As you say, they're clearly struggling to reconcile the disconnect between united as a club and their supporters, which is only set to continue and accentuate in the months and years ahead imo.
I think City fans' attitude to the press, whilst frequently excessive, is entirely understandable. Most of the press have looked down their noses at City as a club since the takeover, especially in the first four years or so. The reaction to Hughes' sacking being a perfect case in point. Contrast that with the obsequious and at times nauseating way united have been reported on in that period and it's perfectly plain to see why there's such contempt for the press on here. There can be no doubt that that construct is no longer so rigidly in force, and in truth has been slowly changing since Sergio's goal - although if fate had taken a different turn I don't doubt the media's reaction would have been completely vicious, much more so than it was towards united for utterly blowing it that season.
If you deeply care about something, as pretty much anyone who posts on here does about City, it's perfectly natural to defend it when it's talked about in wholly unfair terms, and as a consequence of that, some people are going to deal with things that are disproportionate and in some respects anachronistic. People have long memories when it comes to others, especially the media, slagging off their football club, even if things are slowly improving in that regard.