Big-P said:
Broke up with my girlfriend of one and a half years just yesterday and obviously feel like shit. I messaged another girl on Saturday night when drunk just to wind her up because we'd had an argument, she hadn't spoke with me for a week and we met up on Thursday to talk and i told her the reasons why i did it (to wind her up and i was drunk) iv apologized and pestered all week and had flowers sent to her house. Yesterday she told me that she doesn't think that we'd been happy for a while and whilst she's saying its not over forever but we need to get on with our lives and stop communicating for a while as she wants to try and sort out her future and get a job (shes just graduated university and is struggling with what to do next) I replied by saying that if its what she thinks is for the best but i do think it will be over forever because i wouldn't ever see her out and about and that id never forget her, she then said that ' if you dont forget me then it wont be over forever and in a few months i might feel different and you might have moved on but its a chance that i have to take and that she needs to cut off from me for a while and that id hurt her and she cant forgive me and thats why she cant miss me.
In everybody expert opinion what does this mean? is there a chance in the future or is this done for good?
i feel like shit but i also know now that i do have time to improve myself and concentrate on me for a little while but i really dont want this but i know there is nothing i can do with her now. What is everybodys advice? i know this isnt really the place but i need views.
The chemicals, hormones and enzymes in your body will not always make you feel as you do now. The bond you have with her will diminish and within a year you will wonder why you were so bothered by this.
There are so many opportunities to be had with so many different people that worrying about one person (especially when you're young) when a situation like this occurs, I honestly think you're better off going to start a new chapter in your life.
There's no such thing as "the one". So get it out if your head that this girl is
it. It may take a while to get over it but if you're saying "she told me that she doesn't think that we'd been happy for a while" and she wants her own space, then let her have it. Don't force it. If you're body is still feeling like this after a little while then in might be worth contacting her to see if she's feeling the same and is thinking of starting things up again. But of not, honestly, it's not the end of the world even if it seems it at the time.