Chippy_boy
Well-Known Member
Post of the thread. What a desperately sad and indeed terrible, terrible situation in 21st century UK. My heart goes out to her.If indeed they exist then those sort of courts should be controlled or even banned as well, I have no problem with that.
I mention it because my niece is a Muslim and she married a Muslim at 20 purely because they weren't allowed to see each other otherwise. They couldn't share a hotel room and they couldn't do much really without an escort until they were married.
I attended their Nikah and my niece barely attended because she was 'given away' by her father in the day ceremony although obviously she consented. It's a bizarre one to watch, the men attend the ceremony and women attend in a different room. She basically just turned up for the night do and that was it which we found quite sad for her.
They've since broken up and she needs to get a divorce but she can't do it so easily because he has to grant it and then I can only presume that they'll have to petition it to the Sharia court and who knows what that involves.
They didn't legally marry so she also has no marriage rights in UK law and alongside the breakup the whole thing is causing her massive amounts of stress and embarassment. She's basically treated like a pariah within that element of the community who knows his family.
This is the reality for Muslim women. It's obviously their choice but sometimes I'm not so sure because as with all religions it's enforced and indoctrinated upon young people, especially socially. Again I get it's their choice but it's just very alien to everything I believe in.
I took the time some while back to actually read the Qur'an so I would know what I was taking about, and apart from finding the thing badly structured and *incredibly*, mind-numbingly repetitive, I was appalled at bits of it, especially women's rights.
