all put back together but I’ve no desire to do much at the moment.

Mentally I feel quite delicate so I’m not even watching difficult tv like dramas. I think I need to take life day by day. Not put myself through much.

 

[Mr Kobayashi]

I’m still absolutely exhausted. I got out of hospital last Sunday all put back together but I’ve no desire to do much at the moment.

Mentally I feel quite delicate so I’m not even watching difficult tv like dramas. I think I need to take life day by day. Not put myself through much.

I have sent you a PM of a free site that works on smart TVs if you need more choice of content.

No need to rush it. Just enjoy (as much as possible) the time you get to rest and recover.

 

[ob]

Just spent two days in bed
Thought I was going to be stuck there for weeks.
Feeling really bad
Managed to drag myself out as I have a ticket for a.Pink Floyd tribute show in Stockport and the thought of wasting cash was just unacceptable

How you doing today mate, how was the gig. Have you thought about reaching out to someone. Maybe a family member, GP etc

 

[Lauz9888]

I’m still absolutely exhausted. I got out of hospital last Sunday all put back together but I’ve no desire to do much at the moment.

Mentally I feel quite delicate so I’m not even watching difficult tv like dramas. I think I need to take life day by day. Not put myself through much.

When I'm feeling down I like to watch comedy shows I've seen before. Something familiar and not taxing, that isn't going to surprise me with feelings I wasn't expecting.

 

[PinkFinal]

How you doing today mate, how was the gig. Have you thought about reaching out to someone. Maybe a family member, GP etc

My brother is helping me.
I might ring the Samaritans tonight.
Thank you sincerely to everyone who has replied to me on this thread it's a great help.

 

[ob]

My brother is helping me.
I might ring the Samaritans tonight.
Thank you sincerely to everyone who has replied to me on this thread it's a great help.

Stay strong mate please keep updating us

 

[MCFC Wirral]

When I'm feeling down I like to watch comedy shows I've seen before. Something familiar and not taxing, that isn't going to surprise me with feelings I wasn't expecting.

I ended up finding Darren Brown of all people on 4OD. It was the one where he made the audience think it was a game show where they chose to reward or punish the “contestant”.

How are you, anyhow? Any news?

 

[Lauz9888]

I ended up finding Darren Brown of all people on 4OD. It was the one where he made the audience think it was a game show where they chose to reward or punish the “contestant”.

How are you, anyhow? Any news?

I think a bit of frivolous telly is often a great distraction. Keeps your brain occupied with something easy and unchallenging.

No news yet, I have my scan in the morning and then hopefully find out the results in the next week or two. If the cancer isn't anywhere else then surgery should cure it so I've got everything crossed that that's the case.

 

[PinkFinal]

Have you pursued therapy and a local support community?

It can really help to anchor your thoughts closer to reality, which is that things are not that bad, your life is very much worth living, and there are people that want to help you through this dark period (including us on here).

You need to avail yourself of ways to call out your lying mind and not let it have complete control.

There's a local walk-in I keep meaning to go to.
But getting up is becoming a terrible struggle.
If you are severely depressed the first hour or two after waking are extremely tough.

 

[SebastianBlue]

There's a local walk-in I keep meaning to go to.
But getting up is becoming a terrible struggle.
If you are severely depressed the first hour or two after waking are extremely tough.

It absolutely is. I have been there many times.

Is there anyone that can help you through those first few hours one day this week, and help you make it to the walk-in?

 

[kaz7]

Been up since 1am in severe pain , even considered going to casualty and asking for morphine as nothing i have touched it, cried a lot , this is me now , worse than i ever thought , a new phase my consultant says , oh joy . I watched a german drama all night to pass the time and something to concentrate on , dont want to go another how ever many years like this

 

[SebastianBlue]

Been up since 1am in severe pain , even considered going to casualty and asking for morphine as nothing i have touched it, cried a lot , this is me now , worse than i ever thought , a new phase my consultant says , oh joy . I watched a german drama all night to pass the time and something to concentrate on , dont want to go another how ever many years like this

I am sorry, Karen. I can relate to your experience. It can be so difficult to see that there is a path through it, especially when you are in periods of extreme distress.

Do you have anyone there with you that can help you maintain a positive outlook (or just counter the understandable negativity that your mind will continual impose)?

As I have suggested to @PinkFinal, are you a member of any support groups? If not, I am sure your consultant can refer you to a local group.

They really can make it easier to deal with the daily experience.

 

[dronefromsector7G]

I’ve got a few new medical issues over the last few years to add to my mental health ones. Currently awaiting blood test results including PSA test for some prostatic symptoms. It’s hard to stay positive all the time and even putting shit jokes online can only go so far

 

[kaz7]

I am sorry, Karen. I can relate to your experience. It can be so difficult to see that there is a path through it, especially when you are in periods of extreme distress.

Do you have anyone there with you that can help you maintain a positive outlook (or just counter the understandable negativity that your mind will continual impose)?

As I have suggested to @PinkFinal, are you a member of any support groups? If not, I am sure your consultant can refer you to a local group.

They really can make it easier to deal with the daily experience.

Thanks Seb , unfortunately i am on my own here so have to jolly myself on best as i can . I have tried support groups over the three decades i have been ill but i find them depressing and i just cant offer support in return , my mental health is such that i go into my safe space and stay there till it passes a bit , i can lie still in bed for hours in the day not moving as i think something bad will happen if i take the sheet off from over my head . It is a really weird experience but very familiar territory

Thanks for the suggestions though x