My wife is crazy and it's getting to be a problem.

[bluegirl74]

What's option b?

You don't have to worry about that. I have it on good authority that you're one of lifes good guys.

 

[mancboy]

As a self confessed woman and occasional over-reacter, but with no other qualifications or experience to comment more knowledgeably on this subject, it's important to always remember one thing in relationships. And that's quite simple - just don't be a ****.

Treat the other person, whoever that is, man, woman or some other self proclaimed identifier, as you'd like to be treated. I.e. with love, respect and honesty. And expect to be treated likewise in return. Don't behave badly to someone but then expect to be treated like a king/queen in return.

And if you can't have a genuine conversation about this basic concept with the person that you share your life with, then something has gone horribly wrong at some point.

OP, I hope that you can manage to talk to your wife about the problems that you're having as it seems that you do want to find a resolution. It may be that there's a medical issue behind it, or it may be the culmination of something which happened a long time ago which has gone unchecked and festered. Maybe now that you've vented a bit on here, you'll be in a better place to have a conversation at home (acknowledging entirely that it takes 2 people to talk and that you can't have a conversation with someone who won't engage. But at least then you'll know whether there's a relationship to save).

dont be a **** is good life advice never mind relationship advice

 

[VOOMER]

There is literally nothing I can do or say that doesn't end up with her taking offense and yelling at me. If I clean the kitchen it means I think she's a woman who doesn't know how to keep a clean kitchen. If I ask her if she bought toothpaste recently it's not because I want to know if we need toothpaste it's because I think she's a woman who never buys things we need. If I send her flowers at work I'm an asshole who thinks that sending flowers will make up for all of the horrible shit I do like asking if we have toothpaste. One time she literally left me and moved back in with her parents because I... CLEANED THE KITCHEN!!!!!

She has this habit of taking out one of our dogs without a leash or collar to identify him, she just takes him out with nothing. Here's how that went:

Me: He's a very skittish dog who runs away if something scares him, can you please at least put his collar on him so if somebody finds him they'll know where he belongs?

Her: I'M ALWAYS THE ONE WHO TAKES HIM OUT (she's not)!!!!!!! YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING FOR HIM (I do)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like, I just don't want to lose my dog. I don't think there is a sane person who could argue with putting a name tag on a dog. When I take him out I put a leash on him, he does his thing and we come back inside.

I'm at the point where I can't even talk to her because I'm so sick of the bullshit. I make dinner and I don't tell her it's ready or even offer her any, I just leave it on the counter in case she wants to eat it. I know that me making dinner and setting a place for her at the table will be taken as some sort of insult and I just don't want to deal with it.

She's on the turn

 

[aguero93:20]

You don't have to worry about that. I have it on good authority that you're one of lifes good guys.

My wife would probably disagree.

 

[BringBackSwales]

There is literally nothing I can do or say that doesn't end up with her taking offense and yelling at me. If I clean the kitchen it means I think she's a woman who doesn't know how to keep a clean kitchen. If I ask her if she bought toothpaste recently it's not because I want to know if we need toothpaste it's because I think she's a woman who never buys things we need. If I send her flowers at work I'm an asshole who thinks that sending flowers will make up for all of the horrible shit I do like asking if we have toothpaste. One time she literally left me and moved back in with her parents because I... CLEANED THE KITCHEN!!!!!

She has this habit of taking out one of our dogs without a leash or collar to identify him, she just takes him out with nothing. Here's how that went:

Me: He's a very skittish dog who runs away if something scares him, can you please at least put his collar on him so if somebody finds him they'll know where he belongs?

Her: I'M ALWAYS THE ONE WHO TAKES HIM OUT (she's not)!!!!!!! YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING FOR HIM (I do)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Like, I just don't want to lose my dog. I don't think there is a sane person who could argue with putting a name tag on a dog. When I take him out I put a leash on him, he does his thing and we come back inside.

I'm at the point where I can't even talk to her because I'm so sick of the bullshit. I make dinner and I don't tell her it's ready or even offer her any, I just leave it on the counter in case she wants to eat it. I know that me making dinner and setting a place for her at the table will be taken as some sort of insult and I just don't want to deal with it.

Does she read Bluemoon? I am a bit worried that this was your last post?

 

[maccieblue]

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Or just join the foreign legion. In fact my suggestion seems a lot easier.

Or join the British legion and enjoy a few pints

 

[bluegirl74]

If you're not already married you bloody well should be, simply concise and honest it makes perfect sense mate.

Thanks. I'll not be getting into a relationship again any time soon. The last one fell apart when he suggested that if I made him choose between me or City I'd be disappointed.
Then he had the cheek to be heartbroken when I decided the issue for him and binned him off. I soon found that I wasn't at all disappointed but the same couldn't be said for him.
No way I'll be putting my independence, half of my house, pension, car collection and investments on the line just to be someone's wife again :-)

 

[Pablo123]

Thanks. I'll not be getting into a relationship again any time soon. The last one fell apart when he suggested that if I made him choose between me or City I'd be disappointed.
Then he had the cheek to be heartbroken when I decided the issue for him and binned him off. I soon found that I wasn't at all disappointed at all but the same couldn't be said for him.
No way I'll be putting my independence, half of my house, pension, car collection and investments on the line just to be someone's wife again :-)

Well if you do PM me :)

 

[snorky]

She sounds a keeper to me.

 

[Magicpole]

Every minute you spend with her is another minute of your life wasted. You have tried so now it’s time to tell her to fuck off.