How Do You Respond To Stress?

[nw42]

OP, living in Northwich can't be helping matters pal, I've lived here for 8yrs and it does take it's toll.

On a serious note, I've just undergone the most stressful 6mths of my life, or so it feels. Redundancy in December, unemployed for the first time since I was 18, 36yrs ago. Starting a new job in February should have meant an end to the stress but it just magnified things, I had worked from home for 10yrs, visited the office a couple of times a year, now I'm office based and travel 44miles a day, no big deal but added to the new environment and actually working with others, well it was really difficult, still is some days, office politics etc, does my swede in.

Expectations of me were high as I was recommended to them, so far I've managed to deliver but I'm on my limit every single day, worried that I'm overlooking things, also that I'm overdoing things, it's been tough and I don't expect that to change any time soon. The better I do the more they will expect, it's a young man's game I work in and I'm running rings round them, which in itself brings problems, can't win...

I won't be packing it in though, just hoping I will grow to like it and settle down over the summer.

 

[bobmcfc]

People generally seem less judgmental on here, or maybe the judgmental ones stay silent on such topics. I lost so called 'friends' a long time ago when I revealed my lowest point. It certainly makes you pick your friends carefully once that happens. I like the anonymity of the web (though I've met 20 forum members in real life it's only brief)

I think sometimes it might be easier to share things with people who don't know you as well. It's like there are no strings and you can care less about what they think but you will still get the real, unbiased concern and real advice that you wouldn't get from people who are too close (if you get what I mean)

There are members of my own family who know less about my 'dark side' than folks on here. I've opened up to work mates now too and I think being on here helped me in that respect, like the taps were turned on gradually. Now I embrace my situation and most of my jokey posting on here is done for a reason :-)

It's true of me also i must admit. We hide ourselves from those closest to us but I'm very comfortable with not giving all of myself away, I could never ever do it and feel ok with myself.

 

[kaz7]

This is what i love about the cellar,put yourself out there and you get support in return.
This place helps me more than you will ever know
x

 

[dronefromsector7g]

This is what i love about the cellar,put yourself out there and you get support in return.
This place helps me more than you will ever know
x

;-)

 

[Tuearts right boot]

People generally seem less judgmental on here, or maybe the judgmental ones stay silent on such topics. I lost so called 'friends' a long time ago when I revealed my lowest point. It certainly makes you pick your friends carefully once that happens. I like the anonymity of the web (though I've met 20 forum members in real life it's only brief)

I think sometimes it might be easier to share things with people who don't know you as well. It's like there are no strings and you can care less about what they think but you will still get the real, unbiased concern and real advice that you wouldn't get from people who are too close (if you get what I mean)

There are members of my own family who know less about my 'dark side' than folks on here. I've opened up to work mates now too and I think being on here helped me in that respect, like the taps were turned on gradually. Now I embrace my situation and most of my jokey posting on here is done for a reason :-)

Can you just remind us again about these " jokey postings "

 

[1961_vintage]

We hide ourselves from those closest to us

Why? It almost sounds contradictory?

 

[dronefromsector7g]

I think sometimes it might be easier to share things with people who don't know you as well. It's like there are no strings and you can care less about what they think but you will still get the real, unbiased concern and real advice that you wouldn't get from people who are too close (if you get what I mean)

There are members of my own family who know less about my 'dark side' than folks on here. I've opened up to work mates now too and I think being on here helped me in that respect, like the taps were turned on gradually. Now I embrace my situation and most of my jokey posting on here is done for a reason :-)

Can you just remind us again about these " jokey postings "

Right that's it, I'm going into serious mode for 24 hours. No puns, knob gags, Babestation references to cheer up all you depressive alcoholic cunts. (That's my last joke, definitely)

Cunts

 

[DelToro]

We hide ourselves from those closest to us

Why? It almost sounds contradictory?

Embarrassment.

Shame.

Fear that by opening ourselves up we become diminished in the eyes of those closest to us.

Anxiety that we fail to be the person that we think we ought to be or that others think we ought to be.

 

[Gaylord du Bois]

I stare it down. Its not always easy but its never beaten me yet.

 

[denislawsbackheel]

Drink
Then went on to subscription drugs
Eventually cracked up and had to leave.