How Do You Respond To Stress?

[dronefromsector7g]

Why? It almost sounds contradictory?

Embarrassment.

Shame.

Fear that by opening ourselves up we become diminished in the eyes of those closest to us.

Anxiety that we fail to be the person that we think we ought to be or that others think we ought to be.

Nail on the head.

It's taken meds and a CBT course for me to be even able to realise that everyone fails at some point and that it's ok to fail.

I still have very low points but I'm able to see that it's thinking errors on my part and I now have the means to deal with it.

I also find a hearty bout of swearing helps, too.

Cunting fuckety bollocks.

Nice one Flash. People may have took my earlier post in jest but that swearing shit really works, you fucking thunder twat ****.

 

[nijinsky's fetlocks]

Stress from work - I've recently been promoted and can empathise with you as my "learning curve" is very steep!!

What I've found helpful is prioritising things, so you then get some sort of structure as opposed to everything seeming to be one big muddled heap.

Offload as much as you can (if possible) it isn't fair if you are stressing and others seem to be having the life of riley.

If possible, take a step back - when you're staring at the coal face, you see very little, if you can take a step backwards and see a bigger picture, the picture can be clearer.

As other have said, just talking about it can help - even taking ten minutes to have a coffee with someone, sometimes something is said in passing and you then realise it is good advice.

Hope this is some of that good advice you're after!!

(If not, sack it off!!)

Just remember everyone eventually gets promoted to a job they are incompetent at

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[mcmanus]

Stress from work - I've recently been promoted and can empathise with you as my "learning curve" is very steep!!

What I've found helpful is prioritising things, so you then get some sort of structure as opposed to everything seeming to be one big muddled heap.

Offload as much as you can (if possible) it isn't fair if you are stressing and others seem to be having the life of riley.

If possible, take a step back - when you're staring at the coal face, you see very little, if you can take a step backwards and see a bigger picture, the picture can be clearer.

As other have said, just talking about it can help - even taking ten minutes to have a coffee with someone, sometimes something is said in passing and you then realise it is good advice.

Hope this is some of that good advice you're after!!

(If not, sack it off!!)

Just remember everyone eventually gets promoted to a job they are incompetent at

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Laughing like fuck.

 

[supercity88]

Stress is an odd thing. Many people thrive on it and need to work under pressure/stress to do a good job.

I have to say I had that traditional English attitude of brushing it under the carpet. I never used to get that stressed and preferred to have a bit of pressure to do things because otherwise there felt like no incentive. Now I am experiencing stress for one of the first times and it isn't really related to workload or difficulty of job so I am struggling to deal with it.

I have a job that seems to expect you to socialise and network at a lot of evening events. I am a firm believer in working to live and not the other way round. I enjoy my job but if I was to be on my death bed, it isn't something that would inspire people and isn't something I view as being fulfilling. It pays the bills and I am getting good experience so i can't complain too much, nor can I leave it at the moment. The trouble is I don't want to go to these evening events where people sit and talk work and drink all night. More and more are being arranged on a Friday too. I am one of those people who doesn't like to let others down and find it hard to say no to things. I am the only one who seems to find these events a chore rather than a positive thing and I like to keep my personal life away from my working life because I don't view them as being something that can be intertwined.

My mrs and my Dad tell me to just be honest and say I have other priorities that I need to put before work events. But the boss even reiterates their importance so I find it difficult to skip them without a made up excuse! It sounds ridiculous but it really stresses me out and i feel as though people at work think there are other reasons for me not going (I also care far too much about what other people think of me).

Love the weekends!

 

[nedums noodles]

OP, living in Northwich can't be helping matters pal, I've lived here for 8yrs and it does take it's toll.

On a serious note, I've just undergone the most stressful 6mths of my life, or so it feels. Redundancy in December, unemployed for the first time since I was 18, 36yrs ago. Starting a new job in February should have meant an end to the stress but it just magnified things, I had worked from home for 10yrs, visited the office a couple of times a year, now I'm office based and travel 44miles a day, no big deal but added to the new environment and actually working with others, well it was really difficult, still is some days, office politics etc, does my swede in.

Expectations of me were high as I was recommended to them, so far I've managed to deliver but I'm on my limit every single day, worried that I'm overlooking things, also that I'm overdoing things, it's been tough and I don't expect that to change any time soon. The better I do the more they will expect, it's a young man's game I work in and I'm running rings round them, which in itself brings problems, can't win...

I won't be packing it in though, just hoping I will grow to like it and settle down over the summer.

can i ask why living in northwich is taking its toll? i thought it was a lovely place to live.
this is a great thread by the way.

 

[RP2]

Stress for me is (almost literally) a killer.

I always used to have a happy-go-lucky laid back style, and stuff got ignored or forgotten about - although it was never actually forgotten, or ignored, and never went away - the fuckwit that is my brain stored it all in an overflowing bottle, until it burst a few years ago and I now suffer incredibly from anxiety - health anxiety mainly.

Some people think they can 'deal' with stress alone - I was one of them - but talking it through with a loved one or professional can relieve a lot.

 

[BlueHammer85]

been mentioned a few times, but exercise is the key for me.. some days i feel really stressed/depressed... i force myself to gym and after i feel 100x better, playing footie with mates is a bigger release,totally forget your problems.. especially after having a pint with your mates you realise everyone has there own problems but together you can laugh it off.

 

[carlos tevez is a blue]

Drink.

 

[Dalian Blue]

It isn't fun, I went to the GP about stress and she signed me off for a month, after asking is one month long enough?
I've got one week to go and friends of mine are suggesting that I go back and ask for another note.
Drink isn't the answer either, I did a detox last year and was a lot happier when I was alcohol free. I started a new job five months ago and it wasn't long before I realised that there is a drink culture, I avoided it at first but then I fell for the old 'one drink won't do any harm' trap. Before I knew it I was back on the pop.
I'm looking for another job now, I'm fairly certain that when I do go back to my current job I'll be getting my notice.
Funny old world....

 

[ali benarbia's studs]

stop giving a feck. never bottle......always VENT. It`s why women live longer :)