The "let's talk" thread

I'm hoping a corner has been turned now, I start work again on Monday at a long term job, minimum of 18 months.

That's after being off due to mental and physical problems since August. I'm looking forward to it, and dreading it in equal measures.

The good thing is, it's back with the company I did 9 months for up until last January, and I know and get on well with nearly everybody on the job.

The only thing that really worries me, is the walking, it's a big site and as it's the start of the job, there will be a lot of to-ing and fro-ing.

Having said that, I REALLY need to lose weight (only lost around 10lbs so far), so it should be beneficial for me that way, as long as my back and knees hold up!

Ten pounds of adipose is a massive step in the right direction Bilbo and small baby steps. Cracking lad and good luck in your new venture. Up the blue boys.
 
Just a heads up of encouragement for people suffering from getting off substances.
December 27th 2018 I took my last opiate replacement for tramadol having struggled to get off the stuff for years.
I just determined to go through the sleeplessness, cramps, restless leg syndrome, etc.
Cleared the diary so I could concentrate on staying clean.
I did it.
It was a pretty uncomfortable three/four weeks but...
Now fourteen months clean and will never let a doc prescribe me tramadol again.

fantastic mate, keep it going
 
I'm hoping a corner has been turned now, I start work again on Monday at a long term job, minimum of 18 months.

That's after being off due to mental and physical problems since August. I'm looking forward to it, and dreading it in equal measures.

The good thing is, it's back with the company I did 9 months for up until last January, and I know and get on well with nearly everybody on the job.

The only thing that really worries me, is the walking, it's a big site and as it's the start of the job, there will be a lot of to-ing and fro-ing.

Having said that, I REALLY need to lose weight (only lost around 10lbs so far), so it should be beneficial for me that way, as long as my back and knees hold up!
Good news that mate - good luck & keep going.

Good to see outcomes in this thread where people are turning the corner - just as important to the original posts to see how people are coming through the other side.
 
I'm really struggling today. Mondays are fuckin awful.

Ironically a spanking new wellness centre has opened nearby with gym and pool, I suppose I could afford to use it if I stopped going to City and canceled Sky Sports.

In Scotland where my cousin lives you can use the swimming pool free if you're on benefits. A lot of people down here could benefit from this kind of thing.

Being a suspected aspergers and long term depressive I'm not required to work and have lots of time to do what I want but it's not at all satisfying when you are effectively useless to society.
 
I'm really struggling today. Mondays are fuckin awful.

Ironically a spanking new wellness centre has opened nearby with gym and pool, I suppose I could afford to use it if I stopped going to City and canceled Sky Sports.

In Scotland where my cousin lives you can use the swimming pool free if you're on benefits. A lot of people down here could benefit from this kind of thing.

Being a suspected aspergers and long term depressive I'm not required to work and have lots of time to do what I want but it's not at all satisfying when you are effectively useless to society.

I'm not having those last three words mate, not one bit.
 
I'm really struggling today. Mondays are fuckin awful.

Ironically a spanking new wellness centre has opened nearby with gym and pool, I suppose I could afford to use it if I stopped going to City and canceled Sky Sports.

In Scotland where my cousin lives you can use the swimming pool free if you're on benefits. A lot of people down here could benefit from this kind of thing.

Being a suspected aspergers and long term depressive I'm not required to work and have lots of time to do what I want but it's not at all satisfying when you are effectively useless to society.
Think about volunteering somewhere,animal sanctuary,charity shops etc,you are definately not useless
 
I'm really struggling today. Mondays are fuckin awful.

Ironically a spanking new wellness centre has opened nearby with gym and pool, I suppose I could afford to use it if I stopped going to City and canceled Sky Sports.

In Scotland where my cousin lives you can use the swimming pool free if you're on benefits. A lot of people down here could benefit from this kind of thing.

Being a suspected aspergers and long term depressive I'm not required to work and have lots of time to do what I want but it's not at all satisfying when you are effectively useless to society.
dont forget my shop is directly accross the road from the new pool. if you want a chat we'll pop over to their cafe for brew.

i hear the disabled facilities are second to none. i will be joining. cant wait.
 
dont forget my shop is directly accross the road from the new pool. if you want a chat we'll pop over to their cafe for brew.

i hear the disabled facilities are second to none. i will be joining. cant wait.

Good man, as always, Bill.
 
Thanks muckers

I've tried for years to get suitable voluntary work you'd think it'd be easy but it actually isn't.
I offered to work from home for free for several hours per day so sodding sick was I of not being 'useful'
I used to do a lot of walking late at night maybe I should go back to that.
 
