your dad

My mum and dad split when I was a baby, mum remarried and my step dad bought me and my brother up as his own. I'm 29 now and they've split and he's remarried i was his best man and I'm still as close to him than I ever have been. I love him loads and owe him alot. He's bailed me out so many times treats my kids fantastic and they love him to bits. He's their grandad! I see my biological dad a lot but he was never really intrested in me and my brother till we was about 16. I try not to ask him for anything and my kids don't treat him anything like they do my step dad. he travels a lot in his job and is quite well off and everything is about him and how much money he earns (yawn)!! When I see him he can be quite a boring tosser, and moody and I'd hate to think I'd turn out like him.
 
Mine was a wife beating ****. Haven't seen him for nigh on 38 years, and if he did come to see me I'd knock the **** out for what he put my mum through.
 
My dad is an violent, drunk, abusive tosser. The day he dies I'm throwing a fucking party.
 
I hadn't seen or heard from my dad for 38 years. He left when I was 8 . I never got a card or present at birthdays or xmas. Neither did both my brothers.
He never came to my brothers funeral.
He has 4 grandchildren and 1 great grandson. . . He has never seen any of them.
He was nothing but a selfish alcoholic.
Two years ago , I got a phone call from Blackburn Royal saying that he wouldnt last the night. God knows how they got my number. Anyway , my response was that I hope he doesn't last the next 5 minutes and not to ring me again because I dont care.
I think they wanted someone to pay for his funeral.
I am totally different with my kids. I take interest in everything they do and see them all the time . I will never be like him.
 
Andy Dale said:
I hadn't seen or heard from my dad for 38 years. He left when I was 8 . I never got a card or present at birthdays or xmas. Neither did both my brothers.
He never came to my brothers funeral.
He has 4 grandchildren and 1 great grandson. . . He has never seen any of them.
He was nothing but a selfish alcoholic.
Two years ago , I got a phone call from Blackburn Royal saying that he wouldnt last the night. God knows how they got my number. Anyway , my response was that I hope he doesn't last the next 5 minutes and not to ring me again because I dont care.
I think they wanted someone to pay for his funeral.
I am totally different with my kids. I take interest in everything they do and see them all the time . I will never be like him.
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Good post that. For the life of me I can never understand people who beat their wives up, or abuse their kids, and then say 'that's what happened to me, so I'm conditioned that way'. I always thought that if you don't enjoy something, then you sure as fuck won't make other people go through what you went through. I for one will never, ever raise my hand to my wife, and from your post I can see that you won't put your kids through the same experiences you went through.
 
I used to go out with a girl who overheard her parents talking, when she was a teenager, saying they wished they'd never had her. From then on her relationship with her parents went to shit. When she met me her Dad didn't want me round the house and forbid her from seeing me at one point. This drove her to come and stay at mine at my parents. To say he didn't like it was an understatement. We ended up splitting up a few months down the line (we were only young) but we were still friends.

I was coming out of work one afternoon and she was in the car park waiting for her mate and she had a black eye and looked really bad. Turns out her Dad had beaten the shit out of her. The bruises on her body were terrible. She moved out and never spoke to him again. I was ready for killing the fucker but she didn't even want to tell the Police or anything. I sometimes drive past her parents house on my way to different places, and I've often thought about getting out and giving him a beating, but thought better of it.
 
meldrew said:
My dad has always stuck up for me, there's always times when you don't get on. Teenage years were a bit on and off. He means well, has a moan but who doesn't.

Whilst I was having a bit of family trouble, long story short my partner had a problem with my mum and sister, he always spoke to me trying to sort everything and I still went to every game with him.

Hes a very quiet man but when he sees my son there's a twinkle in his eye and I know there's a heart in there haha. I've only every seen him cry once and can't remember the last time he said he loved me. He doesn't show emotions that's the way he is but I wouldn't change him for the world.

Love you dad.
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Me and my family don't show emotions to each other. I don't remember the last time I said I loved my parents or they said it to me. I know they do (have been unsure about my Dad sometimes) and I'm sure they know I do to...it's just a bit stand-off-ish. Ex girlfriends and mates of mine think it's a bit odd that I don't give my Mam a hug and tell her I love her. Maybe I'm just not a good son like that.
 
My Dad walked out on my Mam and his three kids when I was three.

He died last year after me only ever remembering seeing him once.

When I was told he had died there wasn't one shred of emotion from me.

But one thing it shown me was how to be a better Father than he was and all my 5 children come first in my life.
 
ob said:
My dad died 16 years ago and I had great relationship with him and I think about him often and miss him so so much, I like to think he would be proud of me and all that I have done in my life

Reason for the post is guy I work with had terrible relationship with his and his dad died recently and funeral was yesterday, I spoke to him few times and he says he was fine and didn't give a shit (although he attended the funeral)

known him for 5 years and all he ever says is that he couldn't wait for his mum and dad to die so he could get the inheritance etc etc, he is in early 40s and still lives in family home, says he won't move out as he wants to make sure he gets the house

Now I can't imagine anyone hating their dad that much, has anyone ever known someone like that or maybe been in similar situation
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I knew my dad for 49 years of my life before he passed away , but when i look back i wonder if i ever REALLY knew him .......

he was the kind of guy who gave away little of what his day had contained , was quite 'cold' in character , loved his travel , and his horse racing (and my mum reckoned he loved his women too!) .... and spent far too much time in the various pubs he frequented after work.

He was never REALLY interested in football , but i mythered him to take me to a game , ANY game , and begrudgingly he finally did ....... and than god it was to Maine Road!

Trouble is , when you are a kid and only knee-high to a grasshopper , your dad is your hero , a superhuman you look up to ........ but when you 'take stock' on on your life . and look back , you realise that he was just a human being , with troubles , illnesses , insecurities , bills to pay and mouths to feed .... and he HAD to cope the bast way he could , just like you have to do!
 
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