Firstly I think you speak a lot of sense in most of your posts PC and I agree with most of your input on this thread, pal.
I think many in today's society don't know what they want and if they find it their boredom threshold is set to low because almost everyone nowadays wants that big posh house, that shiny new Merc and that big Rolex watch, latest 1200 pound phone, designer handbag Pair of Jimmy Choo shoes etc etc. It's all superficial materialistic bollocks.
My point being is true love is not about money(isn't to me) it's a fulfilment of overflowing heart felt joy and contentment. Making love is 1000X more powerful and overwhelming than the best soulless sex can ever be, but many want their cake and eat it and as a consequence kids are often made to the brunt of an inevitable acrimonious split when the cheat is found out.
I speak from experience. She stared seeing a guy romantically without consummating sexually but the loving bond was broken between us. But when my ex wife and I split we made a pact that we would be as amicable as possible so our girls weren't dragged around back n' forth like bargaining chips like pawns on a chess board. And we mostly stuck to that pact without mind games, albeit a few bickerings early on that were ironed out in a civilised manner.
Both of us have done the very best we can for our girls and you could say they'd had the both worlds as an outsider looking in, But did they?(I'll come to that later)
When I was home from working away my two main passions City and and fishing were put very much in the background, fishing more so as i like at least half a day, nipping to the Emptyhad I could do in two n' half hours but anyway my girls were my everything and I'm proud to say I've done my very best for them.
As they have got grown up into late teenage I've spoken to them as young adults and my eldest has asked me questions on why mum and I split etc. I said I didn't want to say unless I was being stark truthful, and the truth hurts. I didn't want her worrying unduly of how it has affected me playing part time dad not there for them due to work commitments and not together as the head of the household like her stepfather has been.
I told her the truth and her younger sister but my youngest took us splitting up more badly because she's a sensitive soul. She he has ADHD and mild autism and I think her living with mum and her stepdad and me being single going through the motions of being with someone knowing I've only ever truly loved mum has affected her badly. Anorexia nervosa and self harming could possibly be linked to being unhappy in childhood, I don't know as I'm not an expert. What I do know is it breaks my heart how I could have possibly contributed to her suffering.
But I have done my best and mostly kept my opinions of their stepdad to myself and let them make their own minds up over growing up with him.
I think parents splitting up can have a huge impact on kids lives. And I also think that if you can find true love, have kids and have a loving harmonious family relationship then you have hit the jackpot of life, that's if you've chosen to have kids of course.
If my ex Mrs could turn back the clock she would and so would I but we can't, and we cannot get back what we had not can you. But if you have a young family reading this don't think of your dick being happy whilst your dipping your wick, think of what could possibly happen when your candle has been snuffed out That's life, but you can mostly choose which port to dock your boat.
Think of your kids first and foremost because you brought them into this world!
My youngest made me a lovely present made from wire this Christmas. She asked me what I wanted and I asked her to make me an owl as they are my favourite birds. I'm so proud of her(and her big sis) I would sell this for all the tea in China(as they say.
Daddy owl in the middle with my owlets by my side. Happy owls. Twit twoo: )
Anyone interested in buying any artwork like this PM me as my youngest has her own website doing wire creations, bespoke too as this is one. Thanks.