If you are feeling anxious, try the Apple technique:

§ Acknowledge: Notice and acknowledge the uncertainty as it comes to mind.

§ Pause: Don't react as you normally do. Don't react at all. Pause and breathe.

§ Pull back: Tell yourself this is just the worry talking, and this apparent need for certainty is not helpful and not necessary. It is only a thought or feeling. Don't believe everything you think. Thoughts are not statements or facts.

§ Let go: Let go of the thought or feeling. It will pass. You don't have to respond to them. You might imagine them floating away in a bubble or cloud.

§ Explore: Explore the present moment, because right now, in this moment, all is well. Notice your breathing and the sensations of your breathing. Notice the ground beneath you. Look around and notice what you see, what you hear, what you can touch, what you can smell. Right now. Then shift your focus of attention to something else - on what you need to do, on what you were doing before you noticed the worry, or do something else - mindfully with your full attention
 
Hi Everyone,

I’ve been terrible all year. Never positive, content, happy etc. I’d tried doing the things I love or just going out with mates; but nothing shifted this awful mood.

One thing led to another and I ended up breaking down in the Doctor’s surgery. I’ve got depression and anxiety. They’ve put me on Citalopram anti-depressants and I’ve been signed off work.

I’m unable to leave the house at the moment due to my anxiety. Even a trip to Tesco caused me distress. I couldn’t wait to get home. I’m alternating between the sofa and my bed all day. A family member is looking after me.

Whilst I’m adamant I’ll make a full recovery, this has knocked me for six. I need to make sure I look after myself better in the future. Everything has got on top of me recently.

I’ll report back when things are better. This was to let anyone who knows me know. I’m slowly beginning to tell people.

Keep positive.
 
Hi Everyone,

I’ve been terrible all year. Never positive, content, happy etc. I’d tried doing the things I love or just going out with mates; but nothing shifted this awful mood.

One thing led to another and I ended up breaking down in the Doctor’s surgery. I’ve got depression and anxiety. They’ve put me on Citalopram anti-depressants and I’ve been signed off work.

I’m unable to leave the house at the moment due to my anxiety. Even a trip to Tesco caused me distress. I couldn’t wait to get home. I’m alternating between the sofa and my bed all day. A family member is looking after me.

Whilst I’m adamant I’ll make a full recovery, this has knocked me for six. I need to make sure I look after myself better in the future. Everything has got on top of me recently.

I’ll report back when things are better. This was to let anyone who knows me know. I’m slowly beginning to tell people.

Keep positive.
Hi pal, I found that hiking or just going for a walk made a huge difference to me. Just start with short walks around the block and keep going a bit further each time if you feel more comfortable. There's nothing like hills and fields to make you realise the rest is just noise.
 
Hi Everyone,

I’ve been terrible all year. Never positive, content, happy etc. I’d tried doing the things I love or just going out with mates; but nothing shifted this awful mood.

One thing led to another and I ended up breaking down in the Doctor’s surgery. I’ve got depression and anxiety. They’ve put me on Citalopram anti-depressants and I’ve been signed off work.

I’m unable to leave the house at the moment due to my anxiety. Even a trip to Tesco caused me distress. I couldn’t wait to get home. I’m alternating between the sofa and my bed all day. A family member is looking after me.

Whilst I’m adamant I’ll make a full recovery, this has knocked me for six. I need to make sure I look after myself better in the future. Everything has got on top of me recently.

I’ll report back when things are better. This was to let anyone who knows me know. I’m slowly beginning to tell people.

Keep positive.
I was put on citalopram before Christmas when my anxiety and depression was through the roof - I had times when I couldn't get out of bed for 2 or 3 days.

They help, I feel much better in myself now and I'd say you're on the right track. Be patient with yourself.
 
Thanks Guys.

Just getting down to WHSmiths for a Mother’s Day card for my long suffering mum was a nightmare today. I’ve had to use self service tills because I can’t face speaking to anyone.

I’m beginning to get insomnia too and, if I do fall asleep, I’m back up again at 4am. Some of the thoughts in my head are disturbing.

All my summer plans in terms of the Euros are over too. All paid for! Thankfully we sell London soon so I’m free to escape this city for good.
 
Hi Everyone,

I’ve been terrible all year. Never positive, content, happy etc. I’d tried doing the things I love or just going out with mates; but nothing shifted this awful mood.

One thing led to another and I ended up breaking down in the Doctor’s surgery. I’ve got depression and anxiety. They’ve put me on Citalopram anti-depressants and I’ve been signed off work.

I’m unable to leave the house at the moment due to my anxiety. Even a trip to Tesco caused me distress. I couldn’t wait to get home. I’m alternating between the sofa and my bed all day. A family member is looking after me.

Whilst I’m adamant I’ll make a full recovery, this has knocked me for six. I need to make sure I look after myself better in the future. Everything has got on top of me recently.

I’ll report back when things are better. This was to let anyone who knows me know. I’m slowly beginning to tell people.

Keep positive.
Hi pal depression awful illness been there long time ago , stay strong you will beat it take care in these troubled times stay safe blue
 
Hi Everyone,

I’ve been terrible all year. Never positive, content, happy etc. I’d tried doing the things I love or just going out with mates; but nothing shifted this awful mood.

One thing led to another and I ended up breaking down in the Doctor’s surgery. I’ve got depression and anxiety. They’ve put me on Citalopram anti-depressants and I’ve been signed off work.

I’m unable to leave the house at the moment due to my anxiety. Even a trip to Tesco caused me distress. I couldn’t wait to get home. I’m alternating between the sofa and my bed all day. A family member is looking after me.

Whilst I’m adamant I’ll make a full recovery, this has knocked me for six. I need to make sure I look after myself better in the future. Everything has got on top of me recently.

I’ll report back when things are better. This was to let anyone who knows me know. I’m slowly beginning to tell people.

Keep positive.
Hi Peoffrey,

What is causing you this stress or is it that bit of depression where it is ambiguous with you being incappable of pinning it down to xyz?

I suggest do something you can look forward to like planning a meal you have never cooked before, research it, buy the ingredients and spend the afternoon pottering around the kitchen. I like to download something to watch when i am prepping as i tend to drink a bottle of red when i do, in fact i make sure i do hehe. Maybe call a mate and you both keep the line open even if no chatting is going on for a bit. I used to do that often on skype with my pals who lived all over the shop.

For myself i am going to buy a tray of sausage meat, break it up and add Italian herbs, pan fry it a bit and make a nice pasta. All the while i'll be smoking a chicken on the bbq. It keeps you busy and you have something to look forward to at the end of the day.

Other things that can help, move your post out of site, we tend to attribute negative things to the post, bills etc. The old "make your bed" does work a bit to i find, it sets the mind into a purposeful state.

Stay strong mate and seriously look at a bit of cooking, it does not have to be high end stuff, i find peasant foods the best, making your own burgers etc. I love a burger and the best bit is it's pretty cheap. Everyone wants this 5% fat crap now so there is always a tray of 20% mince (well, usually) available, you need that for a good burger, 15% will do or even 12 but 20 is best.
 
Hi Everyone,

I’ve been terrible all year. Never positive, content, happy etc. I’d tried doing the things I love or just going out with mates; but nothing shifted this awful mood.

One thing led to another and I ended up breaking down in the Doctor’s surgery. I’ve got depression and anxiety. They’ve put me on Citalopram anti-depressants and I’ve been signed off work.

I’m unable to leave the house at the moment due to my anxiety. Even a trip to Tesco caused me distress. I couldn’t wait to get home. I’m alternating between the sofa and my bed all day. A family member is looking after me.

Whilst I’m adamant I’ll make a full recovery, this has knocked me for six. I need to make sure I look after myself better in the future. Everything has got on top of me recently.

I’ll report back when things are better. This was to let anyone who knows me know. I’m slowly beginning to tell people.

Keep positive.

Don't be shy to post more updates, it's exactly what this thread is for.
 
Hi Everyone,

I’ve been terrible all year. Never positive, content, happy etc. I’d tried doing the things I love or just going out with mates; but nothing shifted this awful mood.

One thing led to another and I ended up breaking down in the Doctor’s surgery. I’ve got depression and anxiety. They’ve put me on Citalopram anti-depressants and I’ve been signed off work.

I’m unable to leave the house at the moment due to my anxiety. Even a trip to Tesco caused me distress. I couldn’t wait to get home. I’m alternating between the sofa and my bed all day. A family member is looking after me.

Whilst I’m adamant I’ll make a full recovery, this has knocked me for six. I need to make sure I look after myself better in the future. Everything has got on top of me recently.

I’ll report back when things are better. This was to let anyone who knows me know. I’m slowly beginning to tell people.

Keep positive.

you made a giant step going to the doc and letting go of it.
You are well on the way to recovery now.
When it happened to me I had tried to cope for years. My wife made me go to the doc where like you I cracked. Once I had done it felt like a massive weight off my shoulders.
Stay strong blue.
Loads of on here have been there and are more than happy to support on here or by private mail.
 

